1, throwing things around

Communicate correctly: "If you throw these toys, I will think that you don't like to play. What happened?

Wrong way and principle: don't say: don't throw things!

Principle: Children don't do what their parents want to say, but let their parents know their behavior and tell adults what they think.

Step 2 hit people with your hands

Correct communication: "It is normal for you to be angry, but it is wrong to hit people."

Wrong way and principle: don't say: try again!

Principle: Let children understand that it is right for people to have emotions, and it is wrong to express them. It is wrong to hit people, hurt others and hurt yourself. ?

3. Go against your parents

Correct communication: "you have to xxx first. Or xxx first

Wrong way and principle: Don't say: Go now. ......

Principle: For children, losing temper is a manifestation of their independent consciousness, which can give them a smart choice, not to let them choose to do or not, but to choose when or how to do it.

4, can't listen to words

Correct communication: "I'll speak first, and then you repeat it in my ear, so that I can know if you're listening."

Wrong way and principle: Don't say: I have told you so many times, have you listened or not?

Principle: Speak at different volumes, and children will remember this because it is very interesting. Repetition can also have a consolidation effect. The louder you yell at them, the less they want to listen!

5. Emotional breakdown and crying

Correct communication: "If green is calm, yellow is depressed and red is angry, I will walk from the yellow room to the red room. Which room are you in now? " How can I go back to the green room?

Wrong way and principle: don't say: I count to 3,2, 1, you stop!

Principle: Giving children intuitive and vivid emotions and concretizing abstract emotions can effectively help children manage their emotions.

Step 6 do something wrong

Correct communication. We can find a place to calm down.

Wrong way and principle: don't say: enough! You stand over there and don't come out without my permission.

Principle: It is more important for children to know what they have done wrong than meaningless punishment.

7. Don't study hard

Communicate correctly: "this is difficult, isn't it?" Then we'll take a break 17 minutes and come back.

Wrong way and principle: don't say: don't be distracted, always not serious.

Principle: According to the formula of learning productivity, the best effect is to rest 17 minutes. It can help children stay away from the stressful environment, concentrate and start over. Children can find their attention in this way when doing homework and playing the piano.

8. Cry in public

Correct communication: "Let's find a place where no one is there and solve this problem."

Wrong way and principle: Don't say: Shame on you!

Principle: In many cases, if you scold your child twice, things may get worse. Finding a suitable place to solve this problem can not only avoid further deterioration, but also have a better ending.