1. First of all, parents should set an example, and don't do things and behaviors that are contrary to the values of school education in front of their children. To put it simply, it is against the rules to teach children manners at school, but you curse at home. Then, parents should have their own right and wrong judgments, and don't let their children lean toward school. For example, sometimes children are wronged at school, and some parents will blame their children indiscriminately in order to maintain the authority of the school; In addition, parents should give full play to the functions of the family as much as possible, so that the family and the school can complement each other. For example, children study hard at school, and the family is the place where children rest and get warm from the school scene. Don't let the family become a second school, or even a school more than the school; Finally, in children's study, the family should act as an extension of the school, which is not contradictory to the third article, because it is impossible to get close to the school in study. Article 3 and Article 4 are dialectical relations, and an appropriate "degree" needs to be mastered. I hope I can help you!
First of all, if you and your children are equal and friends, participation means that you have equal rights, not condescending rights. It is said that it is necessary to kneel down when communicating with children, which is one of them; Then there is listening. Do not make assumptions. Children are often confused, but have limited experience. They don't know how to express it, and sometimes they even express the opposite meaning. Giving children time means giving parents time to listen to children's thoughts and opinions patiently and meticulously. Only when they are patient enough can they hear their truest thoughts. This is the second; Family education, with the word "home", shows the family nature. It is not a general education, and it is also different from school education. Family should have the function of family, giving children a sense of security, love, understanding and tolerance. Don't turn your family into a second school, and don't take over. Compared with school education, family education is a supplement, not a substitute, and cannot be copied. Finally, children's growth and maturity is psychologically called the process of socialization, and a large part of the process of socialization is the process of imitation. Therefore, in family education, setting an example is the most direct and effective way for parents to participate in children's growth and maturity, which is the fourth and most essential point.
In fact, you can think about it the other way around. When or what conditions are met, can children learn consciously? Children are always conscious when they play, right? Then, let's analyze it: first of all, if children want to study consciously, learning must not be too difficult for them, so difficult that they feel painful. In other words, the content of learning should be moderate, and children should not be encouraged to increase their learning tasks at will. Learning content should conform to the laws of children's psychological and intellectual development. Speaking of which, you have to go. Then, children have a clear purpose when playing, and this purpose is happiness. If children also have clear goals in their studies, they can constantly generate motivation. The goal here may be ideal for older children, but for children, parents can take them out to play and eat what they like. But I must remind you that children can't be motivated by material conditions, which will cause children's dependence deviation, and they will feel. Finally, children can play consciously because they can feel the sense of accomplishment brought by playing all the time, which is a positive reinforcement. Then, in learning, if children can feel the sense of success brought by learning and constantly strengthen themselves, they can consciously persist in learning. At the same time, parents can also give their children such a sense of success. How do parents bring such reinforcement to their children? That is to pay positive attention. Positive attention is to see what the child has done well and give it affirmation in time. As mentioned above, it is mainly spiritual affirmation. Of course, it is not just good or bad, but not bad or not. I hope I can help you!
4, the first is positive attention, that is, to see where the child is doing well. Of course, it is not just to say good words, but to avoid saying bad words; Then there is empathy. You should get used to squatting down and role-playing from the perspective of children. If I were a child, I would like my parents to do so. Of course, this is not to say that everything follows the children, but to pay attention to the methods. And respect. What do you mean? That is, don't treat children as children at any time and anywhere. In fact, children sometimes think more thoroughly than their parents. Don't ignore them just because they put forward their opinions. Finally, listen. You have to listen to your child's thoughts, dissatisfaction and emotions. Many parents find that if they don't listen to their children for a long time and don't give them the opportunity to express themselves, they will soon lose the opportunity to communicate with their children forever, and their children will get used to not expressing themselves, resulting in rebellious psychology and so on.
Such a small child, you must kneel down and think from her point of view. If I were a child, I hope my parents can communicate with me. This trick is never easy to try. Of course, it's not that parents can't discipline their children, but there are many ways. For example, if a child can't help eating snacks, then we can make an agreement with the child to replace the satisfaction brought by eating snacks with other rewards. In addition, there are some tips. If the child likes to eat candy, give it to him one by one, the child will not be satisfied, but if you give him five at a time, the child will be very satisfied, because the child has not formed a conservation at this time, just like the famous story of rewarding monkeys, giving one by one is often more than giving five at a time, but the feelings brought to the child are different. For example, children like to drink, in the eyes of children who have not formed conservation. They only know the height, but have no concept of the bottom area. If you give your child a thin and long cup, it will bring her more satisfaction than a cup with a bell mouth. If she drinks a long and thin glass, she will be satisfied. In fact, she doesn't drink much, but the cup with the bell mouth may not be enough for her to drink ten cups.
6. To cultivate children's self-reliance ability, we can basically start from the following aspects: First, start with housework, start with taking care of your own household affairs, and clean up your home. Even if you can't wash your own clothes, it's good to take them to the washing machine. Then, starting from cultivating children's healthy financial management concept, managing their own money is an independent skill that must be learned; Then there is learning planning. If a child can't plan his own life or study, he can't be independent and will always rely on others. Finally, parents should respect their children's opinions. If you want their children to learn to be independent, then they will have their own independent thinking, ideas and opinions. If parents don't respect them when expressing their ideas, how can parents expect their children to think independently? Time is pressing, detailed introduction, I hope to help you!
7. Eriksson's eight-stage theory
1. First of all, parents should set an example, and don't do things and behaviors that are contrary to the values of school education in front of their children. To put it simply, it is against the rules to teach children manners at school, but you curse at home. Then, parents should have their own right and wrong judgments, and don't let their children lean toward school. For example, sometimes children are wronged at school, and some parents will blame their children indiscriminately in order to maintain the authority of the school; In addition, parents should give full play to the functions of the family as much as possible, so that the family and the school can complement each other. For example, children study hard at school, and the family is the place where children rest and get warm from the school scene. Don't let the family become a second school, or even a school more than the school; Finally, in children's study, the family should act as an extension of the school, which is not contradictory to the third article, because it is impossible to get close to the school in study. Article 3 and Article 4 are dialectical relations, and an appropriate "degree" needs to be mastered. I hope I can help you!
First of all, if you and your children are equal and friends, participation means that you have equal rights, not condescending rights. It is said that it is necessary to kneel down when communicating with children, which is one of them; Then there is listening. Do not make assumptions. Children are often confused, but have limited experience. They don't know how to express it, and sometimes they even express the opposite meaning. Giving children time means giving parents time to listen to children's thoughts and opinions patiently and meticulously. Only when they are patient enough can they hear their truest thoughts. This is the second; Family education, with the word "home", shows the family nature. It is not a general education, and it is also different from school education. Family should have the function of family, giving children a sense of security, love, understanding and tolerance. Don't turn your family into a second school, and don't take over. Compared with school education, family education is a supplement, not a substitute, and cannot be copied. Finally, children's growth and maturity is psychologically called the process of socialization, and a large part of the process of socialization is the process of imitation. Therefore, in family education, setting an example is the most direct and effective way for parents to participate in children's growth and maturity, which is the fourth and most essential point.
In fact, you can think about it the other way around. When or what conditions are met, can children learn consciously? Children are always conscious when they play, right? Then, let's analyze it: first of all, if children want to study consciously, learning must not be too difficult for them, so difficult that they feel painful. In other words, the content of learning should be moderate, and children should not be encouraged to increase their learning tasks at will. Learning content should conform to the laws of children's psychological and intellectual development. Speaking of which, you have to go. Then, children have a clear purpose when playing, and this purpose is happiness. If children also have clear goals in their studies, they can constantly generate motivation. The goal here may be ideal for older children, but for children, parents can take them out to play and eat what they like. But I must remind you that children can't be motivated by material conditions, which will cause children's dependence deviation, and they will feel. Finally, children can play consciously because they can feel the sense of accomplishment brought by playing all the time, which is a positive reinforcement. Then, in learning, if children can feel the sense of success brought by learning and constantly strengthen themselves, they can consciously persist in learning. At the same time, parents can also give their children such a sense of success. How do parents bring such reinforcement to their children? That is to pay positive attention. Positive attention is to see what the child has done well and give it affirmation in time. As mentioned above, it is mainly spiritual affirmation. Of course, it is not just good or bad, but not bad or not. I hope I can help you!
4, the first is positive attention, that is, to see where the child is doing well. Of course, it is not just to say good words, but to avoid saying bad words; Then there is empathy. You should get used to squatting down and role-playing from the perspective of children. If I were a child, I would like my parents to do so. Of course, this is not to say that everything follows the children, but to pay attention to the methods. And respect. What do you mean? That is, don't treat children as children at any time and anywhere. In fact, children sometimes think more thoroughly than their parents. Don't ignore them just because they put forward their opinions. Finally, listen. You have to listen to your child's thoughts, dissatisfaction and emotions. Many parents find that if they don't listen to their children for a long time and don't give them the opportunity to express themselves, they will soon lose the opportunity to communicate with their children forever, and their children will get used to not expressing themselves, resulting in rebellious psychology and so on.
Such a small child, you must kneel down and think from her point of view. If I were a child, I hope my parents can communicate with me. This trick is never easy to try. Of course, it's not that parents can't discipline their children, but there are many ways. For example, if a child can't help eating snacks, then we can make an agreement with the child to replace the satisfaction brought by eating snacks with other rewards. In addition, there are some tips. If the child likes to eat candy, give it to him one by one, the child will not be satisfied, but if you give him five at a time, the child will be very satisfied, because the child has not formed a conservation at this time, just like the famous story of rewarding monkeys, giving one by one is often more than giving five at a time, but the feelings brought to the child are different. For example, children like to drink, in the eyes of children who have not formed conservation. They only know the height, but have no concept of the bottom area. If you give your child a thin and long cup, it will bring her more satisfaction than a cup with a bell mouth. If she drinks a long and thin glass, she will be satisfied. In fact, she doesn't drink much, but the cup with the bell mouth may not be enough for her to drink ten cups.
6. To cultivate children's self-reliance ability, we can basically start from the following aspects: First, start with housework, start with taking care of your own household affairs, and clean up your home. Even if you can't wash your own clothes, it's good to take them to the washing machine. Then, starting from cultivating children's healthy financial management concept, managing their own money is an independent skill that must be learned; Then there is learning planning. If a child can't plan his own life or study, he can't be independent and will always rely on others. Finally, parents should respect their children's opinions. If you want their children to learn to be independent, then they will have their own independent thinking, ideas and opinions. If parents don't respect them when expressing their ideas, how can parents expect their children to think independently? Time is pressing, detailed introduction, I hope to help you!