Although I have never read Mr. Sun Yunxiao's works, I have long heard of his name and educational views, and I admire him very much in my heart. So when I borrowed books from the school library during the holiday, I did not hesitate to choose the book "Education starts with respect". I studied this book in depth during the holiday, and I think I am not wrong. It is indeed a good book worth reading by parents and educators.
Education Begins with Respect is divided into seven chapters, each of which is very exciting and beneficial. Based on the educational experience and sentiment of an only-child father, this book explains the true meaning of education-love and respect through vivid and interesting educational examples. The book contains Sun's unique discoveries and profound insights, as well as wonderful cases and practical suggestions. This is a work that Sun boasts of educating his children for his father. It is a faithful record of China's father's education, with sincere feelings and heartfelt words, integrating experience, appreciation and operability.
Reading this book, we can always feel Mr. Sun's trust and care for teenagers and children, and his deep anxiety and reflection on contemporary education, which makes people unconsciously resonate with him. "The premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children." This view of Teacher Sun runs through the whole book and his education of his daughter Sun Ran. With the deepening of reading, I agree with this view more and more.
In the second chapter of this book, the author mentioned that children's rights should be respected. Only by being respected can children gain self-esteem and learn to respect others. Therefore, we adults should protect children's awareness of rights and give them enough respect. To respect children, we must respect their rights to survival, development, protection and privacy. In real life, these rights of children are often greatly discounted, and their rights are often violated. Some parents often regard their children as their appendages, and plan everything for their children from kindergarten to primary school and middle school, to which university their children will go to, and even to what occupation they will engage in in in the future. Everything about the children is under their arrangement, and they have no right to choose, regardless of their true feelings.
If children don't listen to the arrangement and do what they want, parents will say that everything is for their children under the banner of love. In this case, many children have lost the respect they should enjoy as independent individuals, and they are miserable, and some even have rebellious psychology and make excessive behaviors. This can not help but make us think, as parents and teachers, how should we educate our children? How to respect children? On this issue, Teacher Sun has set a good example for us. When her daughter enters junior high school, junior high school and university, Mr. Sun lets her decide for herself. As a father, he just gave her some advice. His education has given children enough respect, strengthened their awareness of rights, perfected their personality and made them more independent. This is exactly what we should learn as parents and teachers.
Without respect, there is no education. Only those who are respected can truly learn self-esteem, and only self-esteem can learn to be a man. As parents and teachers, we treat every child equally, give them enough respect and let their personality develop healthily.
In the third chapter of the book, the author also mentioned that children should be given free time, which I quite agree with. Today's era is an era of accelerated pace of life and fierce competition. In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, parents hope that their children can arrange their time according to their own requirements and that their lives are not in danger. As a result, some parents really want to seize every minute of their children, and every minute of their children is arranged, which makes them extremely nervous. Children's schoolwork burden is heavy enough. Weekends should be a happy time for children to relax, but some parents arrange various classes for their children, and parents are nervous when their children are free.
According to the survey, the average disposable time of the only child in China city is only 68 minutes per day. Under the arrangement of parents, children lose themselves and almost become learning robots, so that they become more and more lazy, numb, passive and even lose their enthusiasm for learning. This cannot but make us feel sad. Depriving children of their free time is actually depriving them of opportunities for growth and development. Through chatting with parents, I found that many children left their parents' arrangements and their free time became at a loss. The same is true in class. Some children don't know what to do after completing the tasks assigned by the teacher. The reason is that we give our children too little free time, and they don't know how to arrange their time. Therefore, as parents and teachers, we should change our ideas, give our children enough free time, help them use their time effectively, discover the joy of life, show their talents and let them grow up healthily and naturally.
The premise of education is respect, and respect is more important than love. The fundamental purpose of education is to teach students to learn to be a man, and the most fundamental quality of being a man is respect. As parents and teachers, we should sow the seeds of love and respect in children's hearts from an early age, so that children can get due respect and learn to respect others. Only by gaining self-esteem and learning to respect can we respect parents and families, teachers and schools, and society and the country. Only in this way can our quality education be truly realized, the quality of our students and citizens can be truly improved, and our society can be truly advanced.
Thank you for letting me meet you in the vast sea of books and let me understand the true meaning of education-education begins with respect! Thanks to teacher Sun Yunxiao's advice, I know how to be a good parent and teacher. In the future education, I will have more understanding and respect for children, so that children and students can grow up healthily.