Tell a story, there is a desolate place on the south bank of Java Island in Indonesia.
To say desolation does not mean desolation. On the contrary, many villages forgotten by the civilized world are scattered here, and hundreds of families are still in the traditional handicraft stage. But without roads, electricity and materials, it seems to be stagnant in the Middle Ages.
1967, an American girl named Sutoro came here and was immediately fascinated by the desolate scenery here. Sutoro decided that she would spend her whole life observing these magical small villages and finishing her academic research.
The purpose of her project is to challenge traditional ideas and find out why the poor are poor.
Usually, people firmly believe that the way of thinking of the poor and the rich is completely different. In the United States, the popular expression of this concept is that the poor are poor because of their own culture and social lifestyle.
This concept is also very popular in China. It is not clear that Sutoro chose this theme, but what questions does she have about it? Or is it just the scientific spirit under the background of western values, which requires rigorous observation and analysis of any concept? Anyway. Sutoro's research began.
In Indonesia, Sutoro observed the local production environment 14 years.
Her academic research report is 1043 pages thick. General academic report, hundreds of pages, rigorous. Sutoro's research report is so thick because she overthrew people's preconceptions that the poor are poor not because of their thinking. According to Sutoro's research, there is no essential difference between the economic behavior of the local poor and that of the rich in western society. They are also full of enterprising spirit and profit motive. This capitalist desire for creation and development is not only unique to Americans, but also the innate quality of everyone in the world. However, it does not mean that you will succeed if you struggle, and the premise of struggle is capital. In the environment of shortage of funds, most of the struggles can only end in tragedy.
Simply put, in a place where there is no money to earn, no matter how hard you toss, you can't make money.
After reaching this conclusion, Sutoro returned to the United States to cooperate with the Ford Foundation and other organizations. Seeking a new loan model to help the poor people in this area get rid of poverty-this is the beginning of microfinance. But when microfinance swept the world and even won the Nobel Prize, Sutoro had been forgotten.
Her life has burned out, and in the third year after the publication of the paper, she closed her eyes forever.
Compared with parents in western countries, parents in China are more willing to take the carefree road. Give children the fattest food, the most expensive clothes, the laziest living environment, and don't let children do any housework. China's parents regard this as their contribution to their children. They are willing to spend money for their children, no matter how much they spend, but they are unwilling to give their children the role model they need most-the Excellence of their parents!
Many parents are offended by Excellence. They prefer playing mahjong, watching TV and shopping. They want them to learn from Obama's mother. They will also spend more than ten years trying to make something famous and let their children know the excellent value and significance through role models. Sorry, many parents in China refuse to do so. They believe in being a pig and hope to succeed.
The child was called a stupid bird by his mother because of his poor grades. The child said unconvinced that there are three kinds of stupid birds in the world, one is flying first, and the other is too tired to fly. His mother asked: What about the third one? The child said: this kind of thing is the most annoying. If you can't fly, you will lay eggs in the nest and ask the next generation to fly hard.
Lay eggs in the nest and expect the next generation to fly hard. Not only do you have to fly hard, but you also have to fly with your family on your back. This is a very strange attitude of some parents.
Recently, it was reported that a couple in Sichuan thought saving money was better than saving lives, so they gave birth to 1 1 children. As long as there is hope for one child, the fate of the whole family will change. -What a ridiculous idea! What a selfish desire
Before the child grows up, parents are waiting for the child to carry the whole family. This idea is like a mountain, pressing on the child's head. At the thought of flying with a dozen lazy birds, can this bird still fly? Scared to death. Even if it is not scared to death, it will disgust this heavy burden. Do you have a chance to win if you have to carry so many lazy people and fight against competitors who go into battle lightly? You're the one who lost badly!
Of course, not every parent is so selfish. But-parents who have no enterprising consciousness, are bent on being pigs, looking forward to their children's success and waiting for their children to fly on their backs must be extremely selfish and the most desperate nightmare for their children.
China's parents are very afraid of their children's puppy love because people in China know themselves too well. If you don't fall in love early, you won't have the spirit to do business. If you are puppy love, you have more reason to climb underground, so it is hopeless. You can do whatever you want!
On the other hand, this girl/kloc-got married at the age of 0/8, and got married at the age of 20 with her children. Then she became interested in Indonesia, a puzzling place, and played an academic role, which many young people in China were unwilling to contact. She is so tired, she just wants to study hard for the college entrance examination. When she found that everyone around her thought so, she got a diploma, but she still couldn't find anything to make her. If you have a psychological breakdown, you will give up on yourself and simply lay eggs in your nest, hoping that the next generation will be fooled and willing to fly behind your back.
Parents who have this idea don't even have to think about it. The probability of a pig child becoming a dragon due to a genetic mutation is not higher than winning the lottery prize of 500 million yuan. Your child's IQ is 99% equal to yours. You are worthless, complaining that the previous generation didn't make you a rich second generation. Next, you will soon hear the same complaint coming from your child's mouth.
Whether a child is excellent or not is the most decisive. Everyone knows this, but why don't you abandon the TV programs without nutrition, kick off the mahjong table, go back to your career, read some books, or do something to make yourself better first?
You can't force your children to be excellent, but it shouldn't be difficult to be kind to yourself and let yourself live out the value. Do you like this article? Share it!