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Nowadays, there are non-mainstream phenomena among middle school students, and their groups can be divided into two types: open and extroverted, most of which are related to society and personality; Withdrawn and introverted, the formation of which is mostly related to family and personality. To treat non-mainstream students correctly, we should first treat them dialectically and not blindly hate "non-mainstream" students. To change the rebellious psychology of non-mainstream students, teachers must understand students, respect their personality and let them accept you psychologically. For withdrawn and introverted students, we should try our best to reduce the stimulation and give more care. To change non-mainstream students, we should start from the big picture, carry forward and respect individuality, and foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.

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Non-mainstream rebellious psychological personality

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Recently, various strange events about post-90s students have been circulated on the Internet. Internet is defined as a "gate" event, including which recording gates. ...

Of course, you can't believe everything popular on the Internet. Some people deliberately enlarge some accidental or individual examples into common phenomena in order to seek novelty. On the contrary, the phenomenon of middle school students advocating non-mainstream is indeed worthy of attention, and it is not only in cities, but also spreading to rural middle schools.

There is a ninth-grade student in a rural middle school. His parents don't dress him, so he likes to wear strange clothes. The trumpet of his trouser legs can sweep the floor on the ground, and there are strange patterns on his coat. Wear only two clothes in winter and thick clothes in summer. His hair is long enough to be braided. Although he is only fifteen or sixteen years old, he has begun to grow a beard. The teacher ordered him to cut off his long hair before coming to class. His parents dragged him to the barber shop, but they failed to make him cut off his hair like a prisoner.

Maybe this student doesn't know what "non-mainstream" is, but his behavior is different and eccentric, which is actually the embodiment of "non-mainstream". So, what is "non-mainstream"? Non-mainstream refers to things that do not belong to the mainstream, such as cultural subculture, religious heresy, heterogeneity in the crowd and so on. Non-mainstream is a concept that exists relative to mainstream. Non-mainstream means to publicize personality, be different from others, be non-mainstream, not blindly follow the trend of today's public, and pay attention to clothes, costumes, words and deeds that suit your own mind.

How are the non-mainstream groups among students formed?

Non-mainstream groups can be divided into two types, one is open and extroverted, that is, active pursuit, and the formation of this non-mainstream is mostly related to society and personality. With the development of social life, people's pursuit is constantly changing. Traditional lifestyles such as food, clothing, housing and transportation are monotonous and not exciting enough for some young people, so they seek novelty. In fact, this pursuit of novelty is an innovation, which is conducive to social progress and development. So the emergence of "non-mainstream" is not a bad thing. However, when a self-proclaimed "non-mainstream defender" imitates other non-mainstream, he is no longer non-mainstream, he is no longer an individual, he is just a clone of many non-mainstream.

On the other hand, non-mainstream is also a means for young people to express their inner loneliness. Generally speaking, most students who advocate non-mainstream are the "only child generation" under the family planning policy, and they are the new "rich second generation" after the development of market economy. Most of them are new and new human beings who call themselves "angry youths" after 1990s. They don't have too many traditional cultural memories, and they don't have too many political and historical burdens. Compared with the post-80s generation, they are more indifferent to the country's political life and social events, and they have no desire to integrate into the mainstream society. They appreciate the lifestyles of "go your own way and let others talk" and "do whatever you want". They are obsessed with singers, movie stars and computers. They often go to karaoke bars, dance halls and Internet cafes. They are lazy, worry about trifles in life, covet personal enjoyment and have a weak sense of responsibility. Morality and love, physical and psychological precocity, strong "egoism", great emotional fluctuation and strong rebellious psychology. They are absolutely disgusted with the words of teachers and parents, fighting for freedom of marriage and love, and the phenomenon of puppy love is prominent. ...

Another non-mainstream is withdrawn and introverted, that is, passive formation, which is mostly related to family and personality. Family breakdown, family changes or domestic violence are easy to leave a shadow in children's hearts, leading them to feel inferior or autistic and unable to integrate into the mainstream. Such students often give up on themselves, don't like everything, don't trust others easily, and refuse to accept their care and help. Non-mainstream students like extroverts love to go to extremes. Although such students are usually taciturn, once they are hurt, they may "break out in silence or die in silence"-revenge, suicide, running away from home and so on will all appear on such students.

Student Xiao Yang is such a child. When he was a child, his parents often quarreled and broke things. At this time, the young man could only hide in the room and cry, but he was afraid to speak loudly. In the second grade, his parents divorced and he was awarded to his father, but his father went out to eat, drink and gamble all day, and his mother didn't visit him. From then on, he began to "give up on himself"-he didn't like studying, didn't do his homework and didn't make progress. He has no friends, is withdrawn and often fights with his classmates. It's no use letting the teacher educate him. After junior high school, I ran away from home because of a little criticism from my teacher, and wandered around for more than ten days before I was found.

The education of non-mainstream groups is a headache for all teachers. If not handled properly, the consequences are often very serious. Once there is a problem, the eyes of the society often focus on schools and teachers, as if schools and teachers are the root causes of the "non-mainstream" groups to act out of line. However, it is the unshirkable responsibility of the school to guide and educate non-mainstream groups.

So how to treat the non-mainstream groups among students correctly?

First of all, we should treat "non-mainstream" dialectically and objectively. "Non-mainstream", like anything, has both positive and negative aspects. As mentioned earlier, the pursuit of novelty by non-mainstream groups is an innovation. Isn't "personality education" emphasized in teaching just to cultivate creative talents? The creativity of language expression, new ideas for solving mathematical problems and new views on a problem are all opportunities for non-mainstream students to show their talents. 20 10 college entrance examination, students in Wang Yunfei, rugao middle school, wrote in ancient Chinese, which caused a sensation. If they stick to the mainstream and stick to the rules, how can there be anything new? Therefore, the correct guidance of "non-mainstream" students is conducive to the healthy growth of students.

"Non-mainstream" people will be appreciated and accepted if they can show their personality in place; It's not good to be too different, which not only destroys your own image, but also leads to some followers, thus undermining class discipline and having a bad influence on class spirit. For example, a student likes to play the devil's advocate with the teacher and never buys the teacher's account. Driven by him, the bad atmosphere in the class has risen, and it is useless to change several class teachers.

We naturally hate this kind of student, but what can it do? Everything has advantages and disadvantages. How can I kill him with a stick? For such students, schools and teachers should give more positive guidance and strive to turn disadvantages into advantages; Everything has a reason to exist. We should believe that evil will not suppress justice. Mainstream is the thought of most people, occupying a dominant position and will not be overthrown, because "non-mainstream" is a minority after all.

To make non-mainstream students change their non-mainstream behavior, the key is to make them obey. An important performance of non-mainstream students is strong rebellious psychology. For them, any preaching may have no effect. So how can we change this non-mainstream student?

Asking students to obey shows that teachers are masters of themselves and can boss around and give orders to students. The new curriculum standard says that teachers are "the chief among equals", while the new curriculum reform says that students are "the masters of learning". You can ask students to listen to you, but you must put yourself in a correct position, understand students, respect students' personalities, and make suggestions as an experienced person on an equal footing. In this way, students accept you psychologically and treat you as a friend. Maybe there will be no generation gap and no rebellious mentality.

Secondly, think about it, why do students have rebellious psychology? Maybe everything you say is a cliche, or every sentence is an empty sermon, which is unacceptable; Maybe your words are too demanding, and people can't do it at all. In that case, he might as well not do it or listen. For example, if you ask an underachiever to recite an ancient text in class, he knows that if he can't recite it anyway, he won't recite it; If you lower your requirements as long as he recites a paragraph, try it. If your words are not sincere and easy to accept, you can't expect many people to listen. A kind word will change the taste in your mouth. For example, you can say, "You spend a lot of time on this text. It took a little more time to recite it. Work hard, the teacher believes you. " As a result, you say, "What's wrong with you? It takes so much time to learn such a text! Be sure to recite it to me tomorrow. " Can this prevent students from rebelling?

Third, we should think about how to make those non-mainstream students obey. What the teacher said is useless if the students can't do it, so our words should be feasible. On this basis, we will lower the requirements a little, lower them a little, lower them a little, let some "poor students" enjoy a little success, and then gradually raise the requirements, then they will definitely listen to you. For some stubborn students, we should do what they like, let him do what he is happy to do, what is easy to do, and then let him do other things slowly, which requires us to analyze the students' psychology and flatter them. Our instructions should make students willing to do things, although others are unwilling to do things. In addition, what we say should be measured, so that our words can be listened to and listened to. No matter who listens to "No", "Never allow", "Must do" and "If it can't be finished ...", everyone is disgusted.

For withdrawn and introverted non-mainstream students, another way of education should be adopted. Most of these students are caused by lack of care. We should try our best to reduce the stimulation to these students, because their psychological endurance is particularly poor, and we should give them more care. Maybe we don't need too many words, as long as we have silent love for him and persevere, I believe that sincere love will definitely melt the ice in the hearts of autistic students and let him return to the mainstream group.

To change non-mainstream students, we should start from the big picture and don't stick to the details. Non-mainstream students are mostly students with personality, so we should strive to advocate and respect personality and strive to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.