However, the poorer the family, the more they give their children these "rice bowls", the less they can be masters of their own affairs as soon as possible, and instead they become unfilial sons. There was a video online before, in which a couple of migrant workers took their son to a Japanese ramen restaurant to eat noodles. Perhaps because of the high price, three people ordered a bowl of noodles. After the noodles came, the couple let the fashionable son eat first, and the son didn't refuse, just thinking about himself.
After the children finished eating, the parents simply drank the remaining soup and left. In this regard, netizens are also a little uncomfortable after reading it. Some people say that children are not sensible, and some people say that there is something wrong with parents' education methods. In fact, the more parents give priority to their children, the more children take it for granted. When they grow up, they will not be grateful to their parents or even filial to them.
The poorer the family, the easier it is to give children these bowls of rice, and it is also easier to raise unfilial sons (1) for children to eat first.
Just like the story we said above, parents have a bite to eat and can take their children to eat first. It seems that great parents love their mother's love, but after a long time, children feel that they should eat first, and they will not see their parents smiling and watching him eat with an empty stomach without being grateful. When such children grow up, they will not only be grateful for their parents' efforts, but also will not know how to consider their parents first, which is inevitably unfilial.
(2) Give preferential treatment to children.
The poorer the family, the more parents care about their children, and they can't wait to give them all the delicious food. Children's rice bowls are always different from their parents'. Some parents will give their children the best meat and eat fat meat or vegetables themselves. Some parents always let their children have one more egg in their rice bowl than themselves. But after a long time, parents will find that children will form this habit of "preferential treatment", and the habit is not considered by parents.
(3) Let the children eat everything first
If a poor family with a large population cooks some meat, some parents will not let the elderly eat it on the grounds that their mouths are bad, and then give the meat to their children. Or simply the old man thinks so, thinking that children should eat everything first when they are young. But this is also a particularly wrong approach. First of all, I have not been filial to my parents. How should I educate my children? Moreover, the doting of the elderly will only raise spoiled children.
In this way, when children grow up, they also feel that the old man has a bad mouth and will not give the meat to their parents, and will gradually become selfish. In fact, this is all influenced by the bad example of his parents, who love their children but cultivate them into unfilial sons. Therefore, children's words and deeds are influenced by their parents. When children are young, parents must strengthen guidance and attach importance to gratitude education.
How should parents educate their children? First of all, parents should not dote on their children and do their children's bidding, so they can't cultivate their children into arrogant people. Secondly, parents should do a good job in educating their children, help them develop good habits and lifestyles, and help them develop good personality habits from bit by bit. Finally, parents should set an example for their children and prevent themselves from becoming negative teaching materials for their children.
Conclusion:
No matter how poor our family is, we can't be grateful to our children. Be careful that children don't honor their parents when they grow up. In this regard, parents should set an example to honor the elderly, set a good example for their children, and let them learn to understand their parents' efforts and learn to be grateful, instead of taking themselves as the center and getting used to it.