However, in real life, many parents mistakenly think that sex education is "sexual intercourse education". This misunderstanding of sex education underestimates children's correct cognitive ability to sex, leaving behind shortcomings and hidden dangers for children to form a healthy and scientific sexual psychological development. How to grasp the discretion in children's sex education? Recently, another child abuse incident occurred in kindergarten. So, how should parents educate their children about sex? Behind the child abuse case in kindergarten is the lack of sex education for children. How to educate children about sex?
When a child grows up, he will ask his parents where he came from.
What's your answer? I am embarrassed to tell the truth, so I have to make up a story to tell my child that he was born from a stone like the Monkey King, or was taken out of the hospital with gangsters, or seized the opportunity of sex education to tell my child that he was born from his mother's womb.
When children ask their parents: Why do boys and girls have different postures when going to the toilet? How should you answer? If you talk too much, you will feel embarrassed, and then you will talk less. Afraid that children don't trust their parents, listen to their parents and absorb the wrong information from outside.
When children watch TV and ask you what rape is and what Viagra is, how do you explain it?
If your answer is to let them go back to school and ask the teacher, I'm afraid you are even more evasive about sexual knowledge.
Let children know how to respect and protect their bodies.
Usually, when taking a bath for your child, you can easily tell the child where all parts of the body touch, such as kissing the cheek, but only for relatives. When a third party is present, you can hold hands with others, but under certain circumstances, the genitals must not be touched, even through clothes and gloves.
Teaching children to protect their health is not limited to girls, but also to boys.
Because in today's social news, there are more and more little boys who have been violated by mentally abnormal elements. In addition, children should be taught how to protect themselves from strangers' interference in life, between going in and out of the house and in a strange environment.
Children should have a positive experience and image of all parts of the body.
First of all, parents should establish their own psychology and their bodies should be respected and affirmed.
If the parents' response to their children's genital exploration is sadness, scolding or punishment, they may make the children think that the happiness gained in this way is wrong. This kind of information may hinder the child's ability to accept and give sexual pleasure, and ultimately interfere with the ability to establish love and intimacy.
Replacing sexual desire with sexual desire can enhance children's self-esteem, establish a positive body image and stimulate children's ability and determination, but sexual performance must be guided by parents.
Parents should also use the right words. Parents sometimes use simple words (sometimes not even words) to describe sexual structures. For example, using "boo" or "ass" will make children feel negative information about sex, because such words seem to imply that compared with other parts of the body, such as nose, ears and knees, sexual organs (such as vulva and pills) are very different, and it is embarrassing to feel mysterious or taboo, which will affect health care habits and concepts, and even affect adolescent views on the opposite sex. People who usually have negative significance to their bodies will also have negative images of the opposite sex, which will lead to adolescent deviant behaviors, such as rape and abuse.
Discuss sex with your child in a positive manner.
Parents should take the initiative to propose topics related to reproduction and sex that are suitable for all ages, interests and understandings.
For example, when a relative or friend is pregnant, it is the right time to explain to the child how the baby is stored in the mother's body and use the correct terminology.
For example, a baby grows in a woman's womb, and it is necessary to correctly describe the uterus as a special place like a hotbed. A more positive attitude is that the mother told the child that she had some feelings and expectations when she was pregnant with him, pointing to the child's navel and saying that this was the part that had been connected with her mother.
This objective and meaningful way will make children have a correct view and meaning of sex, and they will no longer be vague and have too many illusions.
A more important reminder is that parents' own understanding and views on sex must be healthy.
If adults are addicted to biased sex videos and immersed in the amazing effect of Wei Gang, how can they teach the next generation a healthy concept of sex? If children's sex education is done well, sexual assault, rape and incest in social news will be minimized. I hope to remind educational units to do a good job in children's sex education and pay attention to the mental health of the next generation.