When it comes to intergenerational education, many parents will have some feelings. Because we want to make money and create better conditions for our children, we should give our children's education and life to our elders. Although the burden seems to have been reduced a lot, the ensuing conflict in educating children is a headache.

"Mom, don't always let the children watch TV. This is not good for their eyes. "

"It's better for children to watch than to go out and run!"

"Mom, don't feed the children like this, it's not clean!"

"Why not clean? This is how you fed it when you were a child! "

Knowing that the elders are also good for the children has more experience, but some of the parenting experiences of the older generation are no longer applicable and very backward.

In intergenerational education, we should pay attention to these three ways of upbringing.

The first type: excessive doting.

Children are not allowed to do anything by themselves, take care of anything and do everything possible to meet their requirements.

Parents criticized the child who made a mistake, and the old man stood by and said, "Oh, what a big deal! The child is too young to be sensible and will get better slowly. " The child made unreasonable demands and immediately promised: "OK, I will buy you whatever my grandson wants to eat!" If the children don't eat well, the old man will chase after them. Children educated in this way will have many bad habits. They will think that they will be protected if they do something wrong, and gradually ignore the majesty of their parents and become lawless.

The second type: overprotective.

"Don't climb so high, come down quickly, it's dangerous!" "Good baby, it's time to get up!" Everything the child does is carefully guarded and any dangerous action is stopped. If children live in an overprotective environment for a long time, it will make them difficult to be independent, weak and poor in knowledge. Moreover, children are prone to dependence and inertia, which is difficult to correct once they are cultivated.

The third type: too strict.

Whether it is your own children or children of different generations, the way of education is very strict, criticism accounts for a large part, and punishment is more than reward.

"I know where to take my children to play, there is nothing serious to do!" "The child is disobedient, just a few more fans!" This will make parents lose prestige in front of their children, and it will also make children feel afraid and inferior, or have rebellious psychology.

Three ways to double the effect of education

Do all intergenerational education have such problems? Don't "kill with one stick". Many elders will take care of their children in a gentler and more scientific way, which has a very good educational effect.

For example, in the habit of letting children go to bed on time, they will make an appointment with their children in advance. Even if the children still refuse to sleep, they will stick to the agreed principle, but instead of using tough means, they will say to the children, "Grandma will tell you a story, and you will sleep after listening."

This scientific and positive education method is an ideal intergenerational education method. Children who grow up in this educational environment will be more sensible and have more positive energy.

So, how can we realize this kind of positive intergenerational education? Parents can learn in three ways:

0 1 Cooperation rather than confrontation

We and the elderly may have some differences in the way and cognition of educating children, but the purpose is the same, and everyone is for the good of children.

Then, instead of arguing, let's work together. If you find that your child has bad habits, you can talk to your elders first. The two sides reached an agreement to learn from each other's strong points and respect their right to teach.

However, we should be careful not to expose the educational differences between the two sides in front of the children, otherwise the children will think: "Mom and Dad should also listen to grandparents/grandparents", so parents will lose their prestige in front of their children and it will be more difficult to manage.

Explore the "treasure house" of elders' experience

As the saying goes, "there are old people in the family, and if there are treasures", no one has more life experience than the old people. When a family gets together, it is better to let the elders tell stories about their youth, let the children know more about their past lives, broaden their horizons, and urge them to think about life consciously. At the same time, it will also make elders feel that they are needed and have a stronger sense of happiness.

Watch the timing.

Old people are also willing to adapt to the changes of the times and make changes. Some elders know that their educational ideas will be a little outdated. We can encourage our elders to take part in some activities and watch more programs about parenting education, so as to broaden our knowledge and improve the quality of intergenerational education.

But when conveying the new concept of parenting, we must not resolutely refute it face to face. Pay attention to choosing the right time and gently remind you. For example, when we see the relevant news, we will say, "Dad, Mom, you see the experts have said ..."

In short, in the process of education, no matter who makes some wrong behaviors, the purpose is to make children grow up better. The contribution of elders is very important to the whole family and should be respected and understood.