But few people tell them that this new life will make their family, which was full of laughter and laughter, once fall into silence, and even make the relationship between husband and wife deadlocked.
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"Silent" Home
Not long ago, I watched a short film called Silence, which was about the real life of a young couple after they had a child.
A family of three lives in a house of tens of square meters. The husband works hard outside every day, and the wife is anxious to take care of the children at home.
The small room in my humble abode is full of children's dirty blankets, smelly yellow diapers, dirty dishes and chopsticks piled up overnight, and toys are scattered in every corner. ...
Finally, the crying child was put to sleep, and the wife still had time to clean the room, for fear of waking the child, and never dared to make a sound.
When cleaning the trash can, because the plastic bag makes a "crackling" sound when it is lightly touched, the wife bends down and kneels beside the trash can, as if it were started in slow motion, and pulls the garbage bag out of the bucket bit by bit.
When preparing to clean dirty dishes and chopsticks, even turn on the tap, the wife is cautious.
She put her head in front of the faucet and stared at the water flow. She held the handle tightly with one hand and moved the water flow a little bit, trying not to let the pump make a "buzzing" sound.
Among them, the most worrying thing is that the wife and husband not only turned their respective behaviors into silence, but also turned their marriage into silence mode.
The communication between two people is basically through movements and almost silent lips.
When her husband answered the phone, he had to go out. If he wants to eat, he can only rub his stomach at his wife. Even returning work information and typing on the keyboard should be light.
Even if the couple quarrel, they dare not make any noise. They can only silently digest their anger at each other.
There is a scene in the video where the wife and husband are heartbroken after getting angry. They want to cry, but when they think of the children behind them, they subconsciously close their lips and turn into silent tears.
The life of new parents was caught off guard by the sudden "silence". Without the hustle and bustle of youth and the indulgence of parties, whenever I feel sad and desperate, I can't help but ask myself:
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suffer wrong
The normal state of parenthood
In Nothing More than Thirty, Gu Jia, the omnipotent mother, once said this sentence:
"Giving birth to a child is a particularly bad thing. When you become a mother, your biggest feeling is being wronged.
Being out of shape and having a bad temper is not the worst thing. On the first day of my imprisonment, I suddenly felt that Gu Jia was dead, and it was Xu Ziyan's mother who survived. "
In fact, this humbleness in Gu Jia's mouth has long been the norm for parents.
In the popular TV series "Anjia" earlier, the living conditions of a middle-aged couple caused heated discussion among many families.
His wife Gong Beibei and her husband Liu are both doctoral students who graduated from famous universities. Although their academic qualifications and jobs are good, the high housing prices still make it difficult for them to breathe. The family wants to live in a small house of 60㎡, with only one room, one living room and one bathroom.
In their home, things are piled everywhere, and my husband has no place to sleep, so he can only make a floor in the living room.
Gong Beibei, who is pregnant with a second child, is an obstetrician. Every time she works late into the night, in order not to affect her family's rest, she can only hide in the bathroom and sit on the toilet to catch papers.
It is said that the collapse of adults comes quietly, but for parents, they are experiencing different collapses all the time.
But for these parents, even if they are greatly wronged, they will feel uncomfortable again. As long as it is good for children, they will bite their teeth and swallow it.
This is the only way for parents, and it is also the practice of parents.
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Dull may be the norm.
The forbearance of life and the hardships on the road can only be better helped by mutual understanding and support between husband and wife.
As for the young couple in the short film "Silence", in their "silent" home, there are various contradictions every day because there is no timely communication.
In the eyes of the wife, the husband is sloppy and inconsiderate. He knows that there are children at home, and he always smells like smoke when he comes back. After returning home, he can't help her share some housework, but he always finds fault with her and makes her stuck.
From the wife's point of view, it is obvious that this family belongs to two people. Why is she the only one who works so hard from morning till night, and her husband can lie on the sofa and play with his mobile phone when he comes back, like an outsider?
But in fact, husbands who seem unreliable also have sadness that is difficult to tell their wives.
The project in hand was suddenly taken away, most of the bonuses were gone, there was little money left in the bank card, and there was a starving child at home. Only a cigarette before going home can relieve inner boredom.
In order not to worry his wife, he just choked back his sadness and pulled out a happy smile when he entered the door.
Colleagues give him an opportunity to propose Tik Tok brand, and as long as he wins this opportunity, he will get a commission. In the eyes of his wife, he is actually doing a background check on the brand.
Fortunately, at the end of the conflict, the two chose to understand and understand each other. The wife will still cook hot noodles for her husband when he is hungry, and he will buy expensive cream that she has planted grass for a long time before the festival.
Understanding is the salvation of humble life.
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Children are hope.
Love is power.
At the beginning of the year, my girlfriend gave birth to a second child, which was catching up with the epidemic. My mother and mother-in-law are far away, and I can't take care of them because of the epidemic.
The burden of taking care of children suddenly fell on my best friend and her husband, one of whom was a newborn baby.
When we were all worried that she couldn't cope, she told us that she was doing well.
My best friend told us that in order to let her have a better rest, my best friend's husband let her sleep in the master bedroom and stayed with her two babies in the second bedroom all month.
My best friend's husband will take the child over and let her sleep as well as possible when she is full.
During the day, girlfriends make breakfast, the children give it to girlfriends, and husbands make up their sleep and wait until noon to cook.
My best friend thought that with my sister's existence, as my brother's eldest brother, she would have some temperament more or less, but what I didn't expect was that my eldest brother had become sensible.
Every day, I not only take the initiative to coax my sister when she is crying, but also take the initiative to reduce her pace when her sister is asleep.
Once the boss touched the scar of his best friend's caesarean section and said to her with milk and milk:
"Mom, do you still hurt? I will grow up quickly and take good care of you. "
Later, my girlfriend told us that during the epidemic, my body really felt uncomfortable, my wound was very painful, but my heart felt very warm.
Because she has the intimate company of her husband and the infinite hope brought by her children.
Behind the birth of children, there are indeed countless hardships.
But the happiness brought by children, a person who can accompany you through thick and thin, is enough to offset the suffering.
Tomorrow is Tanabata, I hope that every mother's contribution can be seen and every father's contribution can be affirmed. Say in advance: Happy holidays!