Children's development includes knowledge learning, specialty development, self-care ability, communication ability, safety awareness, etc., which are all important parts of children's all-round development that cannot be ignored. Children's development should be healthy, happy, harmonious and sustainable.
Susan Stiefel, a well-known child-rearing expert in the best-selling books Parenting Without Confrontation and Growing into a Better Self with Children, said: "As parents, we should actively help our children build up their self-confidence, develop their learning ability, and guide them to burn their passion for life, understand and achieve their goals."
Parents have a great responsibility to let their children develop in an all-round way and better stand on the society in the future. Parents must pay attention to the following six aspects.
1, discover and cultivate children's specialties
Every child is unique and has its advantages and disadvantages. Parents can observe and discover their children's unique talents and talents in daily life and school environment, and cultivate and develop their interests according to these advantages. Parents should also actively develop their hobbies. When children see you trying new things, they will inspire them to do the same thing.
2. Praise and encourage children correctly
When a child completes a thing well, many parents will praise it like this: "Wow, well done, you are so smart!" " "In fact, this way of praising and encouraging children is wrong.
Carol Dwek, a professor of behavioral psychology at Stanford University, confirmed that praising children's talents and abilities is harmful to children. Professor Dwek suggested that parents should not label their children as "smart" or "genius" when praising their children, but should pay more attention to affirming their efforts.
The correct way to praise is: "Wow, well done, you must have worked hard before!" " "Because parents label their children as" smart "or" genius ",they will form a fixed mentality, thinking that their achievements come from natural abilities and are unwilling to accept more challenges.
If parents praise their children's efforts, they will become a person with growing mentality, and they are more willing to face more difficult challenges by learning new skills.
3. Respect children's different learning styles.
Every child learns in a different way. Some children are visual, and their main channel of acquiring knowledge is watching. Parents can use colorful pictures to stimulate, attract their attention, improve their interest in learning and enhance the learning effect.
Some children are auditory, and their main channel of acquiring knowledge is watching. Therefore, parents should mobilize their children's ability to listen well and improve their interest in learning by playing recordings and explaining.
There is another kind of children who are tactile. This kind of children like hands-on operation, learning knowledge and developing thinking in operation. Parents can give these children a chance to do things and let them learn by doing.
4. Encourage children to read more books.
When you pick up a book and tell a story to your child, the cultivation of your child's emotional intelligence begins. Even if your child is still very young and can't understand every word you say, he will pay attention to the rhythm of the language and gradually learn to understand some listening vocabulary.
Parents should encourage their children to read more books, which can improve their reading ability and learn to communicate in language, making it easier to succeed in school and society in the future.
5. Eat with children.
Recent statistics in the United States clearly tell people that children who eat at the same table with their families will be healthier, happier and have better academic performance.
The study also shows that the higher the frequency of family members eating together, the less likely children at home are to smoke, drink, take drugs, be depressed, have eating disorders and commit suicide.
However, in today's fast-paced modern life, many families are busy with work and cannot accompany their children to eat. You know, a meal can also make children receive education and gain something.
A study conducted by Columbia University shows that children who eat at least five meals a week with their families are more likely to get higher grades in school and are less likely to suffer from eating disorders.
6. Give your child a warm hug.
Dr. Herold Fowles, a famous American psychologist, found that hugging can make people younger and more energetic, and it can also bring people closer together. Children who often hug their parents have much higher psychological quality than children who have a tense relationship with their parents.
Research shows that children who lack emotional warmth for a long time will face long-term stress, which may lead to their inability to concentrate on learning and thinking.
When the family hugs the child, the child's brain will be positively stimulated, which can promote the child's intellectual development and emotional development. Warm hugs can also give children a sense of security, ease their nervousness and promote their healthy growth.
"If you want to improve your child's ability, you need to do your best and persevere." Michele Borba, an American parenting expert who won the National Educator Medal, said.
Children are the hope of the family and the future of the country. All-round development can adapt to social development and progress. Parents must persevere in the process of parenting.