After reading Parents Do Right, Children Are Excellent 1 Children's anxiety often makes me catch up on some family education books, but most of them are on a whim when reading, and I am not shocked after reading them. In order to create a warm winter vacation, I still learn to improve the connotation. Someone recommended a blog address in a group of tutors, and I met Mr. Kevin·Z. So I can't wait to buy his book. One of them is "Parents are right, children are excellent", which has a great influence on me.
Opening the preface, the first question resonated with me: Yes, our generation, when parents are bored, all look forward to their free development, but how can we parents be so tired! The author puts it well: as long as you have wisdom, every parent can cultivate their children into talents. Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge and education! Seeing this, I found that the views expounded in this book coincide with mine. Now I am interested and read the whole book in just one night. Yes, education is a science, and Mr. Kevin·Z is doing it with his heart.
I used to think that children's education was a headache. As a result, the child developed a free and loose character. When the child reaches puberty, there is nothing I can do. From this book, I found that there are many experiences and methods worth learning. "Parents do right, children are excellent", which puts forward a new educational viewpoint, that is, to be a wise parent. Comparing the ten principles in Kevin·Z's book, I feel that I really belong to the kind of parents with knowledge and no culture.
The first is the principle of equality and respect, which is the basic principle.
Since my child was very young, I thought I was equal to him. Now it seems that I haven't really put my heart into it. Indeed, as Kevin·Z said, we have always regarded sitting down and reasoning with children as equality and respect for children. The premise of equality and respect is "trust" and "trust" I asked myself, do I trust and trust my children completely? No, I'm really ashamed. I am always worried. I remember that in the first semester, my child had a serious rebellious period of youth. In those six months, I couldn't wait to stare at him every day. Looking back now, the children themselves are adjusting and trying to get rid of the influence of rebellion. In fact, sometimes I can feel his efforts. When he is in a bad mood, he will tell me in advance: Mom, when I am angry, leave me alone. But can you rest assured? It turns out that worry is unnecessary. Finally, he adjusted himself. I will firmly remember the sentence "If you don't believe in children, who will believe in your children?" .
Let's take a look at ABC principle-obedience principle.
The child is so old that we never force him to take any interest classes. He chose all the interest classes, but they all gave up halfway, and none of them made it to the end. I always say that my children have not grown up and can't persist in doing things. According to Kevin·Z, our parents didn't help us well, and the method was wrong. Parents should think from their children's point of view. "Six-character mantra" is a good method! It's called playing hard to get. I'll try it sometime.
Principle of Unity of Knowing and Doing-Principle of Action
The so-called unity of knowing and doing is to do it. Be a good parent, truly equal and respect children. Only good parents can have good children. A good parent must set an example for his children, and words and deeds are more important than words and deeds.
This book makes me realize that children's problems are parents' problems, and I am also very eager to master teaching methods and skills through my own study and efforts to help children. I will try to be a smart parent for my family and children. It's never too late to mend. However, this holiday, because of my change, the children have made great progress.
After reading "Parents are right, children are excellent", 2 children are the pride of every parent! Similarly, children's anxiety often makes me catch up on some books on family education, but most of them are on a whim when reading, and then they will calm down after reading. In order to create a warm summer vacation, I am still studying and improving my connotation. The teacher also recommended a book about family education. The parents did the right thing, and the children were excellent. It was written by Kevin·Z. This book really influenced me!
Opening the preface, the first question resonated with me: Yes, our generation, when parents are bored, all look forward to the sky and develop freely, but why are we parents so tired? Teacher Zheng said it well: As long as you have wisdom, every parent can cultivate their children into talents, but wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge and education! Yes, education is a science, and Mr. Zheng is doing it with his heart. From this book, I found that there are many experiences and methods worth learning.
This book puts forward a new educational viewpoint, that is, to be a smart parent. According to the teacher's principle, I found myself a knowledgeable and uneducated parent.
Let's talk about the principle of equality and respect mentioned by Teacher Zheng.
Since the child was very young, I felt that he and I were equal. I feel like a big sister as my children grow up day by day. Now it seems that I didn't do it with my heart. I have always regarded sitting down and reasoning as equality and respect for children. But I didn't clearly understand the premise of equality and respect "trust" and "trust". Ask yourself, do I trust and trust my children completely? No, I'm really ashamed. I am always worried. In my eyes, he has always been a child, and many things dare not let him try. Now I feel that I don't love him, but I will hurt him to some extent. Under the care of my parents, he won't be as strong as he thought. Many things are not that children can't do it, but that we are reluctant to let him do it. After reading Mr. Zheng's works, this summer vacation, I asked my children to do something that I could, only to find that children can really do well! That's great. I really appreciate the teacher's recommendation. Teacher Zheng really taught me a lot! "If you don't trust your children, who will?" I will keep this sentence in mind!
Let's talk about the principle of obedience mentioned in Teacher Zheng's book.
The child is so old that we never force him to take any interest classes. All the interest classes are his own choice, but most of them give up halfway. I always say that my children have no long-term nature and can't persist in doing things. According to the teacher, our parents didn't help us well, and the methods were wrong. Parents should think from their children's point of view. "Six-character mantra" is a good method! It's called playing hard to get. I'll try it sometime.
Then talk about the principle of action mentioned in Teacher Zheng's book.
The so-called unity of action and action means doing it. To be a good parent, we must truly respect children equally. Only good parents can have good children. Good parents must set an example for their children, and example is more important than words.
This book makes me realize that children's problems are parents' problems, and I am also very eager to master teaching methods and skills through my own study and efforts to help children. I will try to be a smart parent for my family and children. This summer vacation, because of my change, the child's performance is really good! I didn't expect children to be so good! I hope my children and I can grow up together and make progress together! His future will be better!
I watched "Parents are right, children are excellent" 3. I have heard of Kevin·Z for a long time, knowing that he is a famous education expert and a pioneer and practitioner in the field of parent education in China, but I have never read his books and educational thoughts carefully. By chance, I was lucky enough to hear Wen Jiezi's lecture on "Parents Are Right, Children Are Excellent" on TV channel. Then I immediately bought this book and thought about it carefully after reading it. Unexpectedly, I found that he could explain simple things and well-known educational knowledge in a popular and profound way, which made people who read his articles deeply inspired, suddenly enlightened their hearts and unconsciously reflected on their own educational methods.
For example, his education "three sentences": the first sentence: "Son, father and mother have no ability, rely on yourself." The second sentence: "If you go out, it won't hurt anyone. If you go out, don't go back to this home." The third sentence: "Go out boldly, there is really no food to eat. My parents will take care of you when you go home." These three sentences are exactly what my parents often say to us. In recent years, I sometimes feel that their parents' requirements for their children are so simple. Why can't we train them according to their specialties? There are always some complaints in my heart. Mr Kevin·Z hit the nail on the head. Is virtue important or just important? Mr Kevin·Z said, "Most parents say morality is very important. In real life, it is said that virtue is important every day, but what they pay attention to is the talent of children! Let children play the piano, dance, and learn the Olympics ... I always say that playing the piano, like being a thief, has basic fingering and needs constant practice.
Being a thief is also a talent, but only on the basis of virtue can we attach importance to talents. "When I read this, the confused problems in the past will be solved. What the old three sentences teach us is actually the foundation of being a man and education. What our parents ignored, abandoned and even despised has actually taken root in our hearts and unconsciously guided and influenced our lives. But we don't want to pass this idea on to the next generation. In fact, I think happiness is really simple. Master Xingyun, a famous Buddhist master, said that all evil obstacles stem from our desires, so it is better to enjoy the happiness of letting go.
I think the education of children is the same. In addition to learning skills, what is more important is the sentence that is regarded as a joke by most people-"it is a correct view of values, life and happiness." For example, when our parents talk about children's problems, they often quote to deny the failure of education. Actually, we just want to prove ourselves right. How can we be wrong if we work so hard? Wrong, all in children, all in this competitive society. As a result, the mentality was balanced, but the child was lost.
Looking back on my father's education, he gave us a lot of free space since childhood. Even if I don't do well in the exam, I have always encouraged me to work harder next time, never blaming, never beating and cursing. That's why I am always full of confidence and keep making progress. Now, I sometimes teach my children to go to extremes. Children always praise when they are obedient. If you don't listen, you will lose your temper, scold or even fight.
This time, I read Mr. Kevin·Z's book and his lecture, and I was deeply inspired. Knowing that the child has a problem shows that he has room for improvement. Find problems and solve them. Thanks to Teacher Kevin·Z, we suddenly have a direction in the education of children who feel more and more overwhelmed. We should start from us and grow up with our children, especially looking up at the stars and keeping our feet on the ground.