Suitable. Yes! This is a principle that people have always followed during the feudal dynasty. The emperor's daughter is going to marry the minister's son. The son of a businessman may not win the daughter of an official. The working people at the bottom must honestly find suitable objects for their next generation in slums. There is nothing wrong with the original idea, because in those days, the class concept was too strong. Poor grades mean that you will be looked down upon by others in your daily life. In fact, from the literary works handed down from ancient times, we can often see that a girl from a poor family can only be a concubine when she marries a rich family, and her daily life is to vent her anger for her husband's long room after falling out of favor. If a rich girl marries a poor boy, the ending will be even more terrible. Directly driving the family out of the house is set up as a typical disrespect and abandoned by the family. Go find the poor, huh! So when did the great series between families begin? I have to mention the merchant class. I usually try my best to make money. When they have money, of course, they will spare no effort to increase their family status. The most useful means for businessmen is investment. According to historical records, the imperial examination system appeared for the first time in the Tang Dynasty in order to crack down on the gate. Children from poor families can also leap into Longmen to be officials through the scientific examination. This provides opportunities for wealthy businessmen to speculate. In order to get their daughters into formal classes, they will wait at the entrance of the examination room on the day of the end of scientific research, and ask the dismissed children to get married according to the information obtained in advance. They are all children of poor families. Faced with the temptation of real money, most people give up compromise and are adopted by the rich. This is a win-win situation for both parties. If the son-in-law wins, then the son-in-law becomes a marriage, and the merchant's family is regarded as a formal relative. If you can't win, it won't hurt for a businessman to marry a daughter and have a scholar at home. However, reading is popular, because entering the merchant family ensures one's own food and clothing and has a better reading environment. As a result, this cross-family love story has also increased. Of course, literary creators at that time also knew that love that crossed family background could not get good results basically. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Baoyu finally married Baochai. In The West Chamber, Zhang Sheng finally missed the lady. The story of Liang Zhu tells us that the rich are always better than the poor. The beautiful love story that can be passed down to this day always embodies one point, that is, the family of two people must be symmetrical. This situation continued until the early days of liberation. Please note that I am talking about the early days of liberation, not before liberation. In fact, due to some political regulations in the early days of liberation, after dividing the poor, lower-middle peasants and landlords, marriage could not break such classes. Who wants to stain their poor peasants with landlords? However, with the open mind and people's desire for free love, this kind of love beyond family background finally began to blossom and bear fruit. The real breakthrough occurred in the late 1970s, that is, after the downfall of the Gang of Four. Such marriages began to increase, and family values gradually faded. I have to mention the love story of my parents here. My mother is the daughter of a military family. Since I was a child, I have been instilled with the battle stories of my grandfather's heroes. I joined the Children's League when I was a few years old. When he was a teenager, he started a guerrilla war with the Japanese devils with a gun. Participated in the War of Liberation, the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea and other wars. At that time, it was true that the descendants of the red revolutionary family took root in Hong Miao. My father is more backward. Old Nanjing people and my grandmother, that is, my wife, are representatives of capitalism. It is said that before liberation, the family opened a bathhouse in Shimonoseki. This is a big stain. It is said that my father did a good job when he was young, but he could not join the party because of his poor composition. Two people work in a factory, and there is a spark of love. When this spark reached my grandpa's block, grandpa was angered. He immediately sent someone to my father's house to check the history of my father's ancestors for three generations. It is said that he strongly disagreed with his parents' marriage. It is said that grandpa happened to be the military representative of his parents' unit at that time, and he specially asked someone to talk to my dad. People think that the combination of parents will affect their career. It is normal. Who doesn't want to climb again? But they resisted the pressure. With the downfall of the Gang of Four, there was no political restriction, and their parents finally completed their great cross-class love. Personal, I also came out to torture them in the second year of their marriage, haha. I'm afraid such things were not uncommon in my parents' time. I believe that for a long time, the issue of family status will no longer be important. Of course, this is also closely related to the social system at that time. At that time, the work was arranged by the state. Having access is also a job, and having no access is also a job. The only difference is that it's easy, but it doesn't make much difference to get the money. The house problem is solved by the unit. Although nervous, at least there is no place to live. Medical care and old-age care are all solved by the state. People really have nothing to worry about. When you are in love, marriage is rarely restricted. However, as some people get rich first, the gap between the rich and the poor increases and the living security decreases, people's requirements for material things are getting higher and higher. The idea of being suitable for each other is aroused again. Only this time it is no longer based on position, but on money as a comparison of whether the two families can get married. This phenomenon is more likely to happen in the woman's family. On the forum of marriage clan, we can often see some MM posts telling us that their parents don't support their love. The biggest reason is that they think the man's family condition is too poor. Either he has no money or a house, or he is not from Nanjing. Moreover, such positions have become the most mainstream contradiction between men and women. Are our parents too realistic? There are some realities, but their starting point is for our own good. Parents don't want their children to live more easily, and they only want their daughters to live with old women and be bullied by them. I want to make the boy's family rich, but I hope that in the early days of marriage, the two can have less burdens and can't let the daughter bear too many burdens, such as mortgage. I expect boys to have a good job and a higher income, but I expect my daughter to spend it smoothly, at least with food and clothing. We should all understand this idea. In fact, this concept has begun to directly affect the criteria for choosing a mate for girls. Yesterday, two MMs issued their own marriage standards on the plate, both of which involved material aspects. And if you go to a special section, the material requirements will be more common. I really want to say that it's not that we demand too much, but that society is changing too fast. Those who don't get on board can, of course, make a good comparison on the shore and choose their own goals. But what about those who have already boarded the ship? How can we persuade parents to accept the other half of their choice? In my opinion, there is only one solution to the problem, and that is persistence. Because I know it's really hard for you to give up at this time. I'll swim back from the middle of the sea and think about it. I also know how hard it is. After all, they are their parents. After all, they have experienced the impact of the era of free love. Parents will still understand the call of yearning for love and stick to this love. Although in the short term, parents may not agree, but as long as you don't give up, parents will generally agree in the end. Of course, while insisting, it is not doing nothing, just waiting there quietly. First of all, the two people involved need to work harder to improve their abilities and increase their income. You should let your parents know that your other half is an enterprising person. Although it may not be good now, don't bully the young and the poor. Their future is bright. In fact, there is only one purpose to do this, that is, to make parents feel that their children's future life is guaranteed and can be expected. Our generation lives in an era of change, and since it is change, there will be pain. It is our mission to eliminate this kind of pain to a minimum through our own efforts. Indeed, the concept of family has returned, but the pressure we face is much less than that of the ancients. After all, now the control has been transferred from parents to children. Please believe in love, as long as you are willing to pay and work hard for love, the stumbling block of family status will be kicked far away by you. Bless all couples who are troubled by family thoughts, please believe in yourself and your other half. Please take this question as your motivation. Your future will be brighter.