Discover the beauty of life and experience the happiness of life.

Abstract: Leisure and entertainment have no place in people's life in China, which is caused by long-term cultural tradition and value orientation. This has caused two sad and ridiculous problems: first, leisure and entertainment are excluded from individual concepts; Secondly, people engaged in leisure and entertainment are under heavy pressure from public opinion. It is the mission and value of this paper to revise and explore the psychological motivation of China people to engage in leisure and entertainment activities and explore the law of how to engage in leisure and entertainment.

[Keywords:] leisure and entertainment psychological mature role invisible

I. Introduction

There is such a gentleman, regarded as a leading scholar, and disciples from all over the country get together to celebrate his 95th birthday. Everyone praised Mr. Wang's landmark achievements in his academic exploration career and his reputation of teaching and educating people. Mr. Wang smiled indifferently and motioned for fresh air outside the hospital.

Mr. Wang's apartment is located in the corner of the campus of South China First University. His disciples surrounded him outside the villa, and the prospect of the university campus came into view. Under the big banyan tree, a group of children are playing billiards, squatting for a while, squatting for a while, holding their breath, and laughing loudly. A young student-looking man and woman are sitting on a stone bench by the pond. The boy was radiant and the girl smiled and snuggled up. A young couple followed the pedaling child. Dad shouted for refueling happily, and mom shouted for caution anxiously ... Mr. Wang watched intently, and two lines of muddy tears flowed out of his deep eyes. Disciple was inexplicably frightened: Sir, what's the matter?

Mr. Wang was deeply attracted by what he saw. What a beautiful picture of life this is, and he seems to have never experienced it in his life. Mr. Wang returned to his room and wrote a sonnet entitled "My Heart and Heart": childhood fame education, away from games; Teenagers pursue Excellence and devote themselves to studying abroad;

Young people struggle in foreign countries, and love blooms alone; There is no warm season for middle-aged people to serve the country; Adding the reputation of the old man drowned the applause of the flowers; I don't think the oil is used up. When can I feel at ease for a while? Looking forward to life like a dream, everything starts from scratch.

What did Mr. Wang realize when his life was coming to an end?

On the big stage of life, leisure and entertainment is a colorful picture and a musical song. Life without colors and songs is meaningless and lonely. Look at the quality of life of ourselves and people we know well. Generally speaking, leisure and entertainment are generally lacking and distorted in public life. The meaning of life, in terms of its ultimate value and the most real meaning, is our inner feeling, "How is my mood now?"

Because the mainstream values and cultural traditions of our society advocate the orientation of creation and struggle, we avoid and suppress human nature's preference for relaxation and enjoyment. This directly leads to the situation that leisure and entertainment have "no proper value recognition and lack of proper time and space" in our life. Therefore, it is a very meaningful job to revise the values and behavior orientation of Chinese people about leisure and entertainment.

Second, the psychological motivation of leisure and entertainment

The value and function of leisure and entertainment can be reflected in at least the following ten aspects, which is our keen psychological motivation:

(A) to break through the survival dilemma

The monotony of daily life, the hardship of study and work, the tangible and intangible constraints, the disharmony between body and mind, the dilemma of state depression, and the pain of a "bright" future are the survival dilemmas that each of us can't escape. In real life, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks and face helplessness. Psychological research shows that focusing on an object or situation that makes people angry, sad, anxious and helpless will produce a vicious circle effect, such as narrowing the scope of consciousness, declining the level of wisdom, dying of will, rising of non-constructive behavior and so on. If the individual's attention shifts to irrelevant activities, the individual can effectively realize the self-improvement of "looking at the problem from another angle and regaining confidence and wisdom". According to this principle, we adopt the strategy of attention transfer, with the help of appropriate leisure activities, to achieve the purpose of adjusting life schedule, making up for physical and mental deficiencies, restoring abundant physical strength and maintaining physical and mental health.

(B) vent negative emotions

Contrary to positive emotions, positive emotions are valuable energy for constructive activities, while negative emotions are destructive energy. The generation and accumulation of this energy will be released in two ways: first, the external attack orientation of passively facing real life and impulsively dealing with specific problems will make the situation worse and the problem more difficult to solve; Second, it shows the self-attack orientation of self-blame, guilt, inferiority and self-punishment, which leads to various psychosomatic problems. According to the "all-round stimulation and maintenance of positive emotions" of emotional management, boost and cheer for constructive life goals; Monitor and release negative emotions through multiple channels, and adjust and guarantee a harmonious life state. "Individuals take the initiative to incorporate leisure and entertainment activities into their life schedules. In relaxing and entertaining, they can get rid of heavy mental depression, relieve negative emotions, release irrational impulses, and gain reasons and courage to recuperate and start over.

(C) improve personal value

The research of self-esteem psychology shows that self-esteem is a dynamic self-evaluation process. The motivation to maintain self-esteem requires individuals to constantly seek and prove their sense of value and superiority in reference activities and exhibition activities. When the psychological support point of mainstream personal values such as study, work, career and social status is a foregone conclusion, leisure and entertainment activities will become the psychological support point of new personal values, with more opportunities and variables. In the leisure and entertainment activities that are allocated according to their own interests, specialties and other advantageous resources, individuals are more likely to benefit from the positive performance and excellent display in the activities, so as to make up for their personal defects, correct their inferiority complex and meet the subconscious needs. Even if we are humble people, if we have unique skills in leisure activities, we can have a series of audience psychological effects such as envy, appreciation and admiration under the condition that the original social role is invisible (the role of "what I do" in the workplace is put down and the role of "what you do" is recognized by others). This will undoubtedly play a positive catalytic role in the formation of individual good self-efficacy experience and the acquisition of self-worth

(D) to promote interpersonal relationships

The study of competitive psychology found that formal activities such as study and work often require participants to abide by strict rules, and the results of the activities also have the effect of "distinguishing the good from the bad and deciding whether to win or lose", so that every participant can't help but throw himself into it and is in a state of "excessive competition and insufficient cooperation". As a result, in normal study and work, there are widespread problems such as narrow social circle and very limited interpersonal mutual assistance. In contrast and supplement, in leisure and entertainment activities, the result is no longer important, and the significance of the process is highlighted. The color of competition has obviously faded, and the atmosphere of cooperation has obviously improved. Through leisure and entertainment activities, we can increase the opportunities to help others, not only meet more like-minded friends, but also broaden our horizons, renew our concepts and satisfy our sense of belonging. Moreover, because we truly understand the valuable experience of interpersonal communication and cooperation, it will help to promote the socialization process of personal maturity.

(5) learning new knowledge and new abilities

Modern society is changing with each passing day. We should regard lifelong learning and growth as the basic life concept and normal life style. With the convenience of leisure and entertainment, individuals can get new information and know new skills from their peers in a relaxed and happy natural process, which has become an important way for individuals to seek knowledge renewal and skill upgrading.

(6) avoid the rigid role

The theory of social role psychology reveals that everyone will enter the appropriate social coordinate point through the guidance and suggestion of social activity rules or hidden rules after entering the formal social activity field. This is an inevitable requirement for social stability and orderly activities. However, the relative stability of social coordinate points inevitably hinders and binds the freedom of individual personality and the autonomy of activities. Social role-playing will make a person gradually form a fixed face, a fixed mentality and rigid behavior. As an independent zone with liberated personality and free activities, in leisure activities, we reposition our roles, and everyone will make independent adjustments for role-playing. This is a reshuffle of the role in the workplace, which is very conducive to self-liberation. It can give us more opportunities to play and experience diverse roles that we have never experienced before, and change the rigid role-playing way that we are used to.

(seven) access to social reference materials

The evaluation and experience of the meaning and quality of life is produced in the process of social comparison. Under normal circumstances, our study and work are confined to a relatively closed environment, and we rarely touch other levels of society on weekdays. After a long time, people who are accustomed to the existing study, work and living conditions will not feel the initial happiness and will also escape their social responsibilities and obligations; The people in the middle are numb to the present life state, unable to experience the fascinating life state of the superior, lacking the comparison of the life state of the lower class, and lacking the basic satisfaction and gratitude. Taking leisure activities as an opportunity, we can go deep into other levels of society, understand various social phenomena and people's wishes, have a more real understanding and comparison of all levels of society, actively feel the happiness given by life, and be willing to undertake social responsibilities and obligations.

(8) Expand professional space.

The exploration of career direction is the process of life growth, for which we may pay a long effort and a heavy price. However, in a relaxed and carefree entertainment atmosphere, with the help of friends, we can discover our previously unknown advantages and potentials, create conditions for exploring and expanding new careers, and realize our goal of self-realization.

(9) Harmonious family relations

We can arrange family members to engage in recreational activities together. In a chic informal occasion, it can not only effectively realize true and frank communication, eliminate misunderstandings, but also enhance mutual understanding and help to establish and enhance harmonious family relations among family members.

(10) spread care and love

Leisure and entertainment is a special time and space away from fame and fortune. We all show the qualities of truth, goodness and beauty in the situation of leisure and entertainment, and in the optimistic, cheerful, altruistic, caring and benign interaction. This is beneficial to others, and it is also a new experience and sublimation of human nature for ourselves. Examining the individual's psychological behavior in the leisure and entertainment atmosphere, we will find that no matter how selfish, indifferent and narrow a person's psychological behavior is in formal life and work, once he enters the leisure and entertainment situation mode, he will show a positive tendency to change to the conventional psychological behavior mode and show more altruistic, enthusiastic and tolerant psychological behavior. Psychological research on personal social image management reveals that normal individuals generally have the motivation to correct their positive image in front of others and the public. Undoubtedly, the relaxed and free atmosphere of leisure and entertainment activities has inspired the best opportunity for individuals to correct their good personal image.

Third, psychological strategies to improve your leisure and entertainment level.

(a) tailored to suit better.

Pay attention to your real needs, and the psychological motivation from the heart is the most precious. You can lock your own leisure and entertainment projects from four aspects: "What leisure and entertainment activities are you most concerned about, who you admire most, whose literary and sports expertise you regret most, and what leisure and entertainment activities you are most convenient to engage in".

(2) Study hard and improve your taste.

Any kind of entertainment has its principles, techniques and skills. In the process of engaging in some leisure and entertainment activities, it plays an important role in diverting our attention from the tiring workplace and plain life and realizing huge investment by learning the way of getting started, practicing the method of routines and understanding subtle techniques in our own convenient way. In addition, the self-worth experience brought by skill progress will make people feel that they are spring breeze.

(3) untie the knot and actively participate.

Only by opening the shackles of the spirit can we release the free mind. Many people don't give their leisure time and space, because there is an absurd logic of "causal inversion and circular argument" in their minds. "Because of the pressure of work and life, they have no chance and mood to relax and entertain." In fact, I didn't wait for the opportunity and mood to go to leisure and entertainment, but I didn't have normal leisure and entertainment, which led to a bad mood, so I felt the pressure of work and life. Straightening out the relationship between "work and life pressure, psychological experience and leisure and entertainment" will give leisure and entertainment its due living status and experience the realm of complementing each other.

(4) Abide by the rules and do what you can.

Leisure and entertainment has its own obvious rule that "everyone can ask for advice and consult everywhere", and there is also an unspoken rule that "only one person can observe and no one will say". Whether it is clear rules or hidden rules, more knowledgeable insight and less ignorant prohibition are the premise and guarantee for leisure and entertainment to give people a lasting and pleasant spiritual enjoyment.

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I hope it helps you.