Family virtue refers to the noble family virtue that people follow in adjusting the relationship between family members and dealing with family problems in family life. The contents of family virtues mainly include respecting the old and caring for the young, equality between men and women, harmony between husband and wife, diligence and family management, neighborhood unity and so on. We can't lack the necessary family virtues. Everyone should strengthen socialist moral cultivation, establish harmonious and friendly family relations and promote friendly neighborhood relations. Only in this way can society have more peaceful and stable lives. Harmonious family life is the foundation of happiness in life and the cornerstone of social harmony and stability. Almost everyone is eager to have a warm and harmonious home and a harbor for the soul. Respecting parents and the elderly is the duty of being a human being, the natural responsibility and the most basic gift of human relations, and the consciousness of forming family virtues is indispensable. [Keywords:]: analysis of the reasons for the lack of virtue and countermeasures. Respect parents and respect the elderly. First, the main manifestations of the lack of family virtues. First, the husband and wife have contradictions, often quarrel, and disharmony leads to family disintegration. For example, some couples used to be poor, hardworking, simple and loving, but because their husbands went out to work and made some small achievements, their lives gradually became richer, but the feelings between husband and wife were not as deep as before. The husband got into bad habits, and the wife "fought poison with poison" and had an affair. As a result, the couple began to have conflicts and make a big fuss. Finally, I had to part ways, my family broke up, and my own flesh and blood became innocent children. Some people even embezzle public funds in order to raise young lovers and improve their status, which leads to conflicts between families and even colleagues. In recent years, the phenomenon of "keeping mistresses" and "keeping gigolo" in society has caused some beautiful families to fall apart overnight. In the period of social transformation, especially in the internet age, some people are influenced by foreign ideas such as sexual liberation, and with the increasingly rich material life, many people are "full of warmth and lust" and pursue excitement and pleasure, while men "keep mistresses" and women are unwilling to lag behind in raising lovers. Once both husband and wife lose family virtues, it is easy to lose harmony and lead to family breakdown. Second, it is unforgivable to abuse the elderly and abandon the baby. The development and progress of mankind is the result of the efforts of generation after generation. However, some phenomena in real life are chilling. For example, some children have never been to see the elderly. Usually, nannies take care of the elderly, and even the expenses for handling affairs for the elderly are paid by nannies. Isn't this the loss of family virtue? Some old people even commit suicide for their children. The reason is that children are unfilial, and the old man has been paralyzed in bed for many years, and he can't take care of himself. Since then, their children have regarded the old man as a burden, their sons have cursed each other, their daughters have not visited the old man for several years, and the old man has lost confidence in life and committed suicide because of despair. Some people even lost their conscience, thinking that their father was useless and became their own burden, and even killed their father in cold blood. Other couples abandoned their newborn babies in order not to put too much pressure on themselves and have no ability to raise them. How can such behavior make society peaceful? At present, in some large and medium-sized cities, "nursing homes" and "apartments for the elderly" have been established one after another. Many people take money to send the elderly to "nursing homes", but they can't "give them away at once". They should give more comfort to the elderly mentally and physically, and don't wait until the elderly are lonely and depressed to express regret. Third, if there is no way in the godson, there will be endless harm. Nowadays, children are the flowers of the motherland. Raising and educating children is the responsibility and obligation of every parent in the world. However, the consequences of improper education and discipline of some parents are quite serious. In today's society, many teenagers embark on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes, mainly due to the influence of bad family factors. One is excessive indulgence. In some one-child families, parents spoil their children too much, which makes them develop bad consciousness and behavior habits, and it is easy to embark on the road of illegal crimes. At present, some parents regard their only child as the "apple of their eye", fearing that flying in their mouths will spoil them, and let their children develop the consciousness of "little emperor" and "little princess" from an early age. In particular, some children spend too much money and pursue high consumption. Once the family is dissatisfied, they will go astray. The second is neglect of discipline. Some parents are wrong about their children's shortcomings, or ignore, let themselves drift, or scratch the surface, pay insufficient attention to help, and fail to solve the problem fundamentally. Because these children can't get timely and meticulous discipline from their parents, they develop defective products, or make big mistakes from small mistakes until they embark on the road of crime. Over time, family virtues are lost.

Second, the reasons for the lack of family virtues

First, the virtualization of moral education. Traditional morality, especially Taoist thought, attaches great importance to family virtues, but only or mainly stays at the moral level, only or mainly focuses on personal introspection, and has insufficient requirements and design for practical level and social constraints, which leads to the paleness of family virtues. At present, moral education, including family virtues, is still limited to generalities and mere formality, lacking in content, pertinence and effective measures. In particular, the requirements and contents of moral education are seriously divorced from reality, and educators' words and deeds are different, which leads to the disapproval of the educated and greatly weakens the effect of moral education, thus gradually reducing the loss of family virtues. Second, individualism is expanding and greed is suffocating. In the era of planned economy, the emphasis is on "one university and two universities", "selfish, patentee", which requires absolute obedience to the organization and no personal interests. Since the reform and opening up, the socialist market economic system has been established, people have obtained the status of independent economic man, their personal interests have been fully respected, and the maximization of interests has become the highest principle and the biggest goal that people follow. Some people's money worship and individualism expand, hurting their loved ones and ruining the atmosphere in pursuit of their own self-interest, which leads to the contradiction between the principle of maximizing interests and ethical concepts and impacts family virtues. Third, the law is not perfect, and the blow to the immoral is not enough. There are more than a dozen laws on morality in the United States, which have clear and specific legal provisions on moral requirements in different aspects and links, and have also formulated severe punishment measures. In recent years, China has made a lot of efforts and made remarkable progress in the legislation of market economy, but it is not perfect and concrete enough. What is special is that the punishment for the behavior of immoral people in society is not enough, which makes immoral people dare to break the law.

Third, the research on the countermeasures of family virtue construction.

First, strengthen moral education and spiritual civilization construction. * * * To build a harmonious and stable society, we should start with everyone and every little thing. We should educate and help all citizens to firmly establish family virtues through various effective ways. Only by establishing the moral quality of loving family and caring for relatives can we adapt to the requirements of social life and realize our own life value. It is necessary to educate all kinds of entrepreneurs to realize that the more developed the market economy is, the more moral ethics should be strengthened, and family virtue is the most basic, which is the premise of integrating into the world economy and participating in international competition. Only enterprises with good family virtues can gain public trust and have a good environment to engage in business activities and improve enterprise efficiency. Minors are in the stage of ideological formation, so we should attach great importance to their moral cultivation. Through various forms of educational activities, students can understand the basic content of family virtues and cultivate the habit of loving, honoring and being polite to their parents. Schools should actively cooperate closely with families and communities to promote the improvement of moral literacy of primary and secondary school students. It is necessary to strengthen the ideological and moral education for college students and strengthen the moral practice activities of all kinds of students. Second, improve the legal system and increase punishment, so that those who lose their morality are unprofitable. It is not enough to rely solely on moral norms to prevent the lack of family virtues. It is also necessary to establish a set of laws, regulations, systems and guidelines to manage the relationship between social citizens and market subjects, bring social and family virtues into the legal track, form a legal environment with laws to follow, investigate and enforce laws strictly, maintain and cultivate a good market credit order, and increase the economic cost of untrustworthy people through severe sanctions, making them unprofitable. Third, strengthen the construction of information network, so that those who have lost their morality have nowhere to hide. It is necessary to establish a family virtue information collection and disclosure mechanism for all kinds of enterprises, organizations and individuals, establish a unified and centralized credit database or a three-level credit database of government, industry and credit intermediary, and provide and publish information to the whole society in a timely and effective manner.