Envy is everywhere. It is like a poisonous thorn in the child's heart, which interferes with the healthy growth of the child.
Because of jealousy, children will regard their friends as enemies, thus staying away from them and putting themselves in an isolated situation.
At the same time, children who lack social cognition will become more blind, unable to recognize the advantages and disadvantages, and thus unable to draw strength from people who are stronger than themselves, motivate themselves to be proactive and hinder their progress.
As parents, it is necessary to recognize the causes of children's jealousy in order to guide children in a targeted manner.
Understand the causes of children's jealousy
Limited by the level of knowledge, it is normal for children to have things that others don't or can't have, which often leads to a psychological change from envy to jealousy.
Parents should have more contact with their children at ordinary times and keep abreast of the direct causes of their children's jealousy.
Only by understanding the causes of children's jealousy can we solve children's jealousy psychology from specific things.
This is the premise of solving children's jealousy.
Listen to children's psychological feelings
Children's jealousy is intuitive, real and even natural. Unlike the jealousy of adults, there are many social factors. It is only an instinctive psychological reaction that children can't realize their wishes.
Therefore, parents should not blindly criticize their children's jealous behavior, but should stand in their children's perspective, make effective and patient emotional connections with their children, gain their trust, and be willing to tell their true feelings.
Parents need to listen to their children's distress, understand their children's painful feelings because their wishes cannot be realized, and let their children vent their bad emotions caused by jealousy.
Help children analyze the reasons for the gap with others.
Children's way of thinking is mainly based on concrete images, and generally do not have the ability to comprehensively analyze things.
They tend to simply blame themselves or the object of jealousy for their jealousy, regardless of other factors.
Therefore, parents should help their children comprehensively analyze the reasons for the estrangement between children and jealous objects.
Whether these gaps can be shortened, and the ways and methods to shorten the gap, so that children can correctly compare with others, shorten the actual gap in a positive way, and finally resolve the inner imbalance.
Cultivate children to develop an open-minded and optimistic character
Parents should educate their children to understand the objective differences between people and let them know that everyone has everyone's advantages and strengths.
But at the same time, everyone also has everyone's shortcomings and deficiencies. It is impossible and unnecessary to be better than others in any respect.
Guide children to give full play to their strengths, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and learn to face up to and appreciate the strengths and strengths of others in life and study.
Only in this way can we learn from others' advantages and strengths, make up for our own shortcomings, and win the applause of others with our own success.
Jealousy is an inevitable problem in children's growth. This is not terrible. The key is how to overcome it. Let us use reason and patience to easily unload the "burden" in our children's hearts.