What happens when children know how to be grateful?
People should have a grateful heart, and those who know how to be grateful will be kinder, because it is not easy to know and understand others, so their hearts will be more open. Children who know how to be grateful will be happier in the future. No matter what they do, they have a great chance of success. Moreover, it is difficult for children who dare to love to have some jealousy, and they will also be cared for and taken care of by everyone in society. Children who know how to be grateful don't often ask others for it, but know how to return it. Children who are grateful will also be positive and have strong resistance to stress. Only when you know how to be grateful will you know how to return, and children will know how to be happy when they help others.
Become selfish and don't know how to take care of others' feelings.
If children don't know how to be grateful, they will become particularly selfish, feel that what others do is taken for granted, turn a blind eye to what others do, sneer at what others do for themselves, and don't know how to take care of others' feelings. If there is something delicious and interesting, I always enjoy it first, and I don't care whether others like it or not. Such a selfish child is unpopular. In the long run, children will be excluded and unpopular by others. In society, it is difficult for selfish children to make sincere friends.
Most of the reasons why some children become selfish are because of their parents' doting. Parents should take advantage of their children's personality, which has not yet been fully formed and must be corrected in time.
Indifferent to others
If children don't know how to be grateful, they will feel that everything in the world has nothing to do with themselves. The old man fell to the ground, and he wouldn't take the initiative to help. When others ask for help, they will ignore it and even say something very sad, such as "What's it to me?" Children who don't know how to be grateful will become indifferent in behavior. Because they don't know how to be grateful, they won't take the initiative to help others. Even if someone helped him before, the child would think that he was voluntary and had nothing to do with himself. It is difficult for such children to have good friends, whether at school or in society, because no one likes to get along with such indifferent people. When finding such a situation, parents should tell their children to be grateful. If they can do something by themselves, they must help others.
③ Not filial to parents.
Nowadays, many people in this society have no filial piety, and some children often quarrel with their parents. Parents are old, no children are filial, and even some children are unfilial and are sued by their parents. In the final analysis, it is the parents who failed to educate their children before that will cause such a thing to happen. Throughout the ages, "filial piety is the first of all virtues." If a person is unfilial, he will not treat others sincerely. A person who doesn't know how to be grateful won't be filial to his parents, because they don't have this consciousness, and parents didn't popularize this problem for their children when they were very young. Therefore, when children grow up, they will let their parents pay for themselves as they did when they were young. When parents are old, they still feel like a burden. Children have no filial piety and do not know how to be grateful to their parents. This is the saddest thing in the family, and it is also the failure of parents to educate their children.
If children don't know how to be grateful, they will become indifferent, selfish and inhuman. In the future, if you integrate into the society, you will not be able to make sincere friends, and one day you will encounter difficulties and get no help from others. Parents account for 80% of the reasons why children become like this. It is really important to educate a child who knows how to be grateful and repay kindness.
Method 1: Parents should not spoil their children too much.
The problem of spoiling children is really serious. In today's society, many parents like their children very much. They don't want to do some hard work. Some parents feel that living conditions are so good that they can't suffer their children. Even some parents often say this: "People who suffer losses cannot suffer losses on their children." In fact, there is nothing wrong with this sentence itself, but many parents have done something wrong and overindulged their children. Because of parents' doting, children will not be grateful and take their parents' efforts as their own.
Therefore, parents should not pay too much, not to spoil their children, so that children can appreciate their parents' painstaking efforts and know their parents' difficulties. In life, letting children do what they can independently can not only exercise his willpower and independence, but also let children know how to be grateful to their parents.
Method 2: Guide children to recognize themselves.
Children do not know how to be grateful. The most important thing is that children don't recognize themselves in essence, so they feel that everything their parents do for themselves is taken for granted. Children don't know themselves, so they don't mean to be grateful and won't repay their parents.
So parents should first guide their children to recognize themselves. As a child, the first thing you should be grateful for is your parents, who are kind to your child and must know how to repay your parents when guiding your child. Let the children understand that in fact, parents also need people to love and care. Don't tell them, they only know how to study. Let children know clearly that learning is the first thing for children, but it is not the only thing. Let children know clearly that they have to learn a lot besides studying, just as parents have to take care of their children besides working.
Method 3: Parents should set an example.
Part of the reason why many children don't appreciate is that some parents don't set a good example. Parents often yell at their parents in front of their children and even ignore their orders. If parents often do this, it is easy to influence their children and make them ungrateful.
Therefore, parents should set an example. In front of children, we can do something for parents, such as washing feet and serving food, so that children can learn how to repay their elders and know how to be grateful. Parents can also prepare some gifts for their parents on their birthdays, and tell their children that it is very hard to be parents. They should also let their children know themselves and learn to be grateful to their parents at close range.
Method 4: Don't blindly give the best to your children.
Parents' love for their children is selfless and great, and it is also the only thing in the world that asks for nothing in return. Parents want to give their children the best in everything they do. It can be said that they hold their children in their hearts. But it is also the practice of parents, so that children do not know how to be grateful and do not know how to return.
Therefore, parents should not blindly give the best to their children, but let them know that there are good things and of course there are bad things in this world. When teaching children to eat, the elders move chopsticks and the children move again. Explain the story of Kong Rong to the children and let the elders taste the best and the biggest. In this way, children will not be too self-centered, ungrateful and ungrateful.
Now no matter what children want, parents will try their best to satisfy their children, so most children don't know how to give back to their parents. These methods can make children know how to be grateful to their parents. Parents should know how to refuse while educating their children. When he puts forward some unreasonable demands, parents must refuse, otherwise it is easy for children to feel that everything they get is taken for granted and parents should pay for themselves. Children will not cherish things that are too easy to get, let alone appreciate their parents. Gratitude is a virtue of human beings. If children want to know how to be grateful, it can't be done overnight. Parents should give their children correct guidance and education.