2. Learn to empathize. Every parent grew up from a rebellious period, so it is necessary to understand the child's performance. In fact, what parents have to do is very simple. Try to think the same thing as their children, and then they will soon know the reason for their resistance. Once you find resonance, I believe that most of your parents' inner anger will disappear. After empathy, parents can know where the problem lies and naturally solve their children's rebellion.
3. Accompany the children. Rebellion is an inevitable thing, and it also reflects the loneliness of children. Maybe he just wants to attract his parents' attention with his rebellious behavior. In life, spend more time with your child and let him feel the love of his parents. In the process of companionship, the parent-child relationship will be infinitely closer, and the inner emotional problems will gradually be replaced by this kind of happiness. Parents should pay attention to the quality of companionship. Even if it is only a short ten minutes, as long as there is interaction with children, such companionship is meaningful. It can be chatting, parent-child reading, or playing games.
4. Parents should be emotionally stable. Never educate children with emotions, because this will escalate the contradiction between parents and children, and quarrels are inevitable. Such irrational behavior will only make children more resistant to their parents afterwards, and their rebellious thoughts will be more serious. When children's emotions and practices are unreasonable, parents can try to calm themselves down first and then reason with their children. A kind education method is more likely to hit the child's heart and is conducive to parent-child harmony. The best education for children should be communication between parents and children.
5. Learn to give children positive praise and encouragement. Rebellious children, they are very eager to get affirmation from others, especially from their parents. Parents' affirmation is the best and most effective support for children, so parents should pay attention to it and give their children timely and positive praise and encouragement. Increase children's self-confidence and self-identity. At the same time, we should pay attention to avoid being lectured by others, start to pay attention to saving face for children, protect their self-esteem, and don't be outspoken.
6. Allow children to make mistakes. Most parents are angry because they can't stand their children's mistakes. However, nine years old is a critical period for children to form their own opinions, and mistakes are inevitable. Parents should give their children a chance to make mistakes. Only in this way can they know the truth of "social sinister". If children were not excessively bound during the rebellious period, their resistance would not be so fierce. In addition, parents also need to be good role models for their children. It is said that the rebellious period is the stage when children have the strongest imitation ability. Parents can subtly change their children's thoughts through good words and deeds.