Teacher Yin's books are very grounded, without the condescending advice of experts, and some describe how she raised her children from the mother's point of view.
So the content of this book is easy to understand, but I didn't have a deep understanding of education at that time, and I didn't understand the essence of Yin Jianli's teacher education.
I only learned one thing from books, that is, I should read more books to my children and cultivate their reading habits.
So when my daughter was 3 years old, I began to buy books and read 10-30 minutes intermittently every day. Slowly, children became more and more interested in telling stories.
At that time, I was a simple and rude mother. Sometimes my children make me angry. I even threatened to throw away her books, and my children were in a hurry.
In fact, children really love books by nature. The key is that we should seize this opportunity.
In a blink of an eye, my daughter is already a fourth-grade child. When she was a child, the effect of parent-child reading began to stand out. At least, she is getting more and more familiar with writing.
Not long ago, I wrote "My Pet" with vivid words, which made me sigh.
Last summer vacation, I finished reading 654.38+00,000 words in one month. I was shocked at the statistics.
Because of the requirements of their school, the reading volume of sixth grade children in one semester is only 550 thousand words.
So, as Teacher Yin said:
A child who loves reading is like being lit by a magic wand.
My daughter once said:
Knowledge is like an ocean. The more you know, the more you will find the vastness of the ocean.
And this "vastness" keeps her curious to know more about the world.
As long as she can always keep her love and curiosity about the world, I believe it is impossible for her to commit suicide by disgusting society or depression.
Teacher Yin also believes that a child who reads a lot is not worried about his children getting worse.
She once said:
Children who read a lot are like the sea. Children's self-purification ability is very strong, and they will judge what is nutrition and what is garbage. And it's always the puddle that stinks.
This shows that reading can cultivate children's correct values and right and wrong. Children with a reading background will exude the qualities of truth, goodness and beauty.
Teacher Yin's "A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher" gave me some reading enlightenment:
One: Parents lead by example.
If children want to love books, parents must first hold them.
If parents just brush their mobile phones as soon as they get home, and then shout orders from time to time, I'm sorry, how can children fall in love with reading?
Some parents like watching TV, playing games or playing mahjong. When they are having fun, they ask their children to do their homework.
Then even if the child is forced to do homework by your "arrogance", it is not reconciled.
In this state of mind, the effect of learning can be imagined.
Many people say that children are copies of their parents, so the best way to make children what they are is to make them what they are.
"Being a parent means cultivating yourself."
Children lead us to study as parents, and only when we have children can we really start to grow up.
Since I had children, my learning path has started again, including pedagogy, psychology and traditional Chinese medicine.
The more I learn, the more I like what my daughter says. The more you study, the more you find the vastness of the world, so there is no end to learning. Learning has never been related to age.
We might as well find our own interest and read this book.
After reading it, by the way, tell your children what feelings this book has brought you, what knowledge you have learned, and let them know that the original book can bring us a lot.
Two: You have books at home.
My fifth-grade nephew couldn't write a composition, and later he changed his classmate's composition book to his own for fear of being scolded by the teacher.
After being discovered, the teacher called to tell her brother-in-law that the child copied. The poor nephew was beaten up.
Do you mean that the fight will solve the problem? Children don't like reading since childhood, there are few books at home, and parents rarely take their children out to play. He said piteously:
"I just can't write it. I didn't go out to play, and I didn't know what to write. "
My brother-in-law once complained to me that children don't like reading at all. As a result, he said reading children's textbooks. May I ask?
When you were a child, would you read there with a textbook?
Then he said that he didn't even read books at home. You see, I bought him some story books before.
What did the experts say? I remember when my daughter was in the first grade, Gao Ziyang, a special Chinese teacher in Jiangsu Province, said in the lecture:
Children must read 1000 books before graduating from primary school.
He also said something that I still remember. He said:
Nowadays, it seems that parents don't need money to buy a car or a house. If they can spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy books for their children, their knowledge will not be enough for a lifetime.
In fact, if you think about it, is this the truth? There is a saying that it is better to give children a study room than a school district room.
We spend 200-300 yuan doesn't blink. If you buy books for your children for 200-300 yuan a month, your bookshelf will soon be full.
I buy books almost once a month or two, probably around 200 yuan. After three years, my family has three bookcases, and it is roughly estimated that there are 1000 books.
At this time, many parents will ask:
He doesn't read so many books that I bought. Don't worry about this. Maybe one day he will turn them out by himself.
At that time, I spent more than 300 yuan to buy a set of 60 fairy tale books when I was engaged in a 50% discount activity on Dangdang. At first, the children were very interested, but I didn't read much after I told them.
Results Last summer vacation, my daughter took the initiative to turn it out and read these 60 books 2-3 times on average.
Of course, when buying books, don't be too utilitarian. What you buy are world famous works and so on. The language is obscure, which makes it a headache for children who don't like reading.
We should observe children more to see what they are interested in, and then buy them in a targeted way, so that children can buy them themselves.
Three: insist on companionship
Many people will agree with this statement:
Companionship is the best gift for children.
This kind of companionship definitely does not mean that you accompany him with your mobile phone. You spend a day with him looking at his mobile phone, it is not as good as your high-quality company for half an hour every day.
This kind of companionship means that you have to participate and interact with your children.
Remember Wu Yishu, the champion of the poetry conference?
Wu Yishu, who was only 16 years old, beat Dr. chen more of Peking University and was admitted to Tsinghua 20 19 with a score of 6 13.
His father said in an interview that he turned off his phone at 4: 30 every afternoon and accompanied his children to study for more than ten years.
At that time, did you still think that this father didn't have to socialize at work? Will it affect his career?
As a result, I recently learned that her father's name is Leo, and he is a partner of Hejun Law Firm.
When it comes to time with children, many parents may say that they are busy, but few people are busier than barristers.
Therefore, the key to the problem lies in how you choose and adjust.
Of course, most of us may not be able to cultivate the number one scholar, so let's spend half an hour every day with our children.
Children aged 3-6 need their parents' company most. It is a beautiful picture to take out the books that children love to read and let them nest in their arms at this moment.
In the process of parent-child reading, the child not only listens to stories, but also feels the love of his parents in the process.
I heard that what children envy most is having a parent who can tell stories to themselves.
In fact, this kind of parent-child reading doesn't mean that you have to stick to it every day for 365 days. If you can do it three times a week, children will feel that reading has become an indispensable part of life in a few years.
Many of us actually know that reading is very important for children, and we also know that we should read more. The difficulty lies in how to start and how to persist.
Interest is the best teacher.
Therefore, you must read the books you are interested in first, whether it is children or yourself, you must choose the books you like.
For example, if you like reading novels, start with novels; Children like comics and picture books, so let's start with these. Once you start, you're halfway there.
Of course, there are some specific methods. Due to the limited space, I won't introduce it today. Remember to pay attention to me if you are interested and discuss it together.
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This article was first published in "Love Space", which is not easy to be original and plagiarism will be investigated.