But it's actually very cheap,

This cheap love,

We are destroying our next generation step by step.

A professor in Tsinghua University is indignant: The biggest deception in China education is happy education, useless academic qualifications and the release of children's nature. These three scams are distorting the growth of China children step by step.

Why do children in China generally lack the awareness of rules? Because in the eyes of many parents, children's nature is higher than rules. Children are naturally active and can run freely, make noise and speak loudly.

In China, more and more children ignore the rules, resulting in more and more tragedies.

Such bears are everywhere, and it is hard to prevent them. Behind every Xiong Haizi, there must be passive parents. For children's willfulness and ignorance, they chose to close their eyes and give up their responsibilities as parents.

In the past, "stocking education" was also very popular in the United States. Since the 1990s, this kind of "free-range education" was first abandoned among the American middle class, and a new generation of parents began to turn to the "carefully cultivated" education model.

In the mode of "meticulous education", parents' attitude is more positive, and active concern and equal dialogue are the basis of education. This model "is committed to cultivating the next generation who are independent, autonomous and introspective, so that their children can have self-esteem and have the ability to make positive choices".

In American family education, the revision of "free-range education" is either to give children more extracurricular classes or to give them more homework, so that children can bear high-intensity schoolwork pressure.

It is more equal dialogue, more active concern, consciously stimulating children's cognitive ability (such as the frequency of reading to children), and consciously training children's ability to participate in social activities (such as taking children to participate in extracurricular activities and community activities).

An interesting phenomenon is that free-range education and intensive cultivation education show obvious class differentiation in the United States. Families above the middle class pay more attention to carefully cultivated education, while families at the bottom of society prefer stocking education.

If we want to give our children a real "carefully cultivated education", then we need a more positive attitude and a more equal relationship. Of course, under the abnormal pressure of China society, parents bear the burden of supporting their families, so it is difficult to allocate more time to their children like American families.

But we can do at least three things: the number of family books or the frequency of taking children to the library, the frequency and quality of "bedtime stories" and the frequency of "family dinners".

Sometimes, good family education does not necessarily require every parent to read a lot of parenting books, nor does it reflect how much money they spend on extracurricular classes. Those positive concerns and cultivation are more reflected in a meal every night and a bedtime story.

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