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& gt& gt& gt Give your children a real care.

Hugo said, "Without love, the sun will die." There is no world without love, but not all children enjoy true love. Many parents of mentally retarded children always feel that having such children will bring shame on themselves. No matter how much you care about them, there is no commitment. You are indifferent, discriminatory and indifferent to children. In fact, every family has its own problems, but your family's troubles are a little different from others'. The key lies in how to adjust the mentality, take the challenge calmly and live an optimistic life. Of course, it is not easy, but it is very important! Because the growth of children needs the harmony and joy of parents. If parents can accept this reality with peace of mind, carefully plan and arrange their future life and work, don't compare their children with other children of the same age, but rejoice at their little progress. Then everything may not be terrible.

However, parents must be psychologically prepared: there is no way to restore all the functions of the brain that was not fully developed at birth. There is always a difference between children and normal people. Like kindling, it can ignite the hope in children's hearts; Love, like rain and dew, moistens long-term drought seedlings. Children need love, and children who feel love will feel their cuteness. Therefore. Parents should sort out their emotions and face the reality bravely. For children, we should learn to tolerate expectations, show more love, approach them with understanding, encourage them with expectation, and maximize the development and mobilization of children's potential abilities. So that children can greatly improve their movements, cognition, emotional control and self-care, and lay a good foundation for future survival.

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& gt& gt& gt set a good example for children.

Some people say that children's behavior is often the shadow of their parents. This is a mirror of parents. A mother who likes to take advantage of petty gain may be followed by a shoplifting child and a father who often speaks insincerely. She will find that her children sometimes hesitate to talk. Imitation is a child's nature. Parents are children's first teachers, and families are children's first schools. Everything parents say and do is the object of children's imitation. Because special children have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong, parents should set a good example for their children. Psychologists believe that children who grow up in harmonious families are mostly lively, cheerful and have good personalities. On the contrary, the probability of children's psychological defects will be greatly improved. In fact, it is not difficult to cultivate children's quality of caring and helping others, but we must start from the most common situations in daily life. For example, if the mother squats and chooses lai, the father can guide the child to send a small bench; Grandma is sick in bed, sending water and medicine; Walking on the road, I saw the newspaper or other smaller things in the old man's hand fall to the ground, help pick them up and so on.

Good habits can't be formed overnight, which requires parents to wait patiently and help, and can't give up active guidance to their children. For children, parents' words and deeds are always the most vivid teaching materials and methods for children.

Rousseau, an enlightenment thinker in China, put it well; "Real education lies not in oral training but in practice."

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& gt& gt& gt Give your child a chance to exercise.

Some parents of special children think that it is better to do it by themselves if the children can't do it well anyway. Everything is arranged instead, depriving children of the opportunity to exercise themselves. As a result, a mindset has gradually formed in children's minds that parents have nothing to help themselves. In the long run, it will cause children's incompetence and eternal dependence on their parents. Gardner, an American psychologist, put forward the theory of "multiple intelligences", which shows that there are many aspects of human wisdom. Everyone has a kind of wisdom, but there are differences among individuals. This difference is not only manifested in the combination content of each person's wisdom, but also in the level and time of wisdom. Family can be said to be the most personalized school, and it is fully qualified to create a colorful practical stage for children, so that children have the opportunity to apply what they have learned and deepen their understanding in application. There is a vast world of applied knowledge everywhere in life. First of all, parents should seize the opportunity of practice in life. For example, when cooking, using the addition and subtraction you have learned (such as taking a few potatoes and eggs) and the knowledge about food and plants can help you make a proper and reasonable meal. The child can recognize numbers. Let him help to see what day it is today. Secondly, parents should strengthen guidance on their children's practices. Guidance is not a substitute, but sincerely points out how to do it better, and it should be expressed in a language that children can understand, so that children can understand why. Finally, we should pay attention to guiding and inspiring children in the way they like, and promote the children to change from passive practice to active demand.

Mr. Yan Wenjing, a writer of children's literature, said: "Children's games are not only learning, but also a way of education." Games play an irreplaceable role in children's emotion, wisdom and social adaptability, and are very beneficial activities. Take a ball for example. He must first judge where the ball has rolled, and then bend down to find it. After seeing the ball, you should also visually measure the distance of the ball, think about how to reach it, what tools are suitable, and so on. What a good chance to use your hands and brains. In addition, parents should not be afraid of their children being bullied, and let them go out to play with their peers. Because children's communication skills can't be cultivated by their parents, they can only learn and play these talents in communication with their peers. Let children learn to communicate in communication and experience various emotional feelings in interpersonal communication. No wonder some people say, "Blessed are those who can play."

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& gt& gt& gt Give children confidence in success.

Family is a gas station for children, pay attention to their little progress and give them a successful experience after overcoming difficulties. For example, when a child is doing manual work, he may be discouraged because he has not mastered some tips. This requires adults to give more detailed guidance and encourage children to stick to it. When children see success, they must emphasize to them: "You see, as long as Xiaoming works hard, he still does a good job!" " "You see, Lili's hands are not afraid of being tired, and she finally picked up peanut beans." Strengthening children's efforts can make them less timid and afraid, and more brave and confident. At the same time, parents should be good at comparing their children's today with yesterday; Be good at discovering every progress and achievement of children, and affirm and praise them in different forms in time. The research of child psychology shows that all children's activities want to be recognized by their parents and others, and such recognition and praise are very important for their progress. Proper use of reward methods can promote the formation and consolidation of children's good behavior. Rewards can be spiritual or material. But first, we should know what the child wants and what the child is interested in. Sometimes a word, a kiss, a smile and an action are the most precious prizes that children want. Material rewards should be less in quantity and more in frequency, supplemented by oral guidance. Don't overemphasize the external motivation of matter. We should pay attention to the cultivation and reward of children's intrinsic motivation after good behavior, not before, so as to increase their confidence in forming good behavior.

When children are encouraged, they can see the fruits of their efforts, and their self-confidence and enthusiasm are enhanced, so that they can give full play to their potential. At this time, parents will make further demands on them, and they will be willing to accept and have the courage to try to achieve new success.

In short, parents should always treat their children's every fault with a tolerant attitude, wait for their children's every progress with an expectant attitude, pay attention to their children's every bright spot with appreciation, and praise their success with joy.

Suhomlinski once said that family life is a very complicated, trivial, ordinary and responsible job. As parents of special children, they should have a high sense of responsibility and obligation, strive to improve their psychological quality, and constantly increase their knowledge, especially in psychology, pedagogy and medicine, so as to make the family education of special children have a scientific basis. At the same time, they should actively optimize the family environment for children, create a good family atmosphere, and eliminate all kinds of interference, so as to better play the role of family education and make up for the shortcomings of special children.