Problem description:
What is the difference?
Analysis:
If you are the teacher of college children, don't say it.
If I am the parent of a child who goes to college, I think I should pay attention to the following questions:
1. Cultivate young people's sense of responsibility.
Let him know that he must take due responsibility for what he has done. He must be responsible for himself, others, society and conscience. To educate him to be honest and responsible, his parents should clearly understand rewards and punishments, and they should not cover up and spoil him.
2. Respect young people's way of thinking, behavior and lifestyle.
This requires parents to know more about new things in society, communicate with young people more, and never impose their lifestyle on their children. When children are older, respect is mutual. You respect your child, and the child will respect you, respect your thoughts and ways, not exclude them.
3. Cultivate children's independent consciousness and ability.
Proud of independence, ashamed of relying on others. Encourage children to gradually cultivate their independent ability in life care, emotion and economy. Children who rely too much on their parents don't know how to add clothes when it's cold, but their parents will arrange it anyway; Emotionally fragile children, when they meet lovelorn or divorced parents, the whole person collapses; Children who are financially dependent often lack the confidence they deserve or indulge themselves. Parents should let go and let their children receive more training! Leave the legacy of 6,543,800+to children, it is better to turn children into capable people who can get 6,543,800+by themselves. What is true love for children? Parents must overcome this obstacle. In terms of financial support, regardless of the family's financial situation, the most suitable financial support for parents should be like this: full tuition+ordinary basic living expenses for eating well and wearing warm clothes. As for children, they should rent a house, buy a mobile phone, boyfriend and girlfriend, buy beautiful clothes, do hair, exercise, attend training classes, buy reference books and so on. Parents should encourage their children to find a way to solve it themselves instead of providing unconditional financial support. It can be conditional financial support, but it is best for the children to solve it themselves. The specific situation is analyzed in detail.
4. Help children know themselves and cultivate their self-confidence.
By this time, young people will be full of ambition, but also confused, idealistic, and will encounter many setbacks. How to improve children's personality and cultivate a peaceful and healthy attitude is very important. However, the most important thing is to help children know themselves and cultivate self-confidence. Parents should be objective, encourage their children and guide them scientifically.
5. Help children understand the society and cultivate their social adaptability.
Treat your child as an adult in the family, let him know what happened, invite him to participate, discuss things with you and participate in activities. Never come to "adults talk, children don't interrupt". Teach children to be human in the details of communication with relatives and friends. Discuss social phenomena with children. Encourage children to participate in social practice, internships or off-campus work, and so on.
6. Help children set ideals and set goals.
Parents should take a long-term view, think about what their children should do in the future, what direction they should take in life, communicate with their children often, don't be arbitrary, and respect their opinions. However, parents have experienced it before, and they still have to stick to it. Help set feasible goals, monitor implementation and encourage progress.
7. About sex education and marriage.
If it is a girl, her parents must teach her how to be a dignified modern woman. Love can be, love does not mean marriage, let nature take its course, but sexual behavior before engagement must be avoided. Sticking to this point is not an outdated concept. But young people are reckless and don't necessarily listen to this. It depends on the education level of their parents. If it is a boy, parents must educate him that it is ok to fall in love, have a sense of responsibility and don't play games. If you have not decided to marry a girl as your wife, then don't have sex with others. If premarital sex occurs, parents should check whether it is appropriate, try to match it up and finally get together. If your child has no sexual knowledge in college, he will feel very inferior, especially boys, and may do irresponsible things because of inferiority and curiosity. Sex education for children should be open to let them know and understand sex. Adults should not make a fuss if children solve their sexual impulses in some appropriate ways. Giving children a relaxed environment for sexual growth is more conducive to their single-mindedness in love and sex.
8. Be a child's most trustworthy friend, listen to the child's troubles, communicate more, and parents should learn more by themselves.
9. Respect your child's friends, be kind to his friends, and encourage your child to make friends with older people.
10. How to build children's gratitude?
Don't say to his face how much I have paid for you. You must live up to my expectations. Everything you do for him, he will understand in the end. Never say it in front of the child, so he will feel a lot of pressure. Needless to say, all this is what our parents are willing to do. You went to college for yourself. Parents don't want you to be an official or a dignitary They just want to support you as much as possible and make your life safe, healthy and happy. You feel worthy of your youth and your efforts.
Absolutely original, some of my own experiences. I hope the landlord can guess whether I am a parent of a college student, a college student or a college teacher. Ha ha.