Focusing on the theme of "One Home, One Dream", this is an influential academic forum for Asian experts and the first Asian forum in China with the theme of family education.
Yun Yun was lucky enough to attend the meeting and gained a lot. The essence is as follows.
As a small country, Israel has made remarkable achievements in the fields of science and technology, culture and military affairs.
The Jewish population accounts for less than 3% of the world, and Nobel Prize winners account for 30%, creating one miracle after another.
He owns five kindergartens in Israel and has been with children for more than 20 years.
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First of all, every child needs someone who truly trusts them deeply.
Second, the daily process is very important, which makes them feel safe and willing to accept the unknown. In Israel, it is very important for children to organize their own things and form daily habits.
Third, the connection between education and culture. If every child's education has a deep connection with culture, children will have a good sense of belonging when they grow up.
Fourth, survival skills are so important.
Children of different ages can learn different survival skills and exercise their sense of responsibility. In the kindergarten in Ouren, I will let my 2-year-old children cut paper by themselves with scissors. Children are allowed to go to school independently at the age of 7.
Fifth, allow children to fail.
Let children keep trying and allow them to fail. What parents should do is to accompany, trust and support them and tell them that failure is not terrible, but it is not a substitute. When we allow children to fail, children begin to have their own strength. In life, everything can't be perfect, and children learn valuable lessons from failure. For example, why do parents always encourage children to learn to walk? And when children's grades are not ideal, as parents, do you encourage learning to the same extent as encouraging learning to walk?
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In Israel, every parent realizes that family education is very important, and school education is only to improve family education.
1. Positive attention:
How can we help children express their feelings sincerely? First of all, we should express our feelings vividly.
2. Give children responsibility:
Children in Israel have many extracurricular learning experiences, which makes them responsible for their choices. Getting up by yourself every day is their business, not their parents'.
3. Make children feel bored appropriately
When children are bored, it is precisely the beginning of creativity.
4. High quality time
For the company of family, it is time, not only quantity, but also quality.
In Ou Ren's Home, he emphasized the concept of "family time". Concentrate on the child for at least 30 minutes, no cell phone, no TV, just him. Every Friday, after sunset, the sun sets on Saturday. This time is called the Sabbath, and all family members attend and have dinner together, which is very important for children.
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open-minded
As parents, we must have a very open mind and be willing to accept new things. Our educational philosophy can't rest on its laurels, always keep curiosity and pursuit of new knowledge and new ideas, and encourage children to exert their creativity.
6. Rich extracurricular activities
Instead of letting children learn Chinese, math and English, it is better to encourage their sports and music activities to make their personalities more comprehensive.
1. Encourage questions
Allow children to challenge us, ask questions and encourage them to find their own solutions.
Encourage discussion
Give your child confidence and encourage him to be a little teacher and share it with other students.
Step 3: Positive reinforcement
As an educator, it is very important to respond with positive language. If there is a child sitting there quietly, encourage the child to go out for a walk and run to find his vitality.
Step 4 work together
That's a model to help children enter adulthood.
From an ordinary mother, because of her love of learning, she not only sent her two daughters to Kyoto University in Japan, but also studied as a graduate student at the University of Tokyo, which made her today's Edo Shinji.
Ms. Zhenggui, who is about to run for six, is still gentle, beautiful and intelligent, with a shallow smile. She said that the most important thing in family education is the growth of parents themselves.
In Japanese family education, adults sleep with children and adults eat with children. It's important to go to bed early and get up early for breakfast. Especially breakfast, and mothers take care of their own children, and there is almost no habit of hiring a nanny. Therefore, it is generally believed that Japanese children are very disciplined.
Guizhen is really an "educational mother", that is, she hopes her children will become dragons and her daughters will become the mothers of phoenixes.
1. Expand your horizons.
Parents have their own pattern and internal strength, which is the best guidance for their children. Therefore, it is very important for mothers to go out of the small world at home and go to the big world.
2. Trust children for no reason.
Constantly explore the advantages and strengths of children and tell them specifically.
3. Don't set limits for children.
Fleas can jump 300 times higher than themselves, and 1cm fleas can jump 3 meters. If you set a cover at the height of 10 cm and put it outside, you can only jump 10 cm.
4. Listen to your child.
Don't train children like police. Listening is the best communication, so that children can show their true feelings.
5. Inspiring questions.
Most children nowadays don't like to talk because they are playing games. How to make children talk more, ask more questions and communicate more?
China citizens in Singapore account for 70%. Every couple has two hours of marriage counseling and 12 hours of later counseling when they get married.
Singapore Family Life Association advocates "sincere dialogue", going out of the house and doing one thing together, because "parents should study hard and make progress every day".
September is their family month, March is a marriage seminar, and June is a parent-child meeting.
Singaporean families attach great importance to fathers' participation in family education, which not only helps children grow up, but also promotes the harmony between husband and wife.
Mr. Lee Kuan Yew attaches great importance to reading, and every citizen automatically has a library card after birth. Children learn to read before the age of 9, and learn by reading after the age of 9.
Love is an eternal topic. We don't love harder, but we love smarter.
Harlow's ape experiment tells us that it is either milk or mother, but love is mother.
Unconditional acceptance is to give children a sense of security, treat children fairly and repair negative emotions with positive emotions.
Love is always there. What we need is a heart to find love and feel it.
Love also needs to learn. Do the right thing, do the right thing. From a passive victim to an active actor.
Perhaps the past experience has shaped you today, and today's choices have made you tomorrow. That's how Excellence is cultivated.
Parents are children's first teachers, and families are children's first schools.
IQ is not equal to creativity. It is more important to help children create the inner world than the outer world.
Parents should inspire their children's thinking, not judge their right or wrong.
Give the child what he wants, not what he wants.
what is love ? Conditional love is poison. Don't let "love" become an obstacle. Putting down the perfect requirements for children, I am not a perfect parent myself.
Shut up and be your child's friend instead of always correcting your child's mistakes. Because it is possible to change the listening effect by changing the way of speaking.
"There is always a way" is easier for children to make a breakthrough than no way. Creativity comes from different forms, emphasizing "feeling, imagination, action and sharing" to guide children to exert their creativity.
Parenting is to cultivate yourself and grow up with your children. It is our common responsibility to give our children a happy childhood.
The great contribution of the Chinese nation-filial piety,
It is the way of "expanding goodness" from near to far and from the inside out.
It has become the core of China culture and the foundation of "benevolence".
1. If you haven't read the Book of Filial Piety, first counter the contradiction of "filial piety".
2. In modern times, with the wave of westward advance, westerners are more important to individuals than to their families. They sort by name, with the first name first and the last name last.
Filial piety is misunderstood. Many modern people equate filial piety with filial piety, and children who blindly listen to their parents' opinions are often just unfilial.
4. Filial piety: love, respect (respect parents), joy (make parents happy), worry, honor, remonstrate, show, and sacrifice relatives.
Children's ability to establish relationships is the need of man and nature.
75 years of research at Harvard University has proved that having a good relationship has a high sense of happiness.
1. Look each other in the eye.
2. Physical contact can produce hormones of love.
3. Effective communication: listen carefully; Repeat each other's words, express your views and ask each other's reaction.
In the first three years, if children are not satisfied with love, they will have a traumatic black hole, feel abandoned, be emotionally unstable, and easily cause separation anxiety and cognitive problems.
Education is the process of constructing values.
Generation gap conflict: I don't think the world is like this.
Emotional conflict: I don't think love is expressed like this.
Violated: You must listen to me.
Destructive criticism: humiliation, threats, vagueness.
Establish a relationship of equality and mutual trust, have empathy, reflect sincerely, reduce contradictions and create a good growth environment.
1: Help students grow.
2. Let parents understand the direction of education and the operation of the school.
3. Attract parents to become volunteers and resources.
4. Effectively strive for government support and resource improvement.
Parents and schools work together to fight against bad social atmosphere.
1: Improve parents' ability to educate their children.
2. Understand the education policy and school operation.
3. Cooperate with parents to establish a support system.
4. Promote parent-child relationship
1. Body: gender ambiguity
2. Heart: There is no goal in life.
3. Society: Internet addiction and poor interpersonal relationship.
4. Spirit: Life is fragile and easy to die.
Three noes: impolite, impatient and irresponsible.
Three lows: low emotional intelligence, low self-care ability and low adaptability.
If you think about life seriously, you should know what you are doing and what kind of life you are pursuing.
Life education enables children to learn to care about themselves, others, nature and society, improve their quality of life and understand the meaning of life.
1. Positive outlook on life
2. Settled values.
3. Individual harmony and balance "body, mind, society and spirit"
Great changes have taken place in transportation and communication tools, but our educational model has not changed much for more than 100 years.
The school's training of children according to the syllabus has not cultivated creative children. Educators face the greatest difficulty, and the children they cultivate don't know what kind of future to prepare.
The core of family education is 4C+ 1+ 1.
Families should establish barrier-free communication channels;
Nowadays, children and parents have been able to communicate on an equal footing;
But because of the influence of social media, family communication is far from enough.
Understand the logic between things;
Reflect on the legitimacy of self-worth;
A widely used field of thinking.
Allow and give children enough time to find problems;
Define problems and find solutions;
Methods and practical conclusions of brainstorming to solve problems.
Creativity is the foundation of starting a business, and innovation is an essential survival skill.
In addition to your original theme, develop a completely different theme.
Allow children to touch different fields. From "learning once" to "keeping pace with the times"
What China and India have in common: generations live together, and family ties are very important. Children learn Chinese from primary school, which is the survival skill he needs in the future.
Family education equation: 6C+ caring mother+well-educated family = harmonious society and harmonious family.
Family education is the core of learning. Confucius famously said, "Education breeds self-confidence, self-confidence breeds hope and hope breeds peace".
Asking questions has nothing to do with authority: asking questions is very important for children, and our education has taught too many concepts.
With a population of only 8 million, Israel has made remarkable achievements in various fields because of the inheritance of education.
Everyone is born with unique talents and characteristics. Education has changed children from different to the same, and now education has lost everyone's uniqueness. Parents in the new era must be people who keep pace with the times.
1. Really teach students in accordance with their aptitude at home.
2. The power of home
3. Mothers' responsibilities
4. Father's responsibility
Smart people will only learn from people smarter than themselves, and truly smart people will learn from everyone. Jewish prophet
The world is beautiful because of differences,
The most precious thing for every child is that he is different.
He is the founder of the vitality system that loves nature.
Vice President of Family Education Research Institute of China Life Science Society,
China family education expert,
Lin Qingxian, the word Chen Heng.
Heaven is about love,
Human nature is related to desire,
If parents don't understand love,
Will love children with fear and worry,
Then what children feel is anxiety and fear.
If parents love each other and heaven and man are one,
Then the child bathed in love.
How did love pass?
Some people are talking and attracting people.
Some people talk and run away.
If parents,
Asking children to live their own lives,
I lost myself.
The best family education,
Live a good life and love life,
Children can be themselves.
The money family has been enduring for thousands of years. There are 1000 celebrities recognized in China. Why are they so peaceful for generations?
When I really entered the Qianjia School, it didn't stop my ancestors from reading family instructions in Qianjia School 1000, sharing the wisdom in family instructions, and the spiritual value of family instructions: saving the country by reading.
The four recognized saints: Confucius, Mencius, Zhu and Wang Yangming, devoted themselves to morality 1000, and worked for the welfare of the country and saved the country and the people. Every generation of them should run private schools so that local children can study for free.
China is a must for Zhuge Liang's descendants to gossip about strange villages. The spiritual orientation of family precepts is: if you are not a good doctor, you are a good doctor.
The Qiao Family Courtyard, Huitong accounted for one-seventh of the national treasury at that time, and the spiritual orientation of family training was: to speak out bravely, to educate men from an early age, and to aim at all directions.
The power of family style is that even if you are not here,
Still conveying the spirit,
This is the unique family culture of our Chinese nation.
This is our ancestor, our root.
How to make our children have good luck and good fortune in this life?
What happens to us every day determines our fate.
How do the key good things and bad things happen?
How do we make children become good people?
Song of the Good Man by Chen Jiru, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty: Everything in the world is born, and only people are the most expensive ...
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The key to success in life is 30%
1. Adults, when interacting with others, make others feel good.
2. To become a talent, reading is not just reading, but understanding.
3. If you succeed, some people are good people and have accomplished nothing in their lives. Some people are very knowledgeable, but they can't meet their talents all their lives, so the key lies in action, but it's equally embarrassing to be diligent without wisdom.
It is spiritual inheritance.
Wealth has a way, the way is invisible, the spirit is invisible, and the spirit is more obvious than wealth.