Be a happy person from tomorrow, feed horses, cut firewood and travel around the world.
When we read Haizi's Facing the Sea, Spring Blossoms, we can hardly even think of a person who finally committed suicide by lying on the track. For us optimists, Haizi's death is obviously a negative escape, and we can even call it a "coward".
I'm not sure what Haizi did, but if we can really understand his inner world, maybe we can find that he is excusable.
Haizi is a poet, a contemporary poet, and a vigorous and youthful poet who lived in the 1980s. He also wants to be a happy person. However, his identity and personality determine that this can only be a fantasy, not even a dream or ideal.
Mr. Lu Xun once said that poets are suffering. The poet's pain obviously comes from the spiritual level. Poets are the most sober and confused group of people in an era. They are awake because they have more acute tentacles than ordinary people, that is, mediocre people, to explore the details and truth of life that are easily overlooked by us, but often the cruel truth of life. Life is beautiful, which is just a one-sided statement. There is no denying that it is mixed with evil, deception, meanness and so on, which we all call ugly. But this is the reality of our life. Poets are living in the contradiction between ideal heaven and realistic hell. The ultimate goal of a poet's writing poetry is to arouse the public's soul, so as to redeem the public's soul, make them abandon evil and promote good, and thus reach the realm of perfection. But perfection does not exist, and sometimes even beauty seems so small. The torrent of realistic desires is wrapped in too many interests and pursuits. As a poet, its purpose is definitely not to pursue fame, because pure contemporary poets are pursued by people who are far away from us.
So we see that Haizi, who pursues happiness in fantasy, is so helpless in reality. When the poverty of life surrounds him more and more, when the fireworks of love are extinguished, when people around us look on coldly and treat each other with cold eyes, we obviously feel so lonely and lonely from his heart. Poets are not afraid of loneliness, but they can't stand loneliness for a long time. The perfection of spirit and the struggle of reality are destined to push a poet like Haizi into two situations in life: one is to follow the mediocre generation, compromise with reality, and then create another world for his life, in other words, to be either a poet or an impure poet; One is to remain lonely and die painfully in the despair of life, so that they are still poets.
Haizi chose the latter, so the information revealed in All Tomorrow is despair of today, and all "wishes" are mockery and helplessness of reality. What he left us was a lonely figure, facing the sea alone, facing the "spiritual paradise in spring" and pursuing happiness.
For Haizi himself, he found the way to "be a happy person" with death. There are some differences that we ordinary people can't understand.
Be a happy person
Being a happy person is the wish of every ordinary person.
I saw two meaningful reports on TV the other day. A man jumped from the upstairs because his family was poor and unable to support two more children. One is a promising young man in Japan who committed suicide by jumping off a building under mental pressure.
We relate these two stories because we can easily get some important information through comparison. Judging from the results, it is all the same; And from the way, it is also surprisingly similar. The reason is also mental distress. The difference is that one is poor and the other is rich.
In our real life, we often define happy people as "people with money, power and status". However, the above example is breaking this definition, telling us that rich people and people with high status are not necessarily happy people. Then, in essence, happiness has less to do with the material level and more to do with the human spirit level. Happiness is more an affirmation and satisfaction of people's status and value in reality. Lack of this affirmation and satisfaction will inevitably lead to mental pain. When there is too much pain and the backlog is too heavy, people's happiness will soon disappear easily and be replaced by disappointment and depression in life. Therefore, to be a happy person, we should emphasize the affirmation of our reality.
Excessive material poverty is not easy to produce happiness, and excessive material abundance will also produce a sense of happiness crisis. There are often real events of winning the lottery, and we are often easily attracted by those huge numbers and then sigh. But who cares about the imbalance of happiness brought by a person's wealth? I think a person will suddenly get excited when he learns that he has gained great wealth, but will it be followed by fear and awe? If this is not the case, there will be no case of the family moving overnight after winning the lottery. In fact, things are far from stopping. I am afraid that great wealth will break the happiness of the original family, so it will take a long time to rebuild new happiness.
In fact, our happiness comes from our cognition of reality, and our unhappiness often comes from our lack. We often magnify our shortcomings and then feel unhappy, so we turn a blind eye to what we have. The beggar in the street still has a charming smile, and Tao Yuanming's self-knowledge has played a great role in his happiness. If we can regard life and death as an inevitable process indifferently, learn to face it bravely, and regard the ups and downs of life as necessary components to enrich life, Shi Tiesheng's profound understanding is indispensable. Then, it's actually easy to be a happy person.
Just like we are now holding a book, immersed in it and enjoying the accumulation of cultural knowledge at all times and in all countries, aren't we happy people?
Be a happy person
If happiness is a small seed, then a grateful heart is soil, self-confidence is water, and selflessness is sunshine. Root the seeds of happiness in the soil of gratitude, water them with the spring of self-confidence, and shine selflessly. We see the tree of happiness thriving and lush.
If happiness is an ordinary boat, then a grateful heart is the sea. Sail confidently and selflessly, put the happy boat in the sea of gratitude, publicize the confident sail and raise the selfless sea breeze. We saw the happy boat sailing through the waves.
In fact, happiness is not so far away. When we have a grateful heart, when we are full of self-confidence, when we selflessly think of others, we will be surprised to find that we have long been surrounded by happiness. It's simple to be a happy person.
Do you remember Sang Lan when people are chasing artists and sketch actors? A mistake made her miss the medal, made her leave her sports career, made her disabled and had to sit in a wheelchair all day. Falling from the clouds, others may have been unable to bear the sudden pain, but Sang Lan stood up strongly. She entered Peking University, hosted a program about the Olympics, frequently appeared on talk shows, and told the world with her own smile that she was a happy person. He embraced all the misfortunes with gratitude, and she supported her happy life with gratitude.
She is grateful, so she is happy.
I remember Liu Xiang said, "I used to worry about whether I would fall, but as long as I stood at the starting line, I was full of confidence." With this self-confidence, this little-known yellow-skinned teenager tied the world record of men's 1 100-meter hurdles with the score of13.91at the 2000 Athens Olympic Games. With this confidence, he set a new world record in 12.88 seconds. It has won great honor for China and even Asia, and has been worshipped by countless people. Liu Xiang has undoubtedly become a happy man, and his happiness comes from his confidence.
He is confident, so he is happy.
Niu Yuru and Ren Changxia, these names are familiar to us. They always put the interests of the people first and pay attention to their lives with selfless heart. They are loved by the people and become truly happy people.
They are selfless, so they are happy.
Watering the grateful soil with confident spring and shining with selfless sunshine, we see beautiful flowers blooming on the happy tree, full of fragrance.
With the selfless wind, we set sail for self-confidence. We saw a happy boat with a full load and looked forward to another voyage!
With gratitude, self-confidence and selflessness, we can become a happy person. Any one of them can do it.