Family is the place where children receive education at the earliest, and parents are the teachers who receive education at the earliest. As parents, we really need to keep learning, improve ourselves and be smart parents who will "love" their children!
This book tells in detail how to educate a child, how to make the child full of vitality, how to create a good environment for the child, the responsibilities of parents, the upbringing of the child and so on. It involves all aspects of children's education.
Now most children are only children, and they are bullies at home. Our parents give their children the best food and clothes, help them do everything they need to do, meet their children's requirements to the greatest extent, and never say "no" in front of them.
Excessive connivance of grandparents and parents leads children to be self-centered and develop the habit of reaching for clothes and making ends meet. Many parents use "children are still young" as an excuse to substitute or not correct. If this situation is allowed to develop, there will be more and more problems in children's behavior, and children's dysplasia will be inevitable, which will have a negative impact on children's future life.
It is easy to be a parent, but it is too difficult to be a competent parent. Teacher Chen Heqin pointed out from a strategically advantageous position that family education is the work of shaping the soul, and what is needed is "exquisite carving". Rough reprimands and abuse can only be as counterproductive as storms. Especially for teenagers, it will cause serious rebellious psychology and cause harm to children's body and mind.
Parents' painstaking efforts are often not necessarily understood by children, which requires us to have enough patience and perseverance as parents. I believe that praising children will make their excellent qualities grow like mushrooms after rain.
Some parents are too impatient to know what rewards and punishments are. To err is human, and children should be taught rationally when they make mistakes. Not all beating and scolding education can really convince children. More often, we need to correct children's mistakes and improve their excellent quality in a calm and peaceful family life. Parents, as their children's first teachers, should give their children more trust and help and encourage them to do what they want bravely.
Teacher Chen Heqin believes that parents' moral conduct, speech and manners are imperceptibly affecting their children's life. "its body is right, but it does not make; The phrase "he is not upright, although he does not obey" shows the importance of setting an example! A good example helps to establish the prestige of parents in their children's minds, so it is very important to establish a good parent-child relationship.
What should I do? In my opinion, we should learn to listen first. Especially when children say unpleasant things, let them vent as much as possible, comfort them, or respond to them with body language. When a child tells a topic that parents are not interested in, parents should show enough patience, encourage the child to go on and don't interrupt the child.
Listening is the premise of communication. Only by listening to the child's heart can we know what the child is thinking, paying attention to and needing. Only in this way can we give targeted care and help to children and make future communication smoother.
Secondly, we should understand, respect and trust our children. Everyone is an independent individual, and love for children should not be control and demand, but acceptance and respect. When we accept everything about children, they can feel respect and understanding, trust their parents more and open their hearts to them.
Children are the future of the motherland and the hope of the family. Good family education is very important for children's growth. Parents should work together, study together, and create a family education environment conducive to the healthy growth of children with scientific methods and positive attitudes, so that family education can give full play to its advantages. Only in this way can our children become better!