Zhou Chenggang: My opinion should be that a child has a happy childhood, and he may have a more sustainable growth in the future. Such children are often more motivated and passionate about life, and will not only become talents in the future, but also become the pillars of 2 1 century.
Liu Zhijin: What is a happy childhood? Happiness has different levels of happiness. Do children want to play video games? Very happy, the child is willing to eat ice cream with his parents every day. Is the child happy? He is happy, but he also has different kinds of happiness. When he can help children overcome difficulties, when he can dominate the playground, when he can be among the best in speech, that is happiness. This kind of happiness is not a simple superficial happiness. The second is the foundation. What kind of solid foundation we lay, such as taking an Olympic math class or learning the violin, is not necessarily a solid foundation, but a solid foundation, such as his problem-solving ability. The ability to think critically, the ability to care about others, the sense of responsibility to respect others and society, and so on. I think parents have a great influence in this process since childhood. So this is why the most important responsibility of parents to their children should be to lay a good foundation and correct the concept of this foundation.
Zhou Chenggang: First of all, I want to say, I think this child, as a principal of New Oriental, contacts countless children every day, that is, I find that children's mental development is orderly, and their abilities will be shown in different ways, so even their views and values will be different. Personally, I think it may be better to educate different children in different ways. This is the first point. Second, I think it is seriously misleading to say that just sending a child to Harvard or Yale should be a good child. Children can have different aspects, and even I have a vague feeling. If we regard the children who go to Harvard and Yale as good children, I don't deny that our parents have serious reality and serious public goals under the condition of rapid economic and social development, which means that our society needs not only playing the piano, but also playing the violin, as well as plumbers, carpenters and many steel workers. The third thing I want to express is, if mothers all over the world become tiger mothers, will our children go to Yale and Harvard where they will go to school? There are 4000 universities in America. Except for the top 20 or 30 universities, are the Americans who went in later all fools and bad children? Finally, netizens made a very interesting statistic. In the 30 years since China's reform and opening up, there have been nearly 1,000 top students in the national college entrance examination, but their final statistics show that these top students were the best students of that year. But 20 years later, they searched for the top candidate in the college entrance examination that year, and now it really has a great impact on society. Let's take this for example. Almost no champion in the college entrance examination still plays the so-called most important social function in this world. My conclusion is that when many elites try their best to send their children to the United States today, we can't deny that there are countless things that attract us in American education, so I believe that our children can become the best developers in skills and things, but it is difficult to become the pillar talents needed by 2 1 century.
Liu Zhijin: I want to refute President Zhou. We didn't mention that Harvard and Yale are our standards in the conversation just now. For example. For example, President Clinton did not apply to Yale and Harvard, but only to George University.
Liu Zhijin: But it cannot be said that Clinton was unsuccessful. What I want to say is to lay a good foundation for children, not the narrow foundation we have learned, but a broad concept, such as his hard-working spirit, such as our China's persistence spirit and Professor Cai's persistence spirit. No matter what you do, I will stick to it. This is the basis of my speech. If we ignore this foundation from childhood to adolescence, it will be very dangerous.
Zhou Chenggang: I just heard from Amy Chua that her parents are very strict. Anyway, I have never been beaten by my father personally, and I believe I may not be here either. I think children often have more happiness in childhood and are healthier physically and mentally. I firmly believe that they will have more independence and innovative ability. Why do people finally say that they are often naughty or have poor grades? Especially in the end, he has strong acceleration and explosiveness. The competition in life is not a sprint, but a long run. Just now, two parents said that entering Harvard and Yale is the beginning of a career, and it is more about social contact.
Zhou Chenggang: I agree with this view. Not only children's views can be cultivated, but also adults' habit of playing mahjong can be cultivated. However, it is wrong for parents in China to cultivate their children's interests too narrowly.
We don't mean that all children should listen to their parents. To put it bluntly, many parents are assholes. It is certainly not good to rely on them to make plans for their children's future, but it is much better than children suffering from sexual torture. We're talking about percentages. Now we are discussing what plans we should make for our children and what kind of adults we should be.
Sun Jiankun: I didn't just talk about the quality of citizens. The quality of citizens definitely needs civic education, which is necessary. I'm talking about what this child is suitable for when he grows up in the future. What should his talent suit? You can't let Mozart play ice hockey in the future.
Zhou Chenggang: Professor Cai's view just now actually confirms our view in a sense. Professor Cai also said that strict management is not enough. When writing Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother, she finally gave up the way of educating her little daughter. The reason for giving up is that she thinks that if she persists, it may be counterproductive, and she will lose this child and even lose all her happiness and childhood. So what we want to convey is that the ways and means of educating children should be more plastic.
Liu Zhijin: I hope China's parents understand this. No matter how good the idea is, parents need to make high-quality efforts. Many parents don't really make high-quality efforts. Let me give you a simple example. You mentioned Bill Gates just now. You know, Gates had already read through the encyclopedia when he was 1 1. Finally, there is nothing to see.
Zhou Chenggang: That's a good point. I want to add one thing. If parents' children don't want to study and do well in the exam today, will you agree? In fact, they finally got great innovation. This is my opinion.
Liu Zhijin: You are right. Encyclopedia is only part of reading. In addition, I want to give an example. You are busy studying, but you can't shirk this responsibility. Lv Deying, the current CEO of Pepsi, is also a tiger mother. When she works in the office every day, her daughter studies high school math problems and asks her to fax her math homework to my office every day. I want to see where this homework is. You won't help you. I will do it again. She is the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Is she crazy? There is absolutely no water. Behind every successful child is the responsibility of parents, the real contribution of parents, and it must be a high-quality investment.
Moderator: I want to talk about my feelings during the whole debate. First, there are a thousand Hamlets in the hearts of a thousand people, and a thousand children will have a thousand kinds of personalities, a thousand kinds of endurance and a thousand kinds of their own personalities. Therefore, if a person's success is unrepeatable, perhaps a successful educational method can't be completely copied simply. This is the first point. Second, tiger mother and cat father both represent their successful educational methods. With the increasingly frequent communication between the East and the West in our society, the communication between the East and the West has become more and more common. Tiger mother and cat father represent themselves, not simply the East and the West. One more thing, when you decide to make a decision for your child, you must think clearly and see if the child really understands before you speak. Ok, this is today's opponent. I'm Wang Kai. Goodbye.