First, external factors-family conflicts
Many people say that being born in a family is the most fundamental sin. The reason why most students try to go to college is to escape the bondage of family and parents. Just like in the TV series Little Joy, Joe gave up Tsinghua some time ago and set his life goal in Nantah, far away from his mother, trying to get rid of her mother's control, do what he likes freely in his own sky, and let his interest dominate his life.
But this year, because of the epidemic, people all over the country are making contributions to the country at home, and staying at home is to fight the epidemic. So all the students don't go out at home, and they live in a space of tens of square meters with their parents, and they don't look up and see them. The contradiction that did not appear for many years after the college entrance examination suddenly broke the original peaceful family relationship. The sources of contradictions are mainly these aspects:
Cell phones and nagging
That's the sentence, saying that the farthest distance in the world is not the South Pole and the North Pole, but when I am by your side, you are looking at your mobile phone. In the family, the farthest distance becomes when parents talk to you, while you are always looking at your mobile phone. At home, college students use their mobile phones for leisure, entertainment, watching plays and listening to music. Since March, online classes, online learning, taking notes and reading books are also using mobile phones. However, in the eyes of parents, middle-aged people will start nagging only when children are watching mobile phones, and even say that students are useless and do nothing but play mobile phones. Young people spend too much time at home. Faced with the pressure that online classes are difficult to learn and receiving constant education from their parents, their mood is naturally more agitated and their psychological pressure will increase sharply.
housework
Many people joked that the only way for college students to maintain family ties now is to do housework. I believe most parents have said in these five months that children don't do housework, they just lie down. And students always have various reasons to shirk. At the same time, after the online class started, colleges and universities resumed classes in May, making up notes and homework, copying PPT, sorting out reading notes and other things, which kept students busy. When the pressure of homework and the urging of parents appear together, students' mood will become more agitated and even "mental collapse".
Faced with this situation, students and parents who have not started school should make some changes, create a harmonious family atmosphere and restore normal family relations. Parents should understand that students should change their ideas, strive to catch up with the trend of the times and cultivate the same hobbies as students, so that more * * * topics will appear, thus increasing communication, cultivating feelings and establishing a virtuous circle from communication to mutual understanding and increasing feelings. Students should also assume the obligations as family members at home. Bedding is the grave of youth, dormitory is the grave of youth, so laziness is also the grave of family. Be sure to tell your parents what you are doing and thinking, so as not to misunderstand them and increase conflicts for no reason. Read more books at ordinary times, calm down your emotions, sort out your mentality, and create a healthy and positive psychology.
Second, the internal factors-the dual pressure of graduation and employment
Graduates were trapped at home for five months. Many students go home without computers and materials, especially those majoring in science leave the laboratory, so their graduation thesis and graduation project can't continue. Some people are still re-selecting topics and collecting data in the last month, and the problem of not graduating is naturally heavy. While the academic pressure is great, the employment pressure is also very urgent. This year is the most difficult graduation season. Students submit resumes online to find jobs, which makes many students unable to give full play to their strengths and reduces job opportunities. Faced with such a dilemma, many people are anxious and can't calm down and shout "I am too difficult!" "
At this time, the more difficult it is for graduates, the more they should stabilize their mentality, check more information, finish their graduation thesis first and graduate smoothly. Then calm down, choose the right way to submit your resume on the platform, clear your mind, let the interviewer see a young man with a bright future, or calm down and prepare for the provincial exams in the second half of the year and wait for the next job opportunity.
In any case, it is a compulsory course for every student and parent to learn to deal with the relationship with their parents and create a harmonious family atmosphere, and it is very important for their health to adjust their mood and emotions.