Many people are extremely distressed by this child-others are busy eating fruit, and he is busy responding to his mother's question "How to say watermelon in English". Once the words recited in the morning can't be answered, his mother will immediately frown. He muttered passively to Nuo Nuo, "If I don't eat fruit, what else can I eat?" ; Going to grandpa's house for dinner, I was asked to recite pi. ...
At a young age, he tried to bear his mother's ardent expectations with his tender shoulders. He clearly knows that his mother is not himself, but the child with perfect score. ...
Some parents said, which parent doesn't love their children? Today's severity is for tomorrow's comfort, and now's efforts are for future happiness. But under the careful cultivation of the mother and children, did it really succeed?
He was sick and hallucinated ... his health was crushed, so what about happiness and future?
There are also parents who are entangled and don't want to get involved, but the reality is so cruel, can you still be yourself? Tiger mother chicken baby, Buddhism stocking, vacillating ... which way out can make children grow up healthily and get happiness?
Let's take a look at Taking Children to the World. The author of this book is very unusual. She's fine. She is the Secretary-General of Harvard Alumni Association, a famous expert in studying abroad, and a parent of a high school attached to a famous university in China. She studied and explored all the way in parenting and cultivated her children into useful people. She has also helped many families get out of the educational predicament with her own professionalism and thinking.
It is worth noting that this book is not a condescending sermon. There are not only directions suitable for parents in China to study and practice, but also 15 real family education cases are carefully selected, so that we can clearly see how to change from "knowledge education" to "growth and cultivation".
0 1 The pattern of parents determines the future of children.
Some people say that the most disgusting kind of parents in the world just can't fly, so they have to lay an egg and let it practice flying hard. It's ironic, but we are repeating this mistake more or less unconsciously.
Parents may not be rich materially, but they cannot remain poor spiritually. There is a saying in the CCTV documentary Mirror:
I am a mirror, and my face can reflect how loyal I am to my parents, and how similar I am to them both in appearance and in heart.
Zhang Cato is a successful father. When he was young, he worked very hard and unconsciously ignored his daughter's company. It was not until I entered higher school that I was shocked that my daughter had no confidence in herself. She only dared to choose a school other than 50, thinking that she was not worthy of a better one and could not pass the exam.
Ordinary parents will either compromise and let their children make their own decisions, or they will be reprimanded indiscriminately and complain that their children lack courage and courage.
But my father didn't do it. He communicated with his daughter, and her daughter said, if you want to go, you can go to Harvard!
Maybe it's just my daughter's angry words. Many parents are so embarrassed by their children that even if they roll their eyes, they will turn over a page, but Dad Zhang acted directly and really received the admission notice from Harvard.
My daughter was also greatly shocked, and began to readjust her mentality and tidy herself up, and finally entered the top 25 prestigious schools in the world.
The first chapter of Accompanying Children to the World reminds parents that the identity of parents is not a shield for self-stagnation and refusal to learn. In order to cultivate good children, parents should cultivate themselves, strive to be better themselves, and don't delay the growth of children.
Refuse to set limits for yourself, happiness is in your own hands.
Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous educator, said: "The essence of education is to cultivate habits."
What really opens the gap between children is not famous teachers, not IQ and environment, but more habits and actions.
A case shared in the book is very touching. A mother sent her son with cerebral palsy to Harvard University.
She didn't complain about the injustice of fate, accepted the child's true state, sought medical advice and insisted on massage in rain or shine, which laid a solid foundation for the child's health.
She didn't give up education for her children. She strives for a learning environment for him that is the same as that of ordinary children, so that children can see their talents, affirm him, praise him, and let him fly high in the fields he is good at.
This reminds me of the movie Forrest Gump. Forrest Gump's IQ is only 75, and her mother has suffered numerous insults and discrimination, but she has always maintained a gentle, optimistic and upward attitude towards life. Under the influence of his mother, Forrest Gump also inherited this optimism, so no matter what he meets, he can overcome difficulties again and again on his own.
The book Accompany Children to the World calls on parents in China to strengthen self-education and self-cultivation, accept their children unconditionally, give them real love, care for their talents and empower them.
I still remember the educational motto of psychologist william james, "The deepest need of human nature is to be appreciated and praised by others." You can use your sincere admiration for your child's life to give him the confidence to accept the challenges in the future.
Reject jigsaw puzzles and plan a blueprint for life.
Tolstoy, a famous writer, once said: All education, or 99.9% education, is attributed to the example and to the correctness and perfection of parents' own lives. Careful parents set an example and are good at guiding their children.
Parents have plans, and children will not be confused. Parents are in a mess, and it is inevitable that children will be hit.
There is a saying in the ancients, "parents love their children, so it is far-reaching." We oppose parents' unreality and regard children as tools to realize their ideals, but we must be the leaders of children's growth, help children lay a good foundation for their ideals, and plan their careers with love.
In the TV series Joy of Life, Fan Xian's mother Ye Meiqing is such a master who is good at planning for her son. She didn't accompany her children to grow up personally, but she carefully selected excellent teachers for her son. Wu Zhu's intimate companionship and careful teaching have enabled Fan Xianda, who is only a teenager, to reach the realm of seven products. Mother not only pays attention to knowledge and skills, but also pays attention to the education of "three views". On the stone tablet outside the courtyard, under the vigorous and powerful figure, she earnestly hopes for her son, who has love in his heart and light in his eyes, helps to uphold justice, does not collude with adulterers, and has his own judgment in everything.
May every child be treated gently when he comes to this world, so that he can feel how precious life is and how happy the world is. In the vast world, there is always a place where he is free and happy.
I hope that every parent can use their wisdom to become the spiritual mentor of their children's life, holding unconditional love in one hand and scientific and systematic planning in the other, providing a shoulder for their children to go to the sea of stars at any time.