There is a documentary called Up, in which there is a child named Neil, a child with a cute smile and sparkling eyes when he was a child, who dreamed of becoming an astronaut since he was a child. Later, Neil wanted to study in Oxford, but he failed and was rejected by his strict parents. Neil gave up on himself, became a porter, and later became mentally ill.

After a lot of hardships, I became a member of the club in my later years, and my life is still down and out. People commented on Neil's life like this: there were many ideas, but no positive actions. This is probably because my parents were too disloyal when I was a child. There is a relative who is a "mother-less" in the family, and no matter what the children do, they have objections. Once, Xiao Da, the 6-year-old son of "No Mom", pinched a plasticine hat for Toy Superman and was blinded by "No Mom".

Xiao Da was ridiculed and said, "Are you better than other toy designers?" Not only that. When Xiao Da drinks water from a newly bought blue cup, he will be criticized by "no mother" for "liking the new and hating the old"; Xiao Da draws with red crayons, which will be criticized by "no mother" for not looking good; When Xiao Da eats with a spoon, she will also be criticized for "no mother" and "spoon eats too slowly" ... In short, "no mother" has never been a positive word. Recently, I heard that Xiao Da has become lazy and doesn't even want to change his shoes when he goes out, let alone anything else.

"Motherless" is often hysterical, even saying that sons are born to waste their lives. Having been rejected so much, do you still have the desire to act? Parents deny their children. This is really common for families around us. Are the following words familiar to you? You may have heard of the "nail effect". When a nail is nailed into wood, it will leave a hole even if it is pulled out. Some harmful words that parents say to their children, even if they apologize afterwards, will leave a "hole" in their hearts, which may be difficult to heal all their lives.

Freud once had a theory that children's stools are often denied by adults, such as "the stool is too ugly" and "disgusting". If adults often comment on children's toilets like this, children will lack self-confidence and often deny themselves when they grow up. Because Freud believed that Baba was a child's first "creation", denying the child's creation was tantamount to denying the child. (Hey hey, don't want to pick it up and boast? Similarly, if a child's behavior and efforts are rejected in the process of growing up, then the child will definitely lack self-confidence and self-confidence in the future, and some children may be depressed and full of anger.