? ? Youth Inspirations 1: The quickest way to ruin a person is to teach him to take shortcuts 1.
A friend of a friend of mine, who suddenly fell in love with writing recently, found me in a roundabout way, hoping that I could help her point out the maze.
After reading several articles in a row, I found that what she wrote was all a patchwork of gossip, not to mention literary talent, which didn't even have basic authenticity and opinions.
I told her, "You can't write like this."
She answered me, "Why not? There are more people reading articles like this! As long as I keep writing like this, I will definitely become a big V. "
Then she cut some pictures for me, which read really well.
She said, "Oh, I found a shortcut to success!" " "
I was speechless at once: once a person believes that she has found a "shortcut", it means that she will never consider anything else.
Everyone wants to find a shortcut.
It's like a group of people walking on a muddy path, watching the goal in the foreseeable future, and suddenly a road appears next to it, flat and wide, leading straight to Rome.
Who doesn't want to leave?
There is no shortcut in the world. If there are more people walking, there will be shortcuts.
But people who take shortcuts never think about it. Why are shortcuts so easy to take, but few people still reach the end?
Many people passed by, but few people came out. This fully shows that the other end of the shortcut is probably a trap.
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In our primary school science class, there is a section about planting garlic seedlings.
The teacher assigned homework for each of us to plant at home and take it to school two weeks later.
I went into the kitchen immediately after school and found a packet of garlic. At this time, all I have to do is pick out a few full garlic cloves and plant them in a flowerpot.
It happened that my mind was crooked.
Because I found that in this packet of garlic cloves, several of them have sprouted, showing sharp buds.
"If I plant it with sprouted garlic cloves, won't it save me a lot of waiting time?"
So I specially picked the sprouted garlic cloves.
While other students are eagerly waiting for garlic cloves to sprout, mine has already begun to sprout.
"Oh, I'm so smart!"
In an instant, two weeks passed. My classmates and I brought garlic seedlings into the classroom as agreed.
A blushing scene happened:
The garlic seedlings planted by others all point to the blue sky, like little soldiers in military uniforms. Only the garlic seedlings I planted stagger like a loose hair.
Even the well-informed teacher was puzzled and tried to explain why my garlic sprouts were different: "Maybe the garlic cloves are sick."
Only I know that garlic cloves are not sick, but because I am eager to take a "shortcut" and use the sprouted garlic cloves lying in the bag.
It's not a disease for garlic cloves to sprout while lying down. Believe that "pseudo-shortcut" is a disease.
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The quickest way to destroy a person is to teach him to covet false shortcuts and enjoy the easiest success.
Someone once complained to me, "I really can't figure it out. Why should I spell it like this? "
"There is a little girl in our office, one year younger than me. She is very spoiled and has a good relationship with our manager. She is often absent from work and can't do anything. The manager turns a blind eye and never cares about her. "
"Sometimes I really don't understand why I have to work so hard when I can solve the problem of being spoiled?"
But after two years, she stopped complaining.
Because the confused manager was dismissed from the company for negligence.
The spoiled little girl, who lost dependence and lacked basic working ability, soon fell into a state of hitting a wall everywhere and suffered all kinds of supercilious glances in the company.
But she didn't dare to resign, because she knew she wouldn't do anything, and so would changing places.
Before she was fired, she could only ask around like a newcomer, catch up on all kinds of common sense at work and take the muddy path that others had walked.
As the saying goes, there is no road in life, and every step counts. In fact, there is no way to walk less in life. Every step you take when you are lazy needs to be made up from other places.
People who covet shortcuts often think that success is really that simple, and they can water the flowers of success without blowing off dust.
But I don't know, there is a kind of flower called "a flash in the pan".
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Young people who have just entered the society are often carried away by all kinds of "pseudo shortcuts".
Young people who like to write can get traffic when they see something, and they don't want to hone their basic skills anymore.
Young people who like painting can marvel at imitation and treatment, and no longer care about their creative ability.
Young people who like acting, as long as they have an awl face, can easily become online celebrities and never polish their acting skills.
There are too many "shortcuts" to success. They don't want to work hard, and they don't care whether what they do can produce value or last long.
Once a person chooses a shortcut, he will live in a short and futile harvest and gradually forget what a struggle should be like. In the end, they became the humblest of a batch of shoddy fakes.
Zeng Guopan wrote in his letter to his son:
"I have to work hard in everything, but I can't seek fame too quickly, nor can I seek efficiency too quickly. After this pass, you can enter less. I was sleepy again when I went in again, and then I was excited again. "
It means: "take your time, don't think about success at once." When you encounter difficulties, you will always come out slowly. This success is reliable. "
As long as people are alive, they will face a marathon and fight for real skills.
And all the road signs of "pseudo-shortcuts" are traps to lure you to give up running.
? ? Youth Inspirations 2: Those young people in their twenties who are embarrassed and confused.
Recently, I watched a live broadcast of Lu Yu's speech at Fuji Normal University on Weibo.
At the beginning of the speech, Lu Yu mentioned that when she interviewed Huang Xiaoming last year, she attended the premiere of Tsinghua University's Don't Ask West. A sentence in the movie left a deep impression on her:
"If you knew the life you were going to face in advance, would you still have the courage to come?"
In Lu Yu's view, although the young people in the film have different backgrounds, their experiences are similar, and they all face the most cruel test at the best age.
In his twenties, he is in his prime, which is very embarrassing.
Grapefruit is a senior this year. In the past six months, she has experienced many unprecedented feelings:
The graduation thesis finally passed with difficulty, as if she had been torn off a layer of skin; When looking for a job interview, I was repeatedly rejected because I had no work experience, and my salary was very low; I envy seeing my roommate preparing to go abroad, but she knows that there is no conditional support at home; I want to go to graduate school to escape into the cruel society, but it's too late for her to start preparing for senior three. My boyfriend is going home to accept the job arranged by his family, and they will fall in love in a long distance.
When I can't sleep at night, grapefruit can't help but think:
Are young people this age so embarrassed?
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How embarrassing can it be to be in your twenties?
There is a saying on the internet that is apt: if you don't wear the sword properly, it is already a river and lake to go out.
Time flies suddenly, and it is pushed into a strange society before it is ready; Occasionally high-spirited, want to be a great adult, but often feel mediocre, want to continue to be treated as a child; Various choices and problems follow, dreams and reality are intertwined, and love and work are confused.
In the face of the unknown future, there is a faint expectation in my heart, but there are many fears.
Lu Yu, 26, had such embarrassment and confusion.
At that time, she hosted music without limits in Hong Kong. One day, her boss suddenly asked her if she would like to do a morning news program. Lu Yu instinctively wanted to refuse, but hesitated. During that time, she has been considering the transformation and found that news is more attractive to her, which may be an opportunity for her.
After struggling for a few days, she decided to take on the play.
On the evening of March 3 1, 1998, the boss took his colleagues to dinner. Everyone is busy barbecue and pouring wine, but Lu Yu has no appetite at all, because at 7: 30 the next morning, her new program "Phoenix Early Bus" will meet the audience.
Despite her rich experience in hosting, she was still trembling with nervousness, speculating about the best and worst results repeatedly: doing a good program was a major breakthrough in her career; If she doesn't do well, her hosting career may be over!
Hesitation, anxiety and fear made her sit on pins and needles every second at the dinner table, and finally she couldn't help standing up: "Ladies and gentlemen, I have to go first and get up at 4 o'clock tomorrow morning!"
Facing the unknown uncertainty, Lu Yu resolutely chose to get ready, take action and rush forward with high momentum in fear. As a result, she created a precedent of "speaking news" and became one of the most distinctive hosts of Phoenix TV.
People often say that "all roads lead to Rome", but it was not until the twenties that they really realized that "all roads lead to Rome, which are forks and obstacles". Every moment of choice is like standing on the cusp of a storm, which may be overturned by a wave at any time.
Fortunately, the experience of countless people proves that everyone has similar experiences and the same feelings.
In the face of embarrassment and confusion in their twenties, everyone is equal.
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What should I do if I am in my twenties and embarrassed and confused?
The future is far more sinister than imagined. We must be prepared and choose to write the ending for ourselves with actions: being knocked over by the waves or breaking the waves.
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Learn to say goodbye: farewell is the only way in life.
The sign of a person's growth is to accept every farewell in life.
Everyone chooses to say goodbye in different ways. A classmate named Zhu Xian from Fushi Teachers College reported to the school by bike. From Yunnan to Guizhou, then to Guangxi, Guangdong and Fujian, it took him 23 days to cross five provinces, with a total distance of 27 12 km. It's cool to say goodbye to hometown and childhood in this way.
Twenty years old, will usher in a series of life farewell:
Say goodbye to the comfortable campus life and step into a more serious workplace;
Say goodbye to the spacious and lively student dormitory and move into a rented house in a big city 10 square meter;
Say goodbye to the social activities of singing K all night and gathering with friends, and get used to the desire to lie dead at home after being tired on weekdays.
Youth life is an adventure. Although everyone goes through different processes, the essence is similar:
We all want to complete a growth with an unforgettable farewell. Say goodbye to the past and embrace the future.
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Seize your desire and stick to your choice.
Be prepared to stick to it, even if it is "a little silly" or "very different" in the eyes of others.
Last year, when the IG team just won the LPL championship, Lu Yu interviewed them. Nowadays, many people talk about e-sports with pride and honor, but in the past, e-sports was what everyone said, and e-sports teenagers were once called "internet addiction teenagers" who were doing nothing.
Despite many difficulties, such as foreign eyes, family members' obstruction and academic pressure, they persist in hard training every day, endure the boredom of playing the same game all the year round, grow faster than others and keep moving forward, otherwise they will be replaced.
They persisted in such a boring and tense day.
Many people can persist, not only to find their inner desires, but also to do things in a down-to-earth, serious and responsible way and find their own sense of value.
Probably, this desire and persistence did not make us become our ideal self soon.
But at least, it won't make us become people we don't like or want to be.
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Be prepared to suffer, no one will become famous overnight.
You may get nothing by suffering, but you won't get nothing by not suffering.
Last year, when Lu Yu interviewed Chow Yun Fat in Hongkong, he talked about a film he made that year, Eye on the Eyes. There is a scene in the movie: Chow Yun Fat goes to a breakfast shop, picks up a cup, beats raw eggs in it, and drinks it all at once.
Just for this shot, he drank 12 raw eggs in one breath. No editing, no post-production, and I actually drink it over and over again. In others' eyes, his efforts are admirable, but for Chow Yun Fat, this is just an actor's professionalism.
Similarly, Wang drank half a bucket of milk and ate forty-four steamed buns.
In the era of social network, it is often heard that someone is popular, as if everyone has a chance to become famous quickly. But to be honest, don't be too superstitious about the so-called "overnight fame." If there is, this night is also a long night. Because you don't know what efforts they made and what they experienced before they became famous.
But what we mean by hardship is not self-emotionalism, self-abuse, or showing off. That is to try our best to fight for what we desire.
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Overcome self-distrust and reconcile with yourself.
Among the peers in their twenties, some people take the offer soft, some people earn 20,000 yuan a month before graduation, and some people who start a company by WeChat official account seem to have been abandoned by their peers, which will inevitably be hit hard.
Pu Shu was ashamed of his efforts in middle school and played from junior high school to senior high school. I was afraid of losing my parents' face in the college entrance examination, so I took the exam blindly and was admitted to a university. He always thought he could have his place without trying his best.
Until he signed a contract with Taihe Wheat Field and met Gao for the first time.
As soon as Gao Songxiao opened his mouth, he was shocked. Only then did he know that there are so many talented people, people who have read so many books and many very powerful people in this world. He just panicked and felt badly hit.
This confidence has accompanied Pu Shu for many years. In his music, he always pushes himself to the limit, worrying about "self-satisfaction" and "exhaustion of Jiang Lang". It was not until later that he finally recognized himself, admitted his talent and accepted all his works that he reconciled with himself.
As Pu Shu once experienced such worries, anxieties, self-distrust and self-denial, each of us will wander back and forth between the poles of joy and disappointment. The ultimate way to save us is to recognize the essence of life, complete the collapse as soon as possible and reconcile with ourselves.
But reconciliation does not mean compromise, but on the basis of recognizing yourself, continue to run forward.
Maybe we will lag behind our peers for a while, but life is a long-distance race. As long as we run, there is hope.
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Whether you are born after 70' s, 80' s, 90' s or 00' s, every generation of us will bear the pressure and challenges given by the times, which may be our common destiny.
After passing the college entrance examination, entering the university, surviving graduation and entering the society, we have thus crossed the frustrations and challenges of our twenties and walked out of the unknown fear and confusion. Then looking back, several generations have walked in and out of the same predicament as us.
We fly to a strange fate alone with the same posture, fight against all the unknowns and crawl forward in the wind and rain.
But life is a conservation of energy, and we will accept the gift of life at a corresponding price. There is nothing wrong with talent, as long as you are really talented, hardworking, diligent, persistent and brave.
The age of twenty years old, even if it is not as beautiful as imagined, is certainly not too bad.
Finally, I'd like to tell you a very inspirational remark made by Lu Yu, hoping to give you some courage to move forward:
"Every generation will feel that they are ill-timed, and every generation will be said to be a beat generation, but in fact each generation has created its own glorious moment."
? Youth inspirational article 3: Anyway, please don't lose heart.
? It was a rainy day when I went to interview this man. From this small western town to a remote mountainous area below it, all the way to full of green, everything is revived. Rain is also a festival. One section of the road crackled on the window glass, and the other section was so small that no sound could be heard.
I sat in the car, imagining this person, expecting and afraid to hear her story. Sometimes, being strong is not a good word, it means having to suffer too much. Life is a box full of colorful chocolates. How can anyone open it and get bitter pure dark chocolate? Although it helps to wake up, I can't remember it, except bitterness.
After a detour of two hours, we finally met her. The teacher standing in front of me is wearing a purple velvet sports coat, black trousers, blue socks and black sandals. Short hair, a pair of big eyes cloudy and dim, with a faint smile on his face. When greeting people, her voice is very light. Only when introducing her husband, her voice is slightly louder.
That man, with his eyes slightly drooping on his lanky face, looks much older than her. At least, by contrast, she can hardly see any wrinkles on her face.
They sat side by side on the sofa in the principal's office, and she told her story.
"We are a reorganized family. My husband is thirteen years older than me, and we have raised five children together. The youngest son also got married last year. Although I am not materially rich, I feel very happy in my heart. " She turned to look at her husband from time to time when she was talking.
I must find out what they went through before the reorganization. Will it really be happy to reorganize the family? I've seen the usual reorganization. Most of the time, I usually accompany each other. As soon as something happens, I will go home, find my mother and beat my baby.
Recalling the past, the female teacher shed tears. She spoke off and on, pouring out the past she had swallowed. Before 200 1, her life was smooth, not to mention rich, but her family was safe and healthy, teaching by herself, and her husband planted several acres of orchards, and her life was passable. However, an accident destroyed the quiet life.
That year, her husband took a truckload of apples to Guangzhou to sell, because they could fetch a good price there, but after going there, an accident happened and he never came back. At that time, the eldest daughter was in Grade One, the second daughter had just entered junior high school, and the youngest son was still in primary school. Her sick mother-in-law got the bad news and had a cerebral infarction.
Fate played this joke on her, and it almost made this woman collapse. At that time, she stayed in Lacrimosa all night, but on weekdays, she had to pretend that nothing had happened, comforting children, caring for the elderly, teaching and farming, and shouldering the burden of life alone.
She doesn't know how she got through those years, maybe she just lived numbly day by day. In the meantime, someone always advised her to find someone to live with. How can she support such a large family with her own salary and meager income in the orchard (too busy in class and little time to look after the orchard)? She is afraid that the person she is looking for again will be bad for her children, and she is afraid that she will delay their studies. For many ordinary people, going to school is the last straw. If you catch it, at least you don't have to continue digging in the ground.
In this way, after three years, the eldest daughter went to college, the younger daughter went to high school and the son went to junior high school. She was introduced to him.
At first, she didn't want to see him, but when she heard that his situation was the same as her own, his wife died of illness, his children were working in other places, and there were only him and his 80-year-old mother at home, she moved her heart. In addition, this person is also a teacher, and she guessed that the teacher should not be so bad. Although it seems ridiculous to speculate on personality by occupation, what better reason could she find at that time?
"It's too bitter. I don't think I can stand it alone. " Her tears flowed down like broken beads.
In this way, with the efforts of relatives and friends, two people in the same boat came together on September 18, 2005. She was worried that the child could not accept this strange man as a father for a while, so she had a heart-to-heart talk with her youngest son the night before and explained the matter again.
What moved her husband was that he went to her dormitory for the first time that afternoon. When the youngest son opened the door and saw him, he called him "Dad", with a loud voice and a bright smile.
"The child called dad, and I suddenly burst into tears. I really want to go up and hug him. " Her husband's eyes are red, too Sitting opposite him, I almost cried, because I knew my mother was very hard at this age.
They visited their parents and children in Xi 'an. After a simple meal, the two families became one.
The soft sound of the wall clock echoed in the lonely space. Fourteen years of bitter days, in the story told by two people, the warmth is extending.
When her mother-in-law couldn't walk in the late stage of cerebral infarction, she sought medical treatment everywhere, rushed to buy medicine, and took the old man to the town and county for physical therapy.
Here, his 87-year-old mother is dying. She goes home after class every day and cooks for the elderly in another way. The old man said he wanted to eat apricots, so she went out and bought two apricots. 10 yuan. This is a luxury for her.
His eldest son had a baby. She made diapers, plates and small clothes one month in advance, wrapped them in a whole plastic bag and sent them to Xi 'an. In order to wait on her daughter-in-law, she also asked for a month's leave to take care of her. She didn't fall in love with the internet. She searched for new dishes online every day, fearing that her daughter-in-law couldn't keep up with her nutrition and didn't complain about washing from morning till night. That month, they were not biological, but they got along better than their biological mother and son.
When the second daughter was in high school, she got eczema and her skin festered. He felt distressed. I heard that the dermatology treatment of the affiliated hospital of Jiaotong University was good, so he took his children back and forth for more than a dozen times. Only when I saw the wheat harvest just after the Spring Festival did I feel that the treatment was good.
It is all these little things that bring two people and two families together.
Last year, her little son choked up several times at the wedding: "Thank you, Dad, for coming to our home and giving us a lot of love when the four of us were in the most difficult time. Mom and Dad, you can rest assured that my son will be filial to you when he grows up. "
When they said this, they burst into tears.
We listened and sighed endlessly. What should I say? Love? Or family? More like sincerity. I used to think this thing was too empty, but without sincerity, nothing would happen so beautifully. She said that the unhappiness of reorganizing the family was mostly due to too clear calculation, but they didn't. Mine and yours are ours.
Later, she told me quietly that he was ill again at 20 13. He was found out in the physical examination. Fortunately, I found it early and had an operation. Now he has recovered. She said that in those days, she felt trapped in an ice hole. Fortunately, Qi Xin used so many hands of her child to pull her together, contacted the doctor for him and saved her life. That was a close call. She breathed a sigh of relief. The tests in life are really everywhere, but she still can't lose heart.
The rain in early summer soon cleared up, and the sky was like a blue canvas. They walked out of the principal's office, and she looked up and smiled again: "Life is just a rainbow after the storm, and it is equally happy to reorganize the family."
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