? How to guide the rebellious children in high school? 1. Spend more time with your children and let them know how to be grateful. Many children take their parents' devotion and love for granted, and there is no need to be grateful and rewarded. Lack of gratitude to parents is an important reason for children's disobedience. I think it is necessary for children to feel the dedication and love of their parents, and it is necessary to cultivate their sense of gratitude.
2. Let children learn to be independent. Teenagers before and after puberty are marked by "change". The main performance of children in this period is that they are increasingly eager for independent activities. However, due to lack of life experience, they cannot correctly understand their self-esteem and can only strongly ask others to treat themselves as adults. If parents still treat them as children at this time, they will feel bored, their self-esteem will be hurt, and they will have rebellious psychology and sprout rebellious emotions.
3. Learn to listen. Whenever a child is willing to speak in front of his parents, no matter what he says, right, parents should listen patiently and let him spit it out. Then he proposed to discuss the key points.
4. empathy. Parents will think about their thoughts and behaviors on the same problem when they were young. Then, see what your son thinks. Who is not young? Who hasn't been impulsive? Sometimes when you think about it, you will be suddenly enlightened and even laugh out loud.
5. Stop nagging. Often nagging and mocking children is not the most disgusting thing for children. Let the child's brain have a protective mechanism. The more parents talk about children, the less he listens. Although the starting point is for the good of children, children who have never experienced it just don't understand the good of their parents.
6. Be gentle with your child and communicate with him like an adult. Don't treat me like your mother. You should have listened to me. I will suppress my children for you, and the more children there will be. The more disgusted you are, communicate with your child on an equal footing and calmly analyze his life as a friend.
7. Let children have secrets. Many parents want to tie their children to their clothes. They must know the child's every move. Children who reach high school are close to adults. He has his own secrets. If he shares it with you, that's the best. If he doesn't want to share it with you, don't look for his mobile phone or anything, and give him a relaxed and free growth environment.
8. Education should be moderate. On topics like love and sex, parents are advised to sit down and talk to their children at some time. Maybe the child didn't behave well at that time, but he was actually listening. Other things, when talking about others' situation.