The Book of Songs has been circulated in China for more than 2500 years, and the love poems in it still have high appreciation value for us today. Or a son falls in love with a beautiful woman, or a beautiful woman misses her son, or a woman is abandoned by her husband, or her marriage is blocked by her parents, and so on. The most sincere feelings between these men and women have also been sincerely reflected in the Book of Songs, which is the charm of the Book of Songs.

Keywords love, marriage, men and women

In the ninth series of The Book of Songs Studies, Wang classified the love poems in The Book of Songs into five types: love at first sight, loyalty, homesickness for lovers, mourning for women, and hitting Yuanyang. These five interesting words almost sum up all types of love poems in The Book of Songs.

After research, in my opinion, the "love at first sight" type is mostly men who miss women: the "loyalty" type naturally means that women are faithful to their spouses or lovers; The "homesickness" type includes tasks at all levels in the Book of Songs, from dignitaries to ordinary people; The type of "mourning for women" is mostly manifested in the sadness after missing men and being abandoned by men; The type of "playing Yuanyang" is the pursuit of free love.

After reading Guo Feng in The Book of Songs, you will find that both love and marriage are described in Guo Feng. Jia Baoyu in A Dream of Red Mansions has also read Guo Feng in The Book of Songs, and he is full of longing for the love between men and women. What Confucius taught his disciples in those years also included The Book of Songs. It can be seen that the Book of Songs plays an important role in society. Later, the official school also took the "Four Books and Five Classics" as the teaching content, which further promoted the spread of the Book of Songs among the people.

I think most poems describing love and marriage adopt the method of "xing", such as "Guanju", the first sentence is "Guanju dove, in Jiangzhou. My fair lady, a gentleman is good. " Let's talk about the waterfowl by the river first, then the sweetheart. Hanbitsoft has a similar technique. "There are trees in the south, so we can't help thinking. Han has a wandering girl, you can't help but consider it. " First of all, there are tall trees in the south, and it is no blessing to rest under them. Besides, there are also "prodigal girls" in Hanshui, but they can't pursue them. These two songs not only use the technique of "exciting", but also are used in songs such as Jia Jian, Butterfly with Leaves, Gao Yan, Ji Zi, Magpie Nest and Grass Worm. This technique has also been widely used in today's songs, especially "Xintianyou". I unconsciously remembered a lyric, "The sun will climb up tomorrow morning, the birds will fly away and will come back next year, and my youth will never come." Is this lyric the same as the "rising" technique widely used in The Book of Songs?

In my opinion, there are two kinds of love poems in The Book of Songs: love poems and marriage poems. Love poems can be divided into the following categories: one is unrequited love, which naturally includes men's single-minded women and women's single-minded men. The second is to miss each other and love each other. The third category should be attributed to unmarried men and women who try sex for the first time. Marriage poems are divided into the following categories: 1. Life is happy, sweet and loving. Second, marriage is blocked. Thirdly, marital frustration can be divided into "simple dissatisfaction with his wife" and "strong self-love". The following is a detailed description and elaboration of the above classification.

First, the bitterness of love

(1) The so-called Iraqis are on the water side.

Guan Yu, the first article in the Book of Songs, has been sung by the world for more than 2,500 years, and it is still widely used by men to express their love for women, especially the sentence "Guan Yu's dove is in the river continent. My fair lady, a gentleman is good. " From the elderly to the children in kindergarten, almost everyone will say this. It can be seen that Guan Ju is more popular than Jay Chou's songs!

According to scholars' speculation, the man in Guanluo should be an aristocratic youth, which can be seen from Friends of the Hare and the Music of the Bells and Drums. Ordinary people don't have such a good musical instrument. Han Guang is a different person. He should be a farmer's child. He is "well paid", "eloquent" and "eloquent", which are all things that only children who grow up in rural areas will do. It can be seen that men love women to varying degrees. Men in the nobility can do anything to please their sweetheart, while men from humble origins are "unattainable" when they see their beloved woman. Different life experiences lead to the gap of love.

In addition, there is another poem that is also beautiful, because the scenery it describes is very interesting, and that is Jian Peijun, which is my favorite poem. This poem is sung repeatedly with the word "Jian Peijun Cang", which has a profound charm, plus the words "Bailu", "Shui Xin" and "Shui Xin" written by it. I remember when I was rummaging through my father's bookcase in the third grade. I never liked reading very much, so I sat down and finished reading that book. Maybe I was in adolescence and didn't know anything about love, so I was interested in reading that book. The poem "Sword House" was also learned in the third grade. When I read On the Water, I naturally thought of The Sword House, because there are many similarities between the two works, and the most similar is the description of the river view. Maybe Teacher Qiong Yao just finished watching Sword Armor.

The ancients said that men miss women mostly in autumn, everything withers and it is cloudy, and men belong to the sun, so men miss women mostly in autumn; And the time when women miss you most is spring. The "white dew" described in Jiaxu should be a sign of autumn! I wonder if Jiaxu conforms to the old saying that "men are pregnant with people"?

(2) Qingqing Zitiao, leisurely in my heart.

"Qingqing leisurely from jumping in my heart. If I didn't go to see you, didn't you get my letter?

Green is what you wear, and leisurely is my feeling. If I never visit you, can't you take the initiative?

Pick Xi to Xi, at the gate Xi! If I don't see you for a day, just like Sanqiu Xi. "-Ji Zi

Seeing this poem reminds me of a "love letter" written by a boy in our class when I was a freshman. The first sentence is "green and graceful, leisurely in my heart." But because I just don't understand knowledge, I only know that Cao Cao quoted these two sentences when writing poems, and I don't know their true meaning, so the time for "love letters" in Grade One is gone.

Now it seems that this poem is about a woman in love waiting for her lover at the city gate. How dare she come to you? "Even if I don't go, Zi Ning won't send a message, right?" Women are waiting under the tower. Enough picking, in the gate! If I don't see you for a day, just like Sanqiu Xi! I just left, but I miss you, as if I hadn't seen you for nine months! "I will be sad if I don't see a gentleman!" Women always miss women more than men. It is often said that men regard love as a snack and women regard love as a staple food. Seeing this spoony woman waiting at the gate in such a hurry, I can't help worrying about her.

The sight of Zi Jin reminds people of refined women. The man in the Beijing girl is also waiting for his sweetheart under the tower, but the sweetheart seems to be deliberately teasing a simple man, making him "love but not see, slip."

Second, the sweetness of love.

"Vote for me with papaya and vote for Joan Cheng. It is always good to repay bandits.

You want to send me a peach, and I want to give it back to Qiong Yao. It is always good to repay bandits.

You give me wood, and I'll take Joan Jiu in return. It is always good to repay bandits. "-"Feng Wei Papaya "

Men and women express their feelings through fruits, and throw them out when they look at them. Hitting a sweetheart is really different from modern society. Nowadays, couples don't go from "I love you" to "Do you love me?" Has it started? In courtship, it is not as interesting as the ancients, as I once said when I saw a man professing to a woman. "The moon is really good today!" Being heartless under the moon depends on yourself, but isn't it the same for a sentimental person to let ruthless things express his feelings? Just like "papaya" and "peach", if you like him, throw your fruit at him!

Third, the passion collision when love is strong

This kind of poem is a poem of ancient tryst between men and women. In the Book of Songs, women mostly gather in the mulberry forest, but if men miss women and want to date their sweetheart, then go to the mulberry forest! "Between ten acres, mulberries are exhausting." How many women pick mulberry! Isn't Luo Fu known as the "mulberry picker"?

Sanglin is an ambiguous place full of sex, and most of the poems in The Book of Songs are collected from the people. About folk sex, naturally.

Besides mulberry trees, there are other places where you can have sex with the people you love, and that is the ancient hunting grounds. There is such a description in "Death of the Wild". There are different opinions about this poem, but I think it is a poem that describes the anxiety and shyness of women when men make love for the first time, and it takes place in the hunting ground. Why do you see it? Let's look at the first sentence "there are dead birds in the wild, and white grass covers them" and the middle sentence "there are peppers in the forest and dead deer in the wild." Raccoons and deer are not ordinary animals, but raccoons are deer. Generally, only aristocratic men can hunt in the process of dabbling, which shows that what happened in the whole poem happened in the garden, "Shu Xi! I'm not embarrassed, I didn't ask you to scream! " Can it be regarded as a girl's anxiety and shyness? As for many scholars who say that men rape women, I don't agree. It is human nature for men and women to cheat occasionally. Without the proof of historical data, poetic imagination is beautiful.

Fourth, the marriage is frustrated, resulting in a dissatisfied wife.

Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, but some people have to dig their own graves. No matter in ancient times or in modern times, there will always be images of women being abandoned. In ancient times, there were various excuses to divorce their wives. In ancient times, women's fate could not be controlled by themselves, and sometimes they were enjoyed by men like things. When there are better playthings, they do not hesitate to abandon their spouses. No matter ancient women or modern white-collar workers, who can tolerate her husband's empathy and then give up on himself? I think women at all times and all over the world should have the same status!

There are many such works in The Book of Songs, some of which are pure disgruntled women who just accuse their husbands or lovers of disloyalty and cry out their misfortunes.

"His cunning child xi, don't talk to me. I can't eat my bread for your sake. That sly guy, why don't you eat with me? Because of Wei Zi, I can't rest. " What an infatuated woman who can't eat or sleep! Because the lover is indifferent to himself, he shows his bitterness to the fullest.

The fate of the hero in another poem is even more tragic. The heroine in Gu Feng and her husband worked hard together, which gradually improved her family. When she was rich, her husband abandoned her and found another lover. This is very bitter for her, but she can't give up this home that she runs by herself. The heroine in the poem is hard-working, kind, weak and infatuated, but it makes people feel pity. Does the heroine's experience in Gu Feng inspire modern women? After the founding of New China, people say that women's status has improved and women have been liberated. It is said that women hold up half the sky now. Is that really the case? Women can go out to work to support themselves, and men can accept their women working outside like themselves, but has the situation at home changed? In most families, men's ideas have not changed. They think housework is what women should do. In this way, women are liberated, and what is liberated is the right of women to suffer. Women have to run for their lives and do housework. If female compatriots are unfortunately abandoned, please cherish yourself.

Five, marriage frustrated strong self-love.

"Growing old together always makes me complain. Qi has a shore and discipline has a plate. General's corner banquet, talking and laughing. Swear, forget it. Instead of thinking about it, it is already very embarrassing. " This is the last part of Meng. I think these last few sentences are the most wonderful part of this article. It embodies the strong side of women. This poem is written in chronological order about the whole process of a hardworking and kind woman from love to marriage breakdown. When I saw this poem, I seemed to be listening to a divorced woman telling the sweetness of her love poem and the misfortune after marriage. I feel that the heroine in the poem is like being by my side, but what makes her different is that she doesn't complain bitterly about her husband as mentioned above, but after summing up the root causes of her misfortune, she strengthens her belief-"promise, forget it." On the contrary, I don't think about it. I'm already embarrassed. "

I like independent women, whether economically or emotionally, who can't rely entirely on one person. They should leave some rest space for their souls, which is also a way to protect themselves in the modern nihilistic society. Just like the Book of Songs. Just like the heroine in Self-protection, although the marriage has broken down, there are more things in life than love. For women who have been hurt by the word "love", we should learn more from the ancients and reflect on what we can do.

Six, the life of parents, the words of the matchmaker

"How about cutting ke? There is no axe to cut. How about finding a wife? Media is not allowed. " As many people know, ancient marriages were arranged at the behest of parents, and so was the Book of Songs. Although it is decided by the "matchmaker" to get a spouse, there is also a beautiful marriage. What an enviable thing it is! Reminiscent of butterfly lovers, although he studied under the same roof, his parents' orders could not be violated, so he had to marry Ma's son. Fortunately, he passed through Shanbo's grave halfway, and now he has become a butterfly. Not only Liang Zhu, but also Peacock Flying Southeast. If Liu Lanzhi doesn't want to obey his brother's wishes, there will be no later result. If his father is gone, his eldest brother is his father. This is the "ritual" of feudal society, and the ethical code of cannibalism has hurt many lovers. This is also something that Mr. Lu Xun strongly criticized. Now we should be glad that we don't live in a feudal society. Arranged marriage will not bring happiness in modern society. For us, it should be a very happy thing to be able to choose a partner freely and get married legally.

Confucius once said: "Poetry can be appreciated, impressive, gathered and resentful ..." He also said: "Why can't a boy learn poetry?" Thus, Confucius spoke highly of The Book of Songs and always regarded it as an important teaching material of Confucianism. And how many of us college students can calm down and read the voices of the ancients?

Love in The Book of Songs, in my opinion, can be summarized by four kinds of plants:

Peony-this is a symbol of love. Why not roses? Roses have thorns, won't they stab your sweetheart?

Shepherd's purse-this should mean that sons love beauty, but they can't!

Sang-this should be the place where women in Seeds of Love whisper to each other and men choose their spouses! The abandoned woman turned into a yellow mulberry leaf!

Papaya-people who love each other are happy because of love and combination!

There are too many plants in the Book of Songs, and the animals and plants in nature are the most exposed to people in labor. Therefore, the appearance of countless plants in the Book of Songs is logical.

The Book of Songs is like a river, rushing water, gurgling brook, swaying water, turbulent whirlpool ... Reading the Book of Songs will not be as tiring as reading other collections of ancient poems, because all the feelings revealed in the Book of Songs are the most simple and sincere, without any affectation. It's like walking into someone else's inner world, and savoring it carefully is not a poem but also a poem!

When you feel that the pace of life is too fast, just calm down and read the Book of Songs! It will calm you down and flow quietly along its stream. ...