Bias 1. American college entrance examination is easier than China's.
Let's talk about the college entrance examination first. As the most important part of a child's student career, when it comes to education. The college entrance examination in China has been demonized by teachers and parents. Although this is actually just one of many experiences that need to be experienced in life, and it is not really important enough to determine your path in the next few decades, there are still countless students who are under great pressure for this exam every year.
It doesn't prove that it is easier to attend a prestigious school in the United States than at home. On the contrary, but even so. To some extent, it is not easy for the United States to get into Harvard than for Tsinghua and Peking University at home.
College entrance examination score is the only criterion for college admission, China. This is almost the only way to give birth to your son. Although there are many shortcomings, it is basically the fairest admission method. In the United States, the premise of being admitted to a prestigious school often requires you to have a superior family environment and excellent comprehensive quality in all aspects. It is equivalent to the national college entrance examination in China, SA T. You can take it many times in the United States, but you also need to get a high score, and this score is only one of the reference standards.
Most of them have been studying in expensive private schools since childhood. If American children want to go to an Ivy League school. Musical instruments, sports, foreign languages, art, etc. Everyone needs to master it, and in addition, he should participate in various activities, such as volunteering, joining clubs, charitable activities, acting and competitions. Because these will be one of the important materials for reference when applying for a university. In addition, applicants need excellent letters of recommendation and refreshing letters of recommendation. Then submit the information to the admissions officer for review and decide whether to admit. In short, it needs to be excellent in all aspects. If one day, China also changes to this form in which examiners decide whether to accept or not according to their preferences, I'm afraid more parents will object.
Prejudice 2. China's parents are both wolf fathers, and American parents are both cat mothers.
It is easy to understand why American parents are not as gentle as they are told, and it is not easier for American children to go to college than for China children.
Some people say that China's parents are too utilitarian. American parents care more about you than happiness. This statement is indeed biased. Because of the different laws and cultures, American parents don't educate their children by corporal punishment or abuse, but this doesn't mean that American cat mothers are sick cats.
Parents will also arrange a very vivid schedule for their children after class, in a relatively good white family. Taekwondo, foreign languages, violin and painting all need to be fully cultivated. When the child's effect is not good, American parents will also go to the teacher to ask why they should care about their children's learning situation at school. When children apply for universities, parents will also help them find various internship opportunities, in order to have a beautiful and substantial application materials so that children can apply for a better university. In the discipline of children, the biggest difference between China and the United States is the way of discipline, not the depth of hierarchy.
Play is an important indicator of a good university in the future. Playing is also going to famous places to play. The so-called American students who have been circulating in China for a long time spent their childhood playing, probably because China people think that they can "play" everything except Chinese, math and English.
China families face more resistance. Apart from occasional prejudice and discrimination, it is a tough battle for white children from wealthy families in the United States to go to famous schools. In order for future generations to gain a firm foothold in the United States, China's parents often suggest engaging in high-status and well-paid industries such as medicine and law. High income often means fierce competition, and all parents and children in China are striving for the future. So people in China think that immigrating to the United States will liberate children, but it is not.
Prejudice 3. American children are independent and American parents will not interfere.
? The hearsay version always gives people a feeling of indifference in American parent-child relationship. China, if you don't really understand the life of white American families. You will see that too many American children pay their own tuition fees, and once they become adults, their parents will cut off financial support; Moreover, in the United States, children have great freedom in what they do and choose, and parents will not interfere.
But it can never be said to be the mainstream of society. Since the birth of the child, although these situations will happen in the United States. American parents spend as much time and energy on their children as their parents in China. In addition to caring about children's mental health, learning effect and arranging extracurricular activities, they will also make suggestions on their choice of college majors. Many American parents will also prevent their children from studying their favorite but seemingly hopeless majors. This is exactly the same as many parents in China.
Tuition in American universities is actually not low. In addition The more famous private schools, the higher the tuition fees. Although ordinary universities will provide scholarships, grants, etc., the rest of the expenses are basically borne by parents. Because Americans generally have no habit of saving money, some families can only choose between paying their children's college tuition and asking for their own retirement.
It is true that 62% of the young people aged 18-34 live in their own houses with their spouses or partners. As for the argument that children will definitely go to the secular door and start their own businesses when they grow up, it has become increasingly untenable in recent years. In the 1960s. But this data is already at its peak. Since the American economic recession in 2008, young people's low wages and high housing prices have gradually made him unaffordable. Many young people choose to continue to live with their parents when they are adults to save some rental expenses.
What is the real difference between American parents and China parents?
It can be seen that many of my stereotypes about American education or American parents are wrong. There is no place in the world where people can enjoy their achievements. No parents will ignore their children's growth, and finish the above prejudice. Let it be, especially in America. Many people, whether later American rich or American president, recall that their parents were very strict with their life and study when they were young, and it was this strictness that led to their later victory.
Attitude towards children's private life and emotional problems. Generally speaking, the phenomenon of "puppy love" and "forced marriage" peculiar to China does not exist in the United States. Parents in China often talk about the biggest difference between Chinese and western parents on the grounds that they should take their studies seriously and prepare for the college entrance examination. Be alert to all kinds of emotional pains in children's adolescence. Looking through children's mobile phone messages, going to school to find a teacher to understand the situation, and picking up children at the school gate are not uncommon. Cats and mice are often staged between parents and children; A thrilling drama of investigation and counter-investigation. After the child graduated from college, parents forced the child to get married as soon as possible on the grounds of marriage age. These behaviors reflect that some parents in China do not respect their children's privacy and interfere too much with their children's emotional problems.
Due to the open cultural radicalism of the country and people's strong pursuit of individuality and self, in the United States. Parents usually don't care much about their children's emotional problems. Parents often take a tolerant attitude towards this ignorant emotion in adolescence, treating it as a normal emotion and a friendly exchange between boys and girls. In addition, the school will provide children with relevant knowledge about sex in advance, so that children don't misunderstand sex. As for when to get married, when to have children, how many boys and girls to have, etc., it is even beyond the scope of parents' worry.
When parents educate their children in China, they usually. We will absorb Chinese and western educational ideas for comprehensive education. On the issue of puppy love, it will not be regarded as a scourge like in China, and even some parents will drive their children to a date because they are not old enough to take a driver's license. China's emphasis on filial piety, children's respect for their parents, and so on will be like China, rather than blindly emphasizing equality like the West. Because children have implicit and radical oriental ancestry but grew up in the open and enthusiastic west, China parents need to skillfully balance the differences between Chinese and western education when educating their children, absorb the essence of both sides and educate their children better.