13-year-old children will lie and talk nonsense. Such children, whether boys or girls, belong to people with high IQ and high EQ. In terms of emotional intelligence and IQ, they are beyond their peers.
This kind of person who surpasses children of the same age, whether full of lies or nonsense, shows his unique skills in judging people and employing people without exception.
"Lies, nonsense" can be said to be mastered "talking to people, talking nonsense", mystifying, arranging a maze, misleading people, and achieving the purpose of hiding the truth.
For such a child, different people will take different methods. It is a common habit to attack the shield with the child's spear.
The so-called "seeing the move and dismantling the move" is the ability that children's parents, teachers, classmates and friends need.
If one party does not have this ability, it will be difficult to control such children.
It is not empty talk, but the comings and goings in the real life environment.
Under what circumstances will children lie and talk nonsense to cover up the truth. This is the crux of the problem, that is, children expose the weaknesses of life. There is still great hope of success if we grasp the soft spot and take it by surprise.
In the game with this kind of children, it is impossible to achieve the best in one battle, but it needs to be repeatedly contested.
In the repeated contests with such children, win the respect of the children, stabilize their prestige, and finally achieve the goal that the children frankly admit defeat and obey the arrangement wholeheartedly.
People can't help themselves in the Jianghu. Problem children just stepped into the Jianghu too early and picked up some Jianghu habits.
And rivers and lakes naturally have rules of rivers and lakes, and children who run into a wall will know and abide by these rules. Children will also understand that there is no truth in Fiona Fang without rules.
Although the rivers and lakes are sinister, we must abide by morality. Therefore, although the child is unruly, after failure and paying the price, the prodigal son will definitely return to gold.
I didn't know it might be the sin of the ancestors of this family!
Parents are the first teachers? Parents have an unshirkable responsibility, and the family environment creates bad habits? Parents should reflect. Thirteen years old, school can't escape. Parents should take the initiative to approach the school head teacher, understand the reality and go home to do their homework? Still playing with your mobile phone? Watch TV? Parents are as good as they say, so stay with them often!
Design to fight poison with poison, so that he (she) has suffered enough from madness, and he (she) will know the harm of madness and correct it!
As the saying goes, "three years old looks down on seven years old." Thirteen years old, the original environment has already shaped him (her). His hair is dry and his wings are hard, and the probability of a miracle is almost zero. Some people say that it can be covered with ice, which is a continuous heating internal and external environment. If it is melted at home and frozen outside, it is still useless. Only the black sh has been reformed, and young and dangerous people also belong to high-return businesses. It doesn't matter whether you live or die. If you don't accept it, it belongs to their world!
Rome was not built in a day
Find the root cause. Why do children lie?
Nothing more than a few things: I am afraid that my parents will blame me; Parents don't care enough about it. I hope parents will pay more attention. I'm afraid my parents will be disappointed. I have desires, such as pocket money. Play mobile phone. Find the root cause.
Children lie to avoid responsibility. Parents should set an example.
Parents should first do:
1: Treat children's grades and homework with normality. Don't yell at the children. Parents need to completely change their attitude towards their children;
2. It is recommended to treat children as friends. Good friend ... you should ask yourself before you blame each time. This is my friend. He is a colleague who has a good relationship with me in my unit. Will I say this to him? Will I scold him? Hit him? If so, what should I say?
3. Discover your child's hobbies, what you like, and satisfy some of your child's desires, such as pocket money. Children play mobile phones. Parents think about whether you will play mobile phone as soon as you get home or read books as soon as you get home. This should be changed slowly. Set certain goals for children. A small goal that is easy to achieve. Rewards can be diversified. A bunch of barbecues, a bottle of coke, an episode of cartoons, and so on.
4. Children lie mostly to avoid punishment; Encourage children to tell the truth. Do not criticize. Children can lie to avoid saying the wrong thing. There is no need to preach over and over again. Suppose your company made a mistake. The leader kept talking. And he slapped you twice. What do you do? Resist. No matter how hard you spray it, it's no use. You can't quit. The only thing you can do is run away. The best choice is to lie …
Only by changing yourself can you change your children. Children are your parents' mirrors. As the saying goes, dragons give birth to dragons and phoenixes … ..
13 years old 17 years old is the rebellious period of children's growth. This stage will have a direct impact on children, because their environmental education will follow suit! Parents, family and environment have the greatest influence on children. Parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds will set an example for their children! Good example children will follow suit, and bad example will follow suit! Because the power of example is infinite, and sometimes it is deeply rooted. Of course, children's classmates' environment at school will also affect their words and deeds. The reason why children lie is not natural and inevitable, but the people they contact and the living environment.
In two cases, one is that children are born evil and cannot be educated; The other is that children are shaped like this by the environment.
In the first case, education is not needed. This naturally evil child is very energetic. Educating others can only get twice the result with half the effort and consume each other.
Just keep a distance from him and let him enter the society early. When the child wakes up, he really wakes up. His energy burst, and he can achieve something. On the contrary, if he still can't wake up in the cruel social jungle, then he will bring himself to ruin. Death is everyone's destination, only sooner or later. If it's self-inflicted, it's kind
In view of the second situation, I personally think that there is a great probability that children belong to this situation, that is, such children adjust themselves according to their own growth environment, thus becoming like this.
In this case, it is even more unnecessary to educate children, because it is not children who need education and change, but their parents or other important caregivers, as well as caregivers' examination, discrimination and choice of their own environment.
Many people's personality problems, in the final analysis, are psychological problems, and the defects of family and environment lead to a child's psychological defects, thus showing the personality problems in the eyes of outsiders.
However, people are good at finding other people's problems, more good at blaming others, and lack the spirit of introspection and self-discipline. Therefore, children's problems are always blamed, and children feel that they need education and change. In fact, this is an adult who has the right to speak, evading responsibility and avoiding facing real problems.
Children can't be educated to be what adults want, but only learn to be someone like adults.
Tell children stories about wolves and let them know the consequences of lying.
The key lies in parents. ...