There is an old saying in China that "children can't get help from their mothers". This sentence aims to illustrate a problem. When the child reaches the "second delivery", that is to say, the child wants to be completely independent in spirit, find a kind of self-identity, a unique value of his own, and don't want to be bound by his parents' ideas. This is generally a normal performance, but it is easy to be blocked by parents' efforts and become distorted.

It's like a baby coming, and the mother squeezes her legs hard to keep the baby from coming out. How painful and ridiculous the scene is.

Therefore, when a child gives birth for the second time, which is often called adolescent rebellion, parents must know how to let go properly, give the child full trust and leave enough room for his free development.

However, as you said, if you let the child go at this time, it may lead him astray.

In fact, the solution is not difficult, that is, let go in principle. You can't compromise on major issues and major principles, but you should give your child full rights and freedom in minor issues, let him make decisions, and let him experience a sense of value and accomplishment. And the key point is that children at this time really want their parents to pay attention to themselves, so they still have expectations for their children. At this time, parents should try to be friends with their children, talk to their children in a consultative tone and avoid using orders.

Children sometimes get angry. At this time, parents should be considerate of their children, because his body secretes a lot of hormones at this time, which is quite disordered, so it is normal to get angry sometimes. Parents should not confront their children.

Specifically, you can watch Psychological Interview, which contains many programs about adolescent rebellious children.