The problems of family education in recent years are very similar to reading: top-down attention and the importance of being known by everyone; Many schools build parent classrooms to popularize family education for parents, and many primary school teachers force their children to study by "punching in". The result is remarkable. At least every parent verbally admits that "children's problems are parents' problems." The problem with reading is that every parent admits that "reading is very important" and rarely hears "I can't understand all Chinese characters during the exam? "Argument. Although 120% of the population is duplicitous; Know that 40% to 50% can't do it; 20% to 30% people want to do things they don't know how to do, and less than 120% people know how to learn and change.
There are more and more people who regard family education as an industry and career, including psychological professionals, parents who have failed in family education and have been doctors for a long time, and caring people in the field of education. The first two talk more about "parent-child, empathy and communication". It is inevitable that sometimes class sounds right, but it will not be after class. After listening to what you have learned, you will have a feeling of "just that set" for a long time; The latter is more about the "role model" of education, which helps a little, but because there is no title of teacher, it is a pity that if you don't be a class teacher, you rarely have the opportunity to "preach" to your parents.
I read a few books, listened to classes for a few days, took the certificate of "Senior Lecturer in Family Education", and then "practiced" in the dual education practice of my children and educational institutions. He also lectured in the auditoriums of several schools, and often "pointed" parents in his own teaching and training institutions. I despise all kinds of skilled family education, that is, "parent-child", "empathy" and "communication", because it is almost useless. Family education problems break out in children's primary and secondary schools, and parents of kindergartens and college students are hardly bothered by family education. Why? Because children need help when they are students, and parents can't give it, contradictions and conflicts appear. Children come back with a big duck egg after every exam, or homework is delayed until early morning every day, or parents are called by school teachers every day. Do you also ask parents to "empathize" with their children's heads and say that they are not easy? ..... It's a little easy to stand and talk.
Said a lot of nonsense, back to today's topic, based on parents with family education awareness, the triple realm of family education. I hope to help believers find the direction of "practice". I'm still trying to climb from second place to third place.
First, no skills: remember the theory of family education and apply it to practice.
Families in this realm can basically live in peace, because under the support of various family education theories, parents can "advance and retreat according to the facts". For example, if their children fail in the exam, they will know that their children are also very uncomfortable and will not "attack" their children at home. For example, if you are criticized by a teacher, you will analyze and judge whether the teacher's practice is reasonable from a "professional" point of view, and you will not take it out on your child easily. Solving the problem of children's "living environment" is of little help to children's growth. There is neither methodological guidance nor spiritual energy input to guide children upward.
Second-Skill: Mastering the theory of family education can also give children a lot of useful help in their studies.
Parents in this realm will not stick to the theory when they understand, digest and absorb the family education theory, which makes people feel that the theory is useless. In children's study, life and interpersonal relationships, appropriate help and guidance can be given, such as helping children choose long-term effective learning methods, stimulating their learning ability, helping children set up their life ideals, defining their learning goals, and preparing their learning potential in advance, instead of short-sighted staring at the next exam results, taking the exam as the purpose of learning and taking further study as the ideal of life. Children's problems can go straight to the essence rather than the phenomenon. For example, children's homework is procrastinating, and the essence may be that knowledge is not well mastered, and the phenomenon is muddling along; Helping children to consolidate what they have learned is the essence of the problem, and urging criticism to focus on learning is the essence of phenomenon.
Third-virtuous and clever: three views are correct, the pattern is high, and words and deeds teach.
This is the highest state. A child with such parents should have been a good person who saved his whole life in his last life. Parents are good at learning and thinking, and they must be positive and successful in many careers. Children will not be mentally abused when they are young, but will be trapped in study and life. Parents have always been the guides. The water that children should trip over will make them trip over, and the mountain that they should climb over will make them climb over. They have clear goals, aim at the distance, and have no doting and confusion. Will not be exquisite and selfish, will not be short-sighted, will not panic because of an exam failure, will not deny themselves because of a teacher's criticism; Calm down, introspect and be kind.
Among the parents I contact, there are many people from the three circles. Of course, there are also many people outside the realm-unconsciously, giving children what they can give, what they want to give, and the rest are nothing.
What floor do you live on?