Every year, I always say six words at the freshman parent-teacher conference. If you do all these six words, you will be a competent mom and dad.

These six words are:

wait for

Parents should have patience to accompany their children to grow up slowly, and accept this reality: children can't move quickly at once, form all kinds of good habits at once, and do everything well at once-otherwise it will be too easy for the parents.

ask about

When children come home from school, talk to them and ask them what happened at school, so that they can feel their parents' concern. Asking is very important. Some parents play mobile phones when they come home from work and never communicate with their children. If you are really busy at work, spend more time with your children on weekends.

I often say that parents must accompany their children to grow up and not be lazy.

encourage

We must encourage our children more. Good boy likes to brag. Don't always compare your child with others, it will only hurt your child.

These six words are easy to say, but it is really difficult to do well in five years of primary school.

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Three things that parents of primary school students should do well

Personally, I think that in primary school, parents should not pay too much attention to their children's academic performance. Almost all parents want their children to have the best grades, but it is impossible for every child to have the best grades in a group. As teachers, we understand that there are differences between children.

Compared with academic performance, I think three things are much more important to parents in primary school.

The first important thing

interest

It is very important to cultivate children's interest. If children are interested in learning, they will have stamina. If they are not interested in learning, they are finished.

This interest includes both interest in learning and interest outside of learning.

Parents can help their children develop one or two hobbies when they are young. You can have extensive contact at first. There are dozens of extended courses in our school, including baseball, tea, wind music, folk music, dance, bodybuilding and so on, hoping to cultivate children's extensive hobbies, let them contact everything and find the most suitable and favorite.

Very young children may not know much about it, but parents have the responsibility to expose their children to different things and let them know whether they really like it or not.

Of course, if you find that your child really doesn't like it or is not good at it, don't force it. Help the child find something he is interested in and then encourage him to stick to it.

The second important thing

habit

Entering primary school is a big change for children. Kindergarten is mainly about cultivation, and primary school is mainly about learning-learning life has officially begun.

Some parents ask their children if they want to accompany their homework. My personal opinion is that it is necessary for parents to accompany their children at the beginning of their study career, one month faster and two months slower, and then help them develop habits before letting go.

Children must be helped to form good study habits. Some parents complain that their children are careless and slow to respond. In fact, these are all because they did not develop good habits when they were young. If you don't develop good habits, your study will be greatly affected after junior high school.

So what study habits should we develop? I think one is the habit of arranging time reasonably, the other is the habit of listening carefully in class, and the third is the habit of reading and thinking independently.

Next, I want to talk about the cultivation of reading habits in particular.

Extracurricular reading seems to have nothing to do with academic performance, but it is a very important accumulation. The ancients said, "You can recite 300 Tang poems if you are familiar with them, but you can't write them", because if you accumulate them to a certain extent, they will explode.

After so many years of teaching, if there is one thing in common among the excellent children I have come into contact with, that is: they like reading.

Let me give you an example. There used to be a child named Tang in our school, and later she was called "Harvard girl". Her father is a Chinese teacher. What impressed me deeply was that he asked Tang to recite every text in the Chinese textbook, because reciting helps language accumulation and oral expression. He also pays special attention to his daughter's reading. They don't have a TV set at home, and the whole family reads books together every night. Parents read newspapers or prepare lessons while children read books.

Some parents think reading is dispensable, so they would rather sign up for various training courses: piano, dance, art ... The weekend is full, and when they have extra time, they will think of letting their children read. Some parents equate reading with Chinese, but reading can not only promote Chinese learning, but also promote children's comprehensive quality and understanding of the world.

Children's reading habits are cultivated by parents, and children's reading habits can also be cultivated. Moreover, after this habit is formed, it is very beneficial to the growth of children and will benefit for life.

To cultivate children's interest in reading, we can start with picture books and gradually transition to written books. Picture books are a good starting point for reading, and parents should accompany their children to read them-the company of parents is very important. How can children fall in love with reading when you let them read in the room, watch TV or play mahjong in the hall? Parents should set an example and be the first role model for their children.

Parents should remember that when cultivating their children's new habits and interests, they have to sacrifice some of their rest time and entertainment time. Parents must grow up with their children and not be lazy.

The third important thing

trend

In years of education, we have found a phenomenon that a happy marriage of parents and a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere are conducive to cultivating children's sunny mentality.

I advise parents not to bring home the pressure of work, and not to let the relationship between husband and wife and other factors affect their children. Parents' feelings will affect their children's personality, so parents should strive to create a warm and happy family environment, which will be very helpful for their children's personality development.

The second point of cultivating children's character is that parents should be willing to spend time and energy on their children. The education of children should be the biggest responsibility of parents, but many young parents leave their children to grandparents because they are busy with work or "playful". This will also have an impact on the child's character cultivation.

Our school organizes parents' open days to choose weekends, and hopes that both parents can attend, not grandparents, not even nannies. I often say to my parents: I must grow up with my children, so that I can feel the happiness of being a parent.

The third point of cultivating children's sunny personality is to broaden their horizons. Vision determines the realm. If parents have the conditions and time, they can take their children out to see more.

Many of our parents pay more and more attention to this aspect, and are willing to take their children out to travel or visit various exhibitions and participate in various activities. In fact, when preparing for a trip or visit, children can also participate.

Every year, the "June 1st" activity in our school will disrupt the grade, so that older children and children can team up to participate in the activity, and children can plan their trips, design routes and buy tickets. , but also make a safety plan in case they get separated from the team, and so on. These are also a kind of training and exercise for children's ability.

In my opinion, it would be very good if parents don't care about their children in primary school, but cultivate their psychological sunshine, cultivate their hobbies and interests, and are also interested in learning.

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Three key periods of primary school

Generally speaking, primary schools have three critical periods.

The first one was when I first entered primary school, which was also the most important period.

At this time, parents need to do three things: cultivate their children's interests, study habits and good personality. I have talked about this in detail before, so I won't expand it any more.

The second is the third grade, which is a turning point.

Usually, students' grades are diverted in the third grade. Children who have been leading in grade one or two may not be able to continue to lead in grade three, but children who are among the best in grade three will generally achieve excellent results in grade four or five.

This is mainly because some children with good grades in grades one and two have learned some subject knowledge before entering school, and they are not necessarily children with strong learning ability. For those children who don't study in advance, as long as they have good study habits, high interest in learning and strong learning ability, they will catch up slowly in the third grade. In addition, from the third grade, the difficulty of subject content has improved, and the requirements for learning ability have become stronger. Therefore, the third grade will adjust the diversion.

For parents in grade three, if their children encounter some difficulties at this stage, they must give them encouragement, increase their confidence and help them through this stage.

The third critical period is when the fifth grade is approaching graduation.

For some parents, it is early to the fourth grade. At this stage, parents' main problem is anxiety, because many parents begin to choose schools in the face of further studies.

My advice to parents at this stage is not to arrange their children's time too full. Because of anxiety, many parents fill up the weekend by making up lessons, but in fact, what is needed at this time is the right medicine, not just filling up the time.

If you feel that your child needs tutoring, you can make appropriate arrangements according to your child's specific situation. Moreover, it is necessary to give children more free time and cultivate their ability to manage time.

There are also some parents who let their children learn Olympic Mathematics in order to choose a school. I teach math. In my opinion, the olympiad is not suitable for everyone. Learning well is the exercise of children's thinking ability, and learning badly may stifle children's interest in mathematics. Therefore, parents must abandon the idea of utilitarianism and consider whether to study Olympiad from the perspective of children's growth, not from the perspective of school choice.

Regarding the choice of school, I think we must choose the one suitable for children, and the one suitable is the best.