? I feel extremely lucky to be attached to Mr. Hu and Mr. Jia. Every time I come to Hongbo education, I feel very tired and tired, and I am saving my strength outside. After listening to Mr. Hu's lecture that night, I thought it was the best New Year gift for Youyu's parents. Mr. Hu is humorous, hits the essence of the problem directly, and deeply attracts every mom and dad present. It also made me gain a lot. All the unpleasant scenes in my life with my husband and children jumped out. I summed up some points I haven't done and some of my efforts: 1. Modify the content. Example: Yesterday, the boss was unhappy. Keep pouting. Say nothing. I really don't like her angry personality, which is often puzzling. Say in a bad tone: what did you say? Why are you always angry for no reason? Her tears are spinning. I realized that I was wrong, so I took her into my arms and said that no matter what happened, my mother would always accompany you and support you. Mom wants to share your unhappiness. The child immediately said his own problems, and after my enlightenment, the child was relieved. There was a smile on his face again. I suddenly realized that in fact, children are unhappy for a reason, not because adults think it is inexplicable. Especially for children with delicate feelings, we should learn how to guide them to express their inner feelings. That is empathy. Learning to empathize is half the battle. 2. Catch him. Example: There was a power outage last night, and it was already 9 o'clock when I got home. When I turned on the tap, I found that the water was cut off. I said, alas, the water is cut off, and the children can't even drink water. At this time, my husband said: Haha, you see how smart I am. The first thing I do when I go home is to get water, food and food. Everything is ready. I immediately thought of what Mr. Hu said about holding him. I said, it is with such a wise father that children have water to drink. Children, clap for your father. The children are especially cooperative. Still holding my father and saying: thank you, my good father. Last night, the atmosphere was good. My husband who likes watching movies also joined our parent-child activities. The family played a story about Snow White happily. Lying there last night, I have a new understanding of a sentence: if I am well, it will be sunny. When I changed, so did my family.

Text: Sun Hui

? Teacher Hu's lectures are easy to understand, and I have sorted out my feelings as follows: 1. There is only ourselves and no one else in the world. Children's problems and lovers' problems are all our own problems. What we accumulate every day is reflected in children's education and gender relations. Try to change yourself first, you have changed, everything around you has changed! If it still doesn't work after a while, then find the reason again, because the problem will always be solved. Reading will make us grow faster. Reading will make us constantly reflect and grow. Reading is the history of our spiritual growth. If we stagnate, we will complain, care and cause a lot of trouble, which will make all of us in a bad state. When we have no soul mates and friends, books are our best friends. She doesn't argue, she doesn't argue, she is there waiting for you, accompanying you and loving you! So put down the phone and let the book become our friend and "little lover". 3. live wisely. The problem is only a phenomenon, but a result. When we have a problem, we need to trace back to the source and see the source of the problem. Smart people are afraid of reasons. See if we put the cart before the horse when dealing with problems in our daily life. As Mr. Hu said, sometimes I don't pay attention to children, and all kinds of educational problems of children are the result of my own ignorance of life. Reflect on myself and give my time back to my child, because I can spend little time with him. The above is my simple experience, and I will send it out to discuss and exchange with you.

Text: Li Yong

65438+10.7, Mr. Hu came from afar and solved the problem that had been bothering him for a long time.

The first question: If children are not confident, how can parents guide them?

It turned out that the mother's lack of confidence and her failure to accept herself led to her lack of confidence in her children. Teacher Hu suggested reciting "accept yourself" every morning to treat the "children" in your heart, accept your own good and bad, accept everything about yourself, and finally accept everything about your children.

Learn to accept children, what should I do next? Teacher Hu gave several measures.

(1) Accept children.

(2) Let children express. Pull the child to a place where no one is there, guide him to express his inner thoughts, and let the child fully speak out.

(3) Define "emotion" accurately. It's discontent, injustice, anger, anger, resentment ... do it yourself.

(4) Conduct a "drill".

For example, what should parents do if a child accidentally breaks an expensive small pot full of water? ?

First of all, keep a gentle attitude towards the child and ask him if he is injured. Then study the shape of this beach with the children. Give full play to your imagination, such as Nanshan Lake or Haiziwan ... then put a boat in and recall the happiness of traveling with your children ... After having fun, let your children bring tools to clean up the debris on the ground. The next day, call the child to the front, ask how to hold the pot the day before yesterday, and then give the child the correct way to hold the pot.

The second question: children have been playing mobile phones, and parents have always said "Don't play mobile phones, don't play mobile phones", which has little effect. How should parents discipline their children?

Teacher Hu suggested that children play with mobile phones, because everyone has the nature of "pursuing happiness and avoiding pain". The reason why mobile phones bring happiness to children is because the home built by parents is too painful. This kind of environment is like a "green leather train", with too loud decibels, noisy voices, too many negative emotions and disharmony. So how to change this environment?

(1) Watch your mouth and shut up.

(2) modify the "content". Get rid of "I told you several times" and so on.

(3) Cultivate "facial expressions".

? If you want to cultivate a great man like Obama, you must learn from Obama's mother. She has been working hard, making progress and persisting. At the age of 59, she published her doctoral thesis "Microfinance …", which had a great influence all over the world ... As a single mother, she would say "I love you, I love you …" every time she saw her son. She creates an elegant and noble environment like the inside of an airplane and cultivates talents.

The third question: how to train children to the standard you want?

Teacher Hu said, "Confucianism shows Buddha's heart and Taoism is ancient." Very shocking! What is this "Tao"?

Men's steel bones. The will of steel. If a person has a steel skeleton, learning is like rain in Mao Mao ... Teacher Hu said.

? Children's learning state is determined by their living state.

? Children's living conditions are determined by their parents' living conditions.

? Parents' living conditions are sunny, optimistic and enterprising, and so are their children's living conditions.

? This way is: the child is what you want him to be ... You want him to be happy, sunny, hardworking, caring, noble, elegant, responsible and full of positive energy ... He is what you want ... It's amazing. This "Tao" can be used for children before 18 years old, and also for adults over 40 years old.

It feels like Life is Like Waves written by Hai. Everyone's vitality is like a flowing wave, everyone has his own mission, and everyone should go with the flow.

If it is not interrupted, the child will grow up completely. The "management" of children helps children know themselves in life, which is the uniqueness of live high. Let the child become what he wants to be.

Teacher Hu said: the combination of surgery and Taoism.

(1) "Confirm" the advantages of children.

(2) Time planning and mind mapping.

(3) the education of "rules and love".

(4) Write down the "Observation Log". Record the small changes of children, so as to correct the disharmony between children and parents in the future.

The fourth question: How does a mother become the spiritual leader of children and fathers?

Teacher Hu said:

The relationship between the sexes determines the parent-child relationship. ?

Family relationships determine interpersonal relationships.

Mom is in a good mood and has the power to accept. "Home" has changed, and so has the world around her. Mom "changed", children will change, and so will dad. Everything is going well at home, I firmly believe that.

? If you always talk about positive energy, if you can become a person who spits lotus flowers, it is a very high virtue. Let us believe in this magical power, and our acceptance makes children happy!

Card introduction:

1, children's picture book borrowing system: ordinary member: 280 yuan/three months; Gold card member: 480 yuan/half a year; Diamond Annual Card Member: 780/ year. Borrow five books at a time, and change books unlimited times. Welcome to the library to read for free at any time!

2. Borrowing system for primary and secondary school students: Annual membership card: 300 yuan/year, one book at a time, and there is no limit on the number of books exchanged!

Note: The library is closed on Wednesday to sort out books, and the rest are open all day. Come to the library to change books at any time, and read as many times as you want!

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