As the saying goes, "Behind a successful man, there must be a virtuous woman silently supporting him".
It can be seen that the success of the career is inseparable from a happy marriage and family. From falling in love to getting married is a necessary stage in life, and in our youth, we must establish a correct concept of marriage and love, handle complex feelings and interpersonal relationships, and strive for early success.
To establish a correct view of marriage and love, we must first understand what love is. The so-called love is a strong, pure and single-minded feeling that a man and a woman admire each other in their own hearts based on a certain social foundation and the same ideal of life and long for each other to become their lifelong partners. Love includes sex, ideal and responsibility. Sex is a sign that distinguishes other emotions. Love is not complete without sex, but sex is not necessary. Sex is only the most basic level, and ideals and responsibilities are the two cornerstones of love. Ideal and rich social connotation of love are the internal foundation of love growth. Lovers gradually influence each other in thought and behavior, and gradually realize the spiritual blending of two people, so that both sides have the same values and goals in life. Only in this way can we ensure the long-term love. And responsibility is the sublimation of sex and ideal, and it is the touchstone of faithful love. This kind of responsibility can not be considered as a narrow sense of responsibility for sex, but also includes the responsibility of raising, caring, trusting and supporting each other. Only these voluntary responsibilities can enrich the connotation of love and enhance the realm of love.
First of all, we should establish a correct view of marriage and love, and secondly, we should abide by the moral norms in love. Instead of asking the woman to abide by the Three Cardinal Principles and the Five Permanent Principles, it requires both parties to abide by some necessary codes of conduct in the process of love. First, respect each other's personality; But consciously take responsibility for each other; Third, civilizations love each other. The personality expression of mutual respect between lovers is mainly to respect each other's independence and attach importance to the equality of both sides. Nowadays, many lovers regard each other as their own demands or lose their attachment to themselves, which is a misinterpretation of the nature of love. Only correct and equal communication with lovers will not lead to many tragedies. Consciously taking responsibility is not a pledge of eternal love, but the consciousness of all actions in life. A little love is always sweeter and longer than love in a gust of wind and rain. Although sex is the most important difference between lovers and other emotional signs, lovers should pay attention to their actions and be responsible for their actions. Mutual respect and Qi Mei's case can better reflect the brilliance of true love. Let him (her) understand that it is not sex that makes her (him) choose you.
To establish a correct view of marriage and love, we should correctly handle the relationship between feelings and other things. For universities, it is mainly to deal with the relationship between love and study. College life is one of the best times in life, and only with careful care can a gorgeous flower of love bloom. However, college students should be cautious about love and avoid mishandling it. In the process of communication with the opposite sex, we should distinguish the fundamental difference between friendship and love, avoid getting entangled and add a lot of unnecessary trouble to each other. Some people can distinguish one from love, but they can't handle the relationship with other foods well, and they are addicted to sex and neglect their studies. This view of love is not conducive to correctly handling contradictions and mistakes in the process of love, which leads them to be pessimistic and cast a shadow over their hearts. Secondly, we can't unilaterally treat love with Gong Li, or draw a love object divorced from reality, or unilaterally pursue an external image, or use it to get rid of lonely love. This is not sincere love and will not have any good results. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies, because learning is their main purpose. Career is higher than love, advocating career first, and it is not appropriate to fall in love prematurely. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career. If handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.
It is necessary to establish a correct view of marriage and love and cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following aspects: first, the ability to satisfy love. If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you face the love of others, you should be able to choose to accept or refuse in time. Can bear the psychological trouble of refusing or refusing courtship. The second is the ability to refuse love. You should have the courage to refuse love that you don't want to accept or think is not worth accepting. When you refuse, you should pay attention to two points: first, if you don't want to love, the tone of refusal should be decisive and firm, and there should be no room for hesitation, otherwise it will cause more harm to the other party. Second, we must master the proper way. You should master the way and degree of speaking. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, they should at least respect others.
It is necessary to establish a correct view of marriage and love and correctly handle love setbacks. The correct ways are: first, face up to reality. The pain of lovelorn lies in the word "love". Love is two-way, mutual. If you lose either side, love will be out of balance and terminated. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality.
Second, put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn, and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible. The third is emotional venting. Don't hide or suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, but find an appropriate way to vent it. Commonly used catharsis methods are: 1, and the method of relieving tears. Crying when you are sad can calm your mood. Experts believe that tears can expel some toxins produced by the body during stress response. 2. Exercise relaxation method. Intense physical exercise helps to release the energy brought by excitement. 3. divert attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something that interests you. 4. Decoration method. When you fall in love without the person you love, give reasonable reasons and facts to explain your frustration, so as to get spiritual comfort. Step 5 talk. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write a letter. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor. The fourth is the situation transfer. The reason why it is difficult to get rid of the trouble of love after lovelorn is because all aspects of life are inextricably linked with former lovers, so if you want to get rid of the pain of lovelorn, you must change a brand-new environment and temporarily leave the once familiar environment. Put yourself in a happy environment. For example, making more friends, participating in some group entertainment activities, or looking for someone to go shopping, travel and relax, all of which will help broaden your mood. On the other hand, because there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, it is difficult to adapt for the time being, so you can enrich yourself with work or other methods to prevent yourself from thinking in your spare time practice. The fifth is sublimation. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Don't be devastated by lovelorn love, thinking that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it is not the whole of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
To establish a correct view of love and marriage, we must correct the motivation of love. Love is for finding like-minded lifelong partners in the future, not for comfort and excitement, not just for sexual satisfaction. The choice of love object is a complicated process, and factors such as economy, politics, culture and personality cannot be ignored, but the ideal orientation and moral sentiment of * * * are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and sex. !
Love is the premise and foundation of the formation of marriage and family, and marriage and family is the result of love. Marriage and family are the sublimation of love in content and form. Marriage and family are two closely related and obviously different concepts. Marriage refers to the combination of the relationship between men and women confirmed by law and the resulting relationship between husband and wife. Family refers to a social life unit composed of relatives based on marriage, consanguinity and adoption. Marriage is an important premise of family, and family is the inevitable result of marriage. The success of marriage lies in the happiness of the family, which also shows the significance of marriage. Marriage is a necessary condition to form a family, and the family is an important part of society. Analyzing the evolution and value of marriage and family should be grasped from the perspective of social and historical development, not confined to the small scope of marriage and family, which is very important for us to form a correct view of marriage and love. Marriage is not for marriage. Getting married, or getting married, is to meet such a person who is willing to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family with him, to share his family pressure and to share mine. He is willing to take care of me and I am willing to take care of him. The most important thing is to love each other. If there is no love, or there is no love at all, I would rather not get married all my life and just find someone to marry. At the same time, love is also the premise of family harmony! Therefore, two people who have no feelings can't get married and start a family for other reasons.
Correct values of love and marriage require us to recognize the roles of love, marriage and family. Family virtue plays a very important and unique role in maintaining harmonious and happy marriage and family relations. What is in the family is the code of conduct that every citizen should follow in family life, covering the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between young and old, and the relationship between neighbors. Its basic norms are: first, respect for the elderly and love for the young; Second, gender equality; The third is the harmony between husband and wife; Fourth, managing the family diligently; The fifth is neighborhood unity. Only by doing this basic principle can we maintain family harmony and promote the harmonious development of marriage.
Marriage and family relations need not only moral maintenance, but also legal adjustment. Marriage and family law is the general name of legal norms regulating family marriage. Studying marriage and family law is of great significance for students to cultivate correct marriage and family concepts and legal awareness, to solve legal problems in the field of marriage and family by using marriage and family legal knowledge, to safeguard citizens' legitimate rights and interests in the field of marriage and family, and to promote social civilization and progress.