The investigation report on the current situation of family education 1 is still being staged in today's society, which has had many negative effects on education. Conscious and responsible educators have felt the confusion of educating people in schools to varying degrees. "Today's children are not easy to teach", is our method insufficient or our ability poor? Why do many children study well now, but their hands-on ability is poor? Why are many children versatile now, but their psychological quality is poor? Why are many children now "good babies" at school but "little bullies" at home? All kinds of phenomena that happen to students cannot but arouse the deep thoughts of educators and parents.
First, the problems and causes of family education
Although all walks of life and some parents are aware of the importance of family education and think that good family education plays a vital role in the healthy growth of children, there are various problems that cannot be ignored in family education. Specific performance in:
1. Rural parents concentrate on production and income generation, get up early and get greedy every day, and have no time and energy to take care of and educate their children, let alone family education. Especially in recent years, with the increase of migrant workers, many "empty nest families" have appeared in rural areas. Children in "empty nest families" are taken care of by grandparents or their relatives, and most of them are "watching without teaching", "managing without teaching" or "unable to manage at all", so family education is almost blank.
2. Parents lack a sense of responsibility.
Some parents think it is their responsibility to send their children to school and bring them up. As for how their children learn, it depends on their own efforts, and there is no clear requirement.
3. Lack of affection affects the formation of children's healthy psychology.
According to the survey, at present, 85% of primary school students in rural areas have parents who are away from home all the year round, and their children lack family care and their psychological needs for growth are not met, which leads to many students' loneliness, inferiority, isolation, vanity, over-sensitivity, excessive self-esteem and blind friendship. Even made some students hostile. Some parents who work and do business outside the home all the year round are very generous, unplanned and unrestrained in giving money to their children because of their rich economic conditions and a kind of psychological compensation. Because students lack certain financial management ability and self-control ability, they rely on their parents' money to imitate adults' birthdays and pay people to do their homework. Over time, they pursue enjoyment in life and are afraid of hardship, progress, freedom and laziness in study. Most of these students lack consciousness, initiative and fighting spirit in their studies, and they often lack enthusiasm and love in their lives and studies. They are rebellious, enterprising and enterprising. At the same time, some special families with single parents, poverty, disability and poor grades have a great negative impact on their children due to the lack of family affection, which greatly affects their personality shaping, good moral character and behavior habits.
4. The influence of the new "reading uselessness" thought.
In recent years, due to the high cost of high school and university education, the distribution of college graduates has gone to the market, making it difficult to find jobs, which has led some rural parents to have a new idea of "reading is useless". Some people say that families have to pay hundreds of thousands to train a college student, and they can't afford it. Even if you find a job after graduation, it is difficult to settle down in the city with a meager salary. Therefore, parents who only pay attention to "affordability" are not enthusiastic about their children's education and training, and are indifferent to their children's further education.
5. Family education and school education cannot be consistent.
Family education is not only the foundation of school education, but also the supplement and extension of school education. Many parents lack communication with the school, and most parents are limited to their studies even if they communicate with their teachers. Therefore, family education and school education can not be well connected. During the self-control period of students on weekends or holidays, "the family can't manage well, but the school can't manage it", and students are easily eroded by bad social atmosphere. Sometimes the five-day ideological and moral education efforts in schools are often wiped out in two days by family education, forming a phenomenon of "5+2=0" with today's characteristics.
6. Traditional and simple education methods can no longer adapt to the development of today's society.
(1) Expectations are too high and family education is too strict. Faced with the increasingly fierce pressure of social competition, many parents have very high expectations for their children, and they are eager to "expect their children to succeed". Therefore, they strictly discipline their children and even deprive them of at least time for rest, games and entertainment, which stifles their all-round development of free personality.
(2) Blindly doting or neglecting management. Some parents have a biased understanding of the new situation of market economy and future social competition, do not distinguish right from wrong, and are partial to their children's bad behavior. They encourage children to be aggressive and try to be brave, greedy and cheap, and play tricks, which contributes to the formation of improper ideology and the arrogance of these students. Some parents indulge their children too much, ignore their children's incorrect words and deeds, indulge themselves, discipline them loosely, and indulge blindly, thinking that meeting all the requirements of their children is love for their children, especially the grandparents who stay behind as guardians, which is more prominent in this respect. As a result, children attach importance to enjoyment and keep up with the joneses, and some even develop the bad habits of pursuing brands, infatuating with internet cafes, not striving for progress and being rude and arrogant. They are arrogant and charming, and their personalities become capricious and fragile.
Second, the countermeasures and suggestions
1, parents should correctly guide education and cultivate their children's good habits.
Playing is the nature of every child, and it is also the commonality of children. How to let children develop intelligence, learn knowledge and improve themselves in play? Parents should be good at guiding and educating. This kind of guidance and education is not only in words, but also in action. At present, after school or holidays, some children go to the game hall to play games, some ride bicycles on the road, some beat eggs, draw pictures, jump rubber bands, stride and hide-and-seek, and sometimes they forget to do their homework or even eat. At this time, parents should be good at guiding, talking with their children, inspiring them to tell you what they see and hear at school every day, and then guiding them to write down what they feel most. In the process of writing, if they encounter obstacles, you can remind them to remember well, explore carefully and make them think more. Let the children read it to you after writing. When you find that you are not fluent in reading, you are advised to revise it carefully until your child writes fluent sentences and clearly expresses his meaning, thus cultivating the habit of using your hands and brains. Parents can also guide their children to carry out interesting and beneficial activities, such as teaching them to read, play chess, collect stamps, plant flowers, art, music and write. Parents should not only encourage their children to read more books and read good books, but also cultivate their children to be good at thinking, arm their minds with scientific theories, shape their hearts with noble spirit, improve their quality with rich knowledge, and create a new great era for our nation.
2. Pay attention to the system of home visits and give full play to the multi-directional role of home visits.
Home visit is an important means for teachers to carry out their work. With the popularization of modern communication technology, home visits are gradually indifferent, but they still play an irreplaceable role: they can reflect the bright spots of students to parents in time and let parents share the happiness of their children's growth; Be able to timely aim at students' hobbies, cooperate with parents to help students get rid of negative factors, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and promote students' positive progress; Be able to know the family growth environment of students in time, give suggestions to parents in view of the problems in students' growth, keep close contact between schools and families, cooperate with teachers and parents to form an educational joint force, and do a good job in students' ideological work; Be able to combine the reality of students' family education in time and spread the knowledge of family education to parents; It can make teachers understand students more comprehensively and make education more targeted; It can enhance the feelings between teachers and students and play a unique role in solving the special problems of individual students.
Parents should educate their children to persevere and not fish for three days and dry the net for two days.
With the growth of age and rich knowledge, parents should take pains to put forward higher and higher requirements for their children. The homework that the child didn't finish today has been corrected through criticism and education, and may be repeated in a few days. As parents, don't fly into a rage, scold or sharply scold your child, which will cause your child's rebellious and confrontational psychology. Parents should keep a clear head, analyze the reasons for children's various phenomena, and guide and educate their children more carefully and patiently. Parents must not arbitrarily regard their children as "hopeless" or "hopeless". Some of our parents ask about their children's study after school, and they can also take care of their children's excessive behavior, educate their children, and put them aside when they are busy. Some parents will talk to their children when they are in a good mood and encourage them to study. When you are in a bad mood, you will let yourself go and ignore your child's study. There are also some parents who ignore their children when they are busy, when they are in a good mood and when they are in a bad mood, and let them develop. What's more, some parents don't educate and guide their children correctly, but instead distract their children's energy, guide them to learn things they shouldn't, and take them to play mahjong or even gamble. Parents must have a high sense of responsibility and educate their children persistently. Rome was not built in a day. Never fish for three days and dry the net for two days.
Parents should educate their children to get to know each other and get along with each other on an equal footing.
What does your child like and dislike? Is his personality introverted or extroverted? What are his good habits? What are his shortcomings? What is his ideal? Parents should know. For example, children like good love, and parents should give more care and love, mainly encouragement, not doting; Children need to be strict. Parents should be serious, always careful and never rash when educating their children. Ordinary children need both loving mother education and strict father education. We should praise and criticize, but we should give priority to praise. Love and be strict with children. Without strictness, there can be no real love, because love must be strict, strict in the right place, and love is imperceptibly influenced. Only in this case, children can work hard and make continuous progress.
5. Pay attention to family activities.
Lively activities are what children are most interested in. Parents can take traditional festivals as an opportunity to carry out colorful family activities. For example, during the Spring Festival, the practice of "welcoming small guests and praising small hosts" was carried out; Carry out emotional activities such as "Hello Mom" and "Blessing the elderly" during Women's Day and Double Ninth Festival; During the Mid-Autumn Festival, a series of activities of "I love my family" were launched. Parents' timely education of their children through activities, with "affection" as a bridge and "affection" as a link, will certainly receive unexpected results.
6. Establish a good family environment for children.
Parents should lead by example, educate their children from every detail of life, and let them bathe in a harmonious, civilized, healthy and relaxed family atmosphere. Therefore, parents should strive to: improve their own quality and set a good example for their children; Have a set of family rules that children can accept; Provide rich life content for children; Be an assistant in children's study, guide and help children to accomplish what they can; Take every opportunity to exercise and cultivate children's self-care, self-reliance and frustration tolerance. In addition to children's study, parents can also subscribe to some magazines that are beneficial to intelligence, cultivate children's reading interest, help children form a conscious learning attitude, change parents' understanding of family education, and improve the quality of family education in rural areas.
In short, the formation of students' good behavior habits must be the result of close cooperation between good school education and family education. Paying attention to family education is the necessity of modern education, and it is also the key to the success or failure of implementing quality education in schools. For the common goal, teachers and parents must "think in one place and work hard in one place", so that our education can be effective and hopeful.
Investigation report on the current situation of family education 2 As the saying goes, "Parents are the first teachers of children". Sokhorinmsky, an educator in the former Soviet Union, once said that a child's life is decided to a certain extent before he is five years old, which shows the importance of family education, which is both a cradle education and a lifelong education. Family education plays an important role in our big education system because of its special status and influence.
In recent years, due to the disharmony and disharmony of family education, we have a lot of confusion: Why do many children study well now, but their practical ability is poor? Why are many children versatile now, but their psychological quality is poor? Why are many children now "good babies" at school but "little bullies" at home? Why do some children seem to know everything, but have poor self-control ability? Why do many children keep saying all day that they should cherish their parents' hard-earned money, but when they enter the school gate, they spend money indiscriminately, wasting clothes and meals? On the basis of long-term observation and reading a large number of materials for practical research, the author puts forward the following views and asks parents.
First, the status quo and analysis of family education.
The formation of students' good behavior habits must be the result of close cooperation between good school education and good family education. But teachers often feel that the school has worked hard for a week, and the negative education of the family is hard to resist for a day. It is even hard to resist a negative remark from parents and friends.
One of the status quo: the teaching method is biased. Through in-depth analysis and research on parents' mentality and behavior, it is not difficult to find that the current family education methods mainly include the following:
(1) "Ambitious" type. This is a typical family education with China characteristics, which occupies a considerable proportion. Because of historical reasons, parents often pin all kinds of "regrets" in their growth process on their children with the best "hopes", so they have high expectations for their children's "success". Specific performance in:
First, pay attention to scores. Children don't study hard, which is the biggest headache for parents; Children's homework performance is the most concerned and sensitive topic for parents. "Learning" and "rewarding" excellent students have become a common means for many parents to encourage their children to learn. "Learning first, grades first" is their only goal. As a result, parents arranged housework instead of their children. First, they care about their children and refuse to put the blame on them prematurely. The second is to disdain to let children do "chores" for fear of affecting their studies. If the child gets a good grade, the home is "sunny"; If the child fails the exam, the parents will stop laughing for several days.
Second, willing to invest. Many parents hire "tutors", buy "reference books" for their children, or tutor in person, and are willing to suffer hardships with only one purpose-all for children, all for learning, and all for grades. In addition to telling children to learn school lessons well, they also accompany their children to take composition classes, calligraphy classes, English classes, art classes and music classes in their spare time-in the eyes of parents, this is completely a "responsibility".
(2) "let nature take its course" type. This is an educational method adopted by parents out of their own values after the emergence of the one-child phenomenon. Undeniably, some parents rationally adopt this kind of education because they know how to follow the laws of education. But more often, they are too busy to take care of their careers, so they ignore or give up because of their own limitations. The specific performance is as follows:
First, the phenomenon of "surrogate parents" is more common. Many parents give the way of educating their children to grandparents and other "generations". Therefore, the life of elders in their later years is centered on their children. "What to eat", "What to wear" and "What to use" always affect the hearts of elders. The special "love" of elders makes children generally lack life experience and have poor self-service ability; Enthusiastic about self-design, lacking sense of responsibility. Many children's bad behavior habits are bred in the meticulous "care" of their elders.
Second, "the heart is willing, but the strength is insufficient." Parents want their children to grow up. However, there is a big gap between the strong "hope" and the "method" of education. In the eyes of parents, children have become "familiar faces and unfamiliar hearts". In real life, an entrepreneur who can lead thousands of people can't persuade a "baby" in his family to go to the teacher to "complain" and "describe suffering". Parents often lament that in front of children, education is "unable to start" and "nerve-racking".
The reason is that the surreal and inconsistent family education is the main crux of the family education model of "wishing children success" and "letting nature take its course". The so-called "surrealism" means that parents treat their children "strictly" and "abnormally". They cannot treat and educate their children correctly and objectively; They often have high evaluation and hope for their children, and often judge the success or failure of their children by the advantages of their neighbors and colleagues, which leads to psychological imbalance. The so-called "inconsistency" means that parents educate their children to be strict and unqualified. Emotionally, parents attach importance to their children's education; However, in real life, the dribs and drabs of education are often ignored. Such as "talking back", "selfish", "not greeting guests" and "not honoring the elderly", some parents often relax their strict requirements for their children. In the long run, children develop some bad behaviors, and once parents wake up, they can do nothing. So there is an abnormal phenomenon that the "good baby" at school has become the "little bully" at home.