In life, too many mothers work hard and can even use the word "all-around". In their hearts, they try their best to take care of their children and give them everything they think is good. This kind of maternal love will undoubtedly move people, but mothers forget to ask: Do children really need it? Many times, maternal love is too heavy, but it will put pressure on children.
Too much love will kill children's nature and ensure their health, but it will break their wings to fly independently. Almighty mothers, they are just moved by themselves and the people around them, but they can't educate excellent children. Because Superman mother controls too much, she always uses love to limit her children's development. Seriously, if you want your children to succeed in the future, your mother should learn to be lazy.
Only by educating children well and learning to be lazy properly can we become smart mothers.
1, don't chase "hello"
Four-year-old Guoguo still lives a "young master" life, even eating is chased by her mother. I just want to say, did he enjoy this honor when he lived in kindergarten? It's understandable to worry about children being hungry, but the behavior of chasing after feeding is really incomprehensible.
The basic survival skill should be to fill your stomach, right? How can children learn other things if they need the help of adults even for such a small thing as eating? Sometimes, letting children pick up spoons or chopsticks to eat by themselves is also a way of education to avoid going hungry in the future.
2. Don't "rush" to talk.
Every time the bean speaks, the mother will rush to answer, always feeling that he can't speak clearly and worried that the child's expression is wrong. After a long time, my mother found that the beans didn't want to talk again and had been waiting for her help. Indeed, the mother was in a hurry to talk and gave up the idea that the child wanted to talk.
You know, it is understandable that children will not express their ideas before they are two years old, because their cognition is limited. What parents should do is to encourage their children to talk more, let him develop the habit of loving to talk and express, and then accumulate more expression experience. If you blindly fight and stop, it will only make children lazy and dependent.
3. Don't make friends for children
When taking Kerry out, my mother's favorite thing is to "strike up a conversation" and always want to find more good friends for him. In fact, there is nothing wrong with mom's idea. She wants Kerry to quickly integrate into group activities. But I don't agree with my mother. You know Kelly is the one who makes friends, not her.
Children have different personalities and different abilities in unfamiliar environments. Parents should encourage more, instead of taking the initiative to "clear the way" for their children. Making friends should be done by children independently. After all, the next school life needs him to deal with it alone.
Summary: The less adults do, the more places children need to do. Very simple truth, I hope every mother can understand. From beginning to end, we should believe that "self-reliance" is the best growth rule. When a child has unlimited skills, he can still live well without the protection and assistance of his mother.