After reading the book "Being poor and busy is a life you don't know how to sort out", it is like listening to a 40-year-old predecessor talk about his changes and changes in the past ten years, so sincere and warm. From the age of thirty to forty, it took the author ten years to finally find the value of life. He wrote that he had experienced a monthly salary of 5,000 when he was drifting in the North. He is afraid of being fired from the company every day, of being mediocre, taking part-time jobs and constantly changing jobs. He just wants to make money one day, but he doesn't know where the opportunity is. Yes, like thousands of ordinary people in Qian Qian, he had a painful and confused period. Do you feel the same way? At the age of 25, he has nothing, and at the age of 30, he has no savings. ......

In fact, we are all so similar. Influenced by Zhang Ailing's fame, everyone is eager to become famous and earn money. You will keep reading articles about how she is 24 years old and earns 50 thousand a month. But after reading Uncle Nana Ogawa's article, you will fully feel that he is actually doing an ordinary job at the age of 30, just like us ordinary people, constantly combing life and work.

Author Uncle Xiaochuan, brand director of real estate development company, writer of fashion magazine, columnist of today's headlines, and owns five online radio programs. Career counselors, who are good at self-summarizing and analyzing, write back their career experiences honestly and are full of positive energy, are called the warmest and cured radio uncle by Douban netizens, and are the influential positive energy writers of Dangdang 20 16. He taught us the method of "combing" in the book "Busy just doesn't know how to comb your life".

1. There are one million possibilities in your life.

Have you ever thought about the value of your existence? It took the author 10 years to find your existence. He finally stopped measuring the value of your existence by the number of things. He believes that his value lies in his ability to plan every day well and find some small interests that have nothing to do with money, but can increase happiness. He believes that he will be more and more.

At the age of 40, he began to foresee the loss. In addition to some physical changes, insomnia also followed. He began to hate himself at that time and longed for a younger, sharper and less worldly self. He also read many books on psychology and listened to many lectures by psychology teachers, only to find that no one could give himself an answer. What he must do is to make peace with himself. Gradually, he found the root of the problem. It turns out that the real power is not that you refuse everything because you are afraid of change, but that you can find your original heart after accepting the change. He said, the self-abased, insignificant me who once lived in the darkness did not disappear and was not buried, but learned to clean the floor, change curtains, find more part-time jobs, and change a big house after earning more money; He learned to laugh, to treat others with sincerity but discretion, to express his feelings instead of his emotions, and to look in the mirror and see his bright spot. He doesn't know if this is called "confidence".

He took part in Qipa's talk and told himself to be brave, even if it was only once. We all have things we want to do, but we often worry about how to do it badly before we do it. What a shame it would be if we made a fool of ourselves. There are ten thousand possibilities in life. Don't always set limits for yourself. Don't think at what age you should or must. As Nietzsche said, you might as well face life boldly, because we will always lose it.

In the book, the author also talked about his current view of life, always be curious, have the ability to make money and have the skills to survive. In three to five years, he tried to update his ideas, improve his related majors or theories, be kind to his family, find his inner "hole" and try to repair it, know how to decompress himself, release more positive energy, constantly improve his research on happiness and understanding of life, and maintain a balance between sensibility and rationality.

2. What we need to know in the workplace

At work, I often hear people complain that they have done so much and got this meager salary. Some people accuse the boss of squeezing employees and think they should be given higher wages. The leader has arranged such hard work for me today, why should we complain? No, at any time, don't complain, but actively try to solve it. Finally, you will find that you are valuable not because the boss thinks you are valuable, but because of accumulation and learning, and you will naturally be valuable.

The author wrote how he became a director in Poor Because You Don't Know How to Sort out Life. He also encountered many unhappy things in the workplace, being deliberately targeted and being run on ... but in the end, he realized that those people were just poor people in the workplace. They are targeting you because you are too strong and they are afraid. The author tells us that when you are struggling to deal with them all day, what we need to do is to constantly improve ourselves, don't put ourselves in the comfort zone, and cultivate a sense of crisis. When you can't provide more surprises to the enterprise, you lose value.

Looking back on the path the author has taken in the workplace, many people may see the status and money he has now. Only he knows how many ditches he has gone through. Therefore, at work, we should not worry. When the leaders don't recognize us, we should change ourselves first, perhaps with pain, and learn to get along with them, because only when you show your ability, the leaders will look at you with new eyes, and only after experiencing those gullies.

3. Create a lifelong learning plan

In the book, the author wrote his speech and writing process. In order to learn speeches and organize his speeches in Touma, his brave and persistent learning attitude really shocked me. Maybe many of us will do the same, afraid to try to make some changes. In fact, we really want to do it, perhaps because we are not confident and dare not do it. So how can we overcome this psychological barrier? It is mentioned in the book that when you are afraid to face it, try to see it in a longer time, and you will find the courage and strength to support you. If you are afraid of the stage in your thirties and face the masses, will you still be like this in your fifties? If you start a company and become a manager in the future, do you have to speak with such trepidation? The answer is definitely no.

Speaking of speeches, in fact, the author, like us ordinary people, was afraid of this stage at first. In order to exercise himself, he took 10 weddings, gave speeches in different universities and shared 200 speeches. After that, he wrote how to prepare a speech. He said that the speech was divided into several parts, such as breaking the ice to relax the atmosphere, asking questions to resonate, putting forward opinions, telling cases and causing thinking. He said that his greatest wealth is experience, especially the experience of making mistakes. He also hopes that someone will not make the same mistake after listening to his own story and help more people. He told us that no matter how successful people are, they all start with ordinary people. It is brave to choose to speak in front of people!

The author says that the essence of writing is actually expression. I especially like what the author said, life is very sad, and no one likes to watch a sadder story to pretend to be happy. For him, he wants to transmit an energy, an upward force. You see, he is still a man with a little inferiority complex, but he hopes that what he wrote can help more people.

Successful people are regarded as role models by others, but no one has told us where they failed, but the author is willing to be the one who talks about failure, because he thinks that those failed experiences may make those who want to seize opportunities bypass some pits or detours, which may be the meaning and value of failure.

Being poor and busy is a life you don't know how to organize. You can see a story of a person who once felt inferior and insecure, constantly learning and reflecting on his own efforts. He also taught us the method of "organizing" and made us understand that bravely embracing change and making himself strong is the best strategy to solve the problem. What I have to do now is to keep my passion for my hobby, just stick to it, love with my heart and be kind to everyone around me.