Interpersonal relationship refers to the relationship between people. People are not isolated in society, and their existence is the result of various relationships. It is through interaction with others that people develop themselves and realize their own values. Interpersonal communication is an indispensable part of human society, and many people's needs are met in interpersonal communication. If interpersonal relationships are not smooth, it means that psychological needs are deprived, or the desire to meet needs is frustrated, which will lead to the feeling of being isolated or abandoned by society; On the other hand, you will get psychological satisfaction because of good interpersonal relationships. \ x0d \ x0d \ interpersonal communication is one of the most puzzling problems for college students. The quality of interpersonal relationship often affects college students' study, life, work and other aspects, their correct self-cognition, and then their mental health. College students are active, energetic and have a wide range of interests, and the demand for interpersonal communication is extremely strong. However, due to his limited social experience and objective environment, he can't fully contact the society and lacks a deeper understanding of some issues, which is easy to produce extreme psychology. In addition, he is not very mature psychologically, so he often has an ideal model in interpersonal communication, and then looks for a confidant in real life. Once the ideal does not match the reality, there will be communication obstacles and psychological trauma. Some college students are self-centered, ignore the basic communication principles of equality, respect, mutual assistance and mutual understanding, are narcissistic and conceited, and have repeatedly failed in interpersonal communication, thus feeling lost, indifferent and lonely; Others are too self-abased, expect too much in everything, feel inferior everywhere, lack self-confidence, be timid in communication and be afraid of communication. \ x0d \ x0d \ Everyone wants to have a beautiful interpersonal world, and want to have more friends and keep sincere friendship with them. Although everyone may have different communication motives and different requirements and expectations for friends, psychologists still draw general principles from research to help people win friends, maintain friendship and avoid the breakdown of interpersonal relationships. These principles are the most basic requirements for maintaining the stability of interpersonal relationships. Review yourself. Did you do it? \ x0d \ x0d \ 1。 Sincerity \ x0d \ x0d \ sincerity is the most basic requirement of interpersonal communication, and all means and skills of interpersonal communication should be based on sincere communication. Cunning deception and hypocritical perfunctory are blasphemies against interpersonal relationships. Sincerity is not written on the face, but from the heart. False sincerity is more annoying than true deception. \x0d\\x0d\ 2。 Interpersonal communication \ x0d \ \ x0d \ We all hope that others can recognize their own value, and also hope that others can accept and like themselves. For this purpose, we often pay more attention to self-expression in social interaction, attract others' attention and expect others to accept us first. This kind of unilateral self-starting thinking is understandable, but it does affect our communication. \x0d\\x0d\ Social psychologists have found through a lot of research that the basis of interpersonal relationship is mutual concern and support between people. No one will accept us and like us for no reason. The premise that people like us is that we like them and recognize their value. Likes and dislikes, closeness and alienation in interpersonal communication are mutual. This is the principle of interaction in interpersonal communication. In the establishment and maintenance of interpersonal relationships, we should first pay attention to the principles of interpersonal communication, and first accept and like others. Remember one sentence: "People who love others will always love others;" People who respect others will always respect others. " \x0d\\x0d\ 3。 Make others feel that it is worthwhile to associate with you \ x0d \ \ x0d \ homans, a famous social psychologist, pointed out that interpersonal communication is essentially a process of social exchange. For a long time, people have been most taboo to associate interpersonal communication with exchange, thinking that talking about exchange is vulgar or profane the sincere feelings between people. There is no need to have such an idea. In fact, in our communication, we are always exchanging something, whether it is material, emotional or other. People all hope that the exchange is worthwhile for them, and that the gains in the exchange process are greater than or at least equal to the losses. There is no reason to make an unworthy exchange. People tend to avoid, alienate or terminate interpersonal relationships that are not commensurate with themselves or are not worth the loss. \ x0d \ x0d \ is the essence of social exchange in communication, which requires us to attach importance to interpersonal communication and make others feel that it is worthwhile to associate with us. No matter how close the relationship is, we should pay attention to the "investment" in material and emotional aspects, otherwise, the original close relationship will become alienated, which will make us face difficulties in interpersonal communication. \x0d\\x0d\ 4。 Maintain others' self-esteem \ x0d \ \ x0d \ People have faces, but trees have skins. Everyone has self-esteem and hopes that other people's words and deeds will not hurt their self-esteem. Self-esteem is measured by self-worth. A strong sense of self-worth leads to a higher level of self-esteem; If self-worth is not strong, self-esteem will be low. A large number of psychological studies have proved that anyone has an obvious tendency to maintain self-worth in the process of interpersonal communication. People's sense of self-worth mainly comes from the process of interpersonal communication and feedback from others. Therefore, others have special significance in establishing people's sense of self-worth. Affirming others will increase people's sense of self-worth, while denying others will directly threaten people's sense of self-worth. Therefore, people are particularly sensitive to negative information from the interpersonal world, and denying others will arouse a strong tendency of self-value protection. According to the above principles, psychologists emphasize that when we communicate with others, we must play an active role in supporting others' sense of self-worth and maintaining others' self-esteem. If we threaten others' sense of self-worth in interpersonal communication, it will arouse each other's strong self-worth protection motivation and cause people's strong rejection and rejection of us. At this time, we can't establish good interpersonal relationships with others. The established interpersonal relationship may also be destroyed \ x0d \ x0d \ It should be pointed out that emphasizing the self-esteem of others does not mean that people are always welcome in interpersonal communication. Without endangering others' self-esteem, stating different opinions or gently pointing out each other's shortcomings will not affect interpersonal communication. \x0d\\x0d\ The above points are the basic principles of interpersonal communication and the inseparable aspects of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Applying and mastering these principles is the basic condition for dealing with interpersonal relationships. Master the basic communication and communication skills in interpersonal communication, and have good personality characteristics such as tolerance, trust, friendship, sincerity, modesty, respect and tolerance, and at the same time know yourself correctly and grasp yourself. Only in this way can we have a good relationship with others and handle ourselves well. \x0d\\x0d\ Do the following self-test questions to see how your interpersonal relationship is! \x0d\\x0d\ [Guidance] \x0d\\x0d\ is used to test students' interpersonal relationship, with 36 questions. Please make a "yes" or "no" choice for each question according to your actual situation. \ x0d \ x0d \ 1。 Do you usually care about your popularity? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 2。 Do you usually eat alone in the canteen? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 3。 Do you feel lonely or lost when you are with a large group of people? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 4。 Do you often use other people's things without permission? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 5。 When something is not done well, do you blame your collaborators? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 6。 When your friends are in trouble, do you often find that they won't ask for help? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 7。 If friends joke with you too much, will you keep a straight face or even turn your back on you? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 8。 Do you have any exercises to take off your shoes in business situations? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 9。 Do you think you should not hide your opinion under any circumstances? \ x0d \ x0d \ 10。 When your colleagues, classmates or friends make progress or success, are you really happy for them? \ x0d \ x0d \ 1 1。 Do you like to make fun of others? \ x0d \ x0d \ 12。 Don't you feel bored and speechless when you get along with people with different interests? \ x0d \ x0d \ 13。 When you live upstairs, do you pour water or throw confetti downstairs? \ x0d \ x0d \ 14。 Do you often point out other people's shortcomings and ask them to improve? \ x0d \ x0d \ 15。 Do you interrupt others when they are talking harmoniously? \ x0d \ x0d \ 16。 Do you care about and often talk about other people's private affairs? \ x0d \ x0d \ 17。 Are you good at talking with old people about their concerns? \ x0d \ x0d \ 18。 Do you often have some uncivilized spoken words when you speak? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 19。 Do you sometimes do things that you don't keep your word? \ x0d \ x0d \ 20。 Do you often find it difficult to concentrate when someone talks to you or explains something? \ x0d \ x0d \ 2 1。 When you are in a new group, do you find it easy to make new friends? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 22。 Are you a person who is willing to entertain your companions generously? \ x0d \ x0d \ 23。 Do you confide your ambitions, frustrations and personal affairs to others? \ x0d \ x0d \ 24。 When you tell someone something, do you try to explain all the details? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 25。 When things go wrong, do you feel depressed, demoralized, or take it out on your family, friends and colleagues? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 26。 Do you often express your opinions without thinking? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 27。 Be careful not to eat green onions and garlic before dating to prevent yourself from carrying alcohol? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 28。 Do you often complain? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 29。 Do you call others by their nicknames in public? \ x0d \ x0d \ 30。 Do you care about social news in newspapers, TV and other information channels? \ x0d \ x0d \ 3 1。 When you find yourself doing something wrong or hurting others unintentionally, will you quickly admit your mistake and apologize? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 32。 Do you like chatting with people in your spare time? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 33。 When you date someone else, do you often make others wait for you? \ x0d \ \ x0d \ 34。 Do you sometimes talk to others about topics that you are interested in but they are not interested in? \ x0d \ x0d \ 35。 Are there any tips to amuse children? \ x0d \ x0d \ 36。 Do you usually tell yourself not to tell lies? \ x0d \ x0d \ There is no future in doing things under such leadership, unless your boss appreciates you \ x0d \ x0d \ Luyao knows that Mary has been seeing people for a long time and does his own thing carefully. Tell her to say \ x0d \ x0d \ Take a step back \ x0d \ x0d \ He is younger than you? You can't even handle him? \x0d\ I don't believe this evil, so I have to have confidence in myself. \x0d\ I believe you are the most shameless villain. You don't get along well with her, and you will be angry when you see her like that. Why don't you just ignore her, let her go, and slowly \ x0d \ x0d \ understand each other. Don't complain, but work hard in return. \x0d\ Life is unbalanced. Everyone does it for himself. \x0d\\x0d\№ Baby run √ Answer adoption rate: 37.9% 2008-12-16: 09 report \x0d\ Everyone may have unique thinking and see what others can't. \x0d\ ling & π answer adoption rate: 5.1%2008-12-16:14 report \x0d\ Different people should be treated differently \x0d\ You should understand what their greatest needs are \