The result of stick education is that children are adversely affected in character and psychology, and the more they fight, the more disobedient they become. Moreover, some teenagers also breed hatred and revenge against their parents, or openly confront, or secretly do bad things, or take it out on others to bully the weak, so that the hatred in stagnation can be vented. Some people are Nuo Nuo in front of them, and they are lawless behind them, forming a two-faced personality.
Parents often beat and scold their children, which makes teenagers mentally numb, self-esteem damaged and self-destructive. Some people even run away from home to avoid being beaten and cursed. This kind of education is actually to drive fish out of the hole and birds out of the group, pushing children who could have become better to the wrong path and creating conditions for juvenile delinquency.
Please look at the following example:
When Zhou's brother and sister were in primary school, their academic performance was always excellent, and they began to decline after they arrived in middle school. Parents who are too strict with their children at ordinary times have not done any investigation and analysis. As long as they found that their test scores did not reach the standard line set by themselves, they immediately lost their temper, severely beat and scolded them, and threatened to drive them out of the house. Parents even rudely cut their daughter's hair, so that she could not go out and had to review her lessons at home. Parents' behavior deeply hurt the self-esteem of brothers and sisters. To this end, the two often moved to their grandmother's house for an excuse. Soon they made bad friends, and both of them retreated to the work-study school.
14-year-old Yang, whose father is a self-employed, found his son playing truant and used a whip to "educate" his son. On one occasion, Yang played truant again and was hung upside down by his father in the well for more than half an hour until he was found by his neighbors. Yang had a bad record a long time ago, and his father began to strictly discipline him from a very young age, but after several years of beating and cursing, his bad record has not changed. 1 1 years old, he took a train from Inner Mongolia to Shanxi alone and never came back for more than two months to escape his father's whipping. In the end, he joined the helmet theft group and was brought to justice.
As can be seen from the above, stick education is the most ineffective and dangerous education method.
So, how can we get rid of this stick education?
This requires parents to do the following two things:
First, we should raise awareness of the harm of stick education. Don't believe this nonsense that "a dutiful son is born under the stick" and "a soldier who defeats others without fighting", which is used by the feudal ruling class to deceive people. Some of the above explanations and examples have shown that stick education is the most harmful educational method. Not only that, parents should realize. It is illegal to treat children with sticks, and it is even more illegal if you hurt them. This violates the law on the protection of minors, and you will go to jail. If you don't know this, you will break the law and go to jail, then it's too late for you to regret it!
Second, we should strengthen the study of good, correct and effective methods of educating children. Educating children with sticks is the most ineffective way of education, which also reflects the incompetence of users. There are many effective ways to educate children in the world. As long as parents can strengthen their study, why not learn good educational methods?