You can't succeed, but you can't help growing. I still remember the first interview with Dr. Kissinger. At that time, I was still studying in the United States, and I just started to do talk shows, which was particularly inexperienced. The questions asked are all about one hammer and one stick. For example, Zhou invited you to eat Beijing roast duck. How many did you eat? You have handled many diplomatic events in your life. What are you most proud of?
Later, on the occasion of the 30th anniversary of the establishment of diplomatic relations between China and America, I interviewed Dr. Kissinger. At that time, I knew that I could never ask questions like Beijing roast duck again. Although it was only half an hour, our team collected all the relevant materials, from the papers and speeches he wrote when he was a professor at Harvard to his biography, including a thick stack of seven books. I feel dizzy after reading it. I don't remember what I was looking at. Although the interview was only 27 minutes, it was very effective.
Really prepared a bucket of water, and finally only used a drop. But your knowledge reserve can help you grasp the direction of the problem on the spot.
I remember the last question I asked him was: This is a global era, with many opportunities for winning and cooperation, but there are also strong conflicts among religions, races and cultures. Where do you think our world will go? How long will peace last?
He straightened up and said, you asked a very good question. Then he expounded his understanding of peace: peace is not absolute peace, but a temporary state of balance achieved by different forces in conflicts and contests. He combined his diplomatic ideas with the current world situation, including the Middle East, and made some analysis and explanation.
After this interview, many diplomatic experts found it very profound. Although you can only use one or two questions after reading the information on Namodo, it is absolutely useful to prepare in advance. So I always thought I should do my homework. I am not a particularly clever person, but I am still a diligent person. Make up for your own shortcomings by doing homework.
As a reporter and talk show host, I may have a comparative advantage, that is, I can communicate with others easily.
1996 I cooperated with Oriental TV in the United States in a program called Yang Lan's Sight, introducing Broadway musicals and some social problems in the United States. One episode is about obesity. A lady weighing more than 300 Jin accepted my interview. As you can imagine, the average chair is not wide enough for her to sit on, so I found another chair and asked her to sit down and talk to her. Finally, she said, I never knew what the press conference in China was like. But I'm happy to be interviewed by you. I did it for her. Why? She said that other reporters came to interview with questions prepared in advance and dug a few words from me and filled them in their articles. You're really interested in me. This sentence impressed me deeply. Therefore, whether you are interested in the other person in front of the camera or when you communicate with others, the other person can fully detect it.
I have been doing TV 17 years, and I have experienced many setbacks in the middle. The bigger one is the establishment of Sunshine TV in Hong Kong in 2000. Although I was doing it with a humanistic ideal, I have no regrets so far. But because the business model does not conform to the existing market rules, I have experienced many career setbacks. This makes me very upset, because I think I have worked so hard, even when I was pregnant, I was still in business negotiations. Growing up, I was taught that if you work hard enough, you will succeed. But it wasn't like this later. If at first, your strategy and your positioning are biased, no matter how hard you try, you can't succeed.
Later, I went to China Europe Business School in Shanghai to take a CEO course. A teacher talked about the difference between a businessman and a soldier: a soldier was ordered to hold his ground, even if he hit the last bullet and died. The businessman seems to be in a hall, so I can open the door at any time. We are always looking for opportunities to move, constantly in and out, in order to obtain the greatest commercial benefits. So after listening to it, I am quite clear that I am not a businessman myself. Although I can be diligent, this is not a comparative advantage in my bones.
I have been doing addition for the first 15 years of my career. As the host, I asked the director: Can I write my own lines? After writing the lines, I asked the director: Can I be an editor myself? After editing, I asked the director: Can I be a producer? As a producer, I thought: Can I be in charge of several programs at the same time? After being in charge of several programs, I think we can set up a channel. You have been doing addition in your life and adding it to Sunshine TV. I know that you may have only one or two comparative advantages in your life.
After a series of additions, I think it's time to start subtraction. Because I think I need a balanced life. I can't go on working like this. So I started to do subtraction. So today I want to position myself as a cultural person who understands the market rules and communicates with the world. While being a good host, I hope to engage in more social welfare activities. Therefore, you may be able to better understand your comparative advantage in failure. Of course, I also hope that everyone can understand their comparative advantages and disadvantages without paying too much.
You can't succeed in this life, but you can't help growing up.
What I want to say is that everyone is growing, and this growth is a dynamic process of continuous development.
Maybe you have reached a balance in a certain occasion and period, and this balance is short-lived, which may be fleeting and constantly broken. Growth is endless, and many things in life are difficult to grasp. Even if it is love, you may change, and that person may change. But growth can be grasped, which is a commitment to yourself.
Although we can't become Liu Xiang no matter how hard we try, we can still enjoy running.
Some people may hinder your success, but no one can stop your growth.
In other words, you can't succeed in this life, but you can't help growing up!
Positive Energy Part II: Answers to 30 Questions in Puzzled Life Academic Articles
1, admitted to a very unsatisfactory major, in a bad mood. It's really boring to go in, and there is no way out.
The key to life is not to hold a good deck of cards, but to play a bad deck.
2. The university class I am looking forward to is full of wisdom and shocking the soul, just like a wonderful speech. But now I'm disappointed. What can I learn?
We ate some rich meals and many simple daily diets, which made us grow into strong bodies?
In college, although I am conscientious, I am still ordinary, and I am not outstanding in any way. I envy those students who can do anything. I'm quite disappointed in myself.
Gorgeous flowers do not necessarily bear sweet fruits, such as peony and peony; Flowers with sweet fruits are not necessarily beautiful and dazzling, such as jujube flowers.
I am about to graduate, but I don't want to go to work because of the hardship at the grassroots level, the poverty in academic circles and the cunning in business circles.
? Be sure to take part in the work, if it goes well, you will be very happy; If rough, you will become a philosopher; If you run away, you will be nothing.
5, academic frustration, life is difficult, and the future is bleak. I am always depressed and often secretly cry. How to endure?
Crying is life, laughing is life, and laughing is more hopeful than crying.
Love articles
6. I yearn for the romantic adventure of falling in love at first sight and don't want to accept the mediocrity of following the rules. Some people say my idea is dangerous, don't they?
? First, there are two questions to consider: first, how much nutrition can instant noodles cooked in three minutes have? Secondly, how many people can make a living by winning the lottery?
I have a deep affection for him, and he is indifferent to me. I don't want to give, but I don't want anything in return?
? First of all, love is not necessarily the reason to be loved; Secondly, you don't want to force him, do you?
I don't love him anymore, but I can't say goodbye. I can't bear to make him sad, but I am very tired and helpless.
? When you stop loving, for example? No? It is love. If you can't give him happiness, please set him free.
9. After breaking up with my lover, I feel that life is really gloomy and I have no interest in doing anything.
? While suffering, we should also think that the glory of the sun depends on its own great enthusiasm, rather than reflecting the light from the outside world.
biography
10, afraid to argue with others, afraid that others have ulterior motives, afraid to open up to people, but feel lonely, what should I do?
? A stream of water tastes tasteless, and it becomes a ripple when it swings; There is no fire in the stone, but it strikes and shines.
1 1, I feel lonely far from my relatives in my hometown. How can I make friends?
? The first way to make friends is to make enough friends.
12, I can't grasp the discretion of self-expression. Boast, others say crazy; Modesty, but afraid of being seen as? justsoso？ .
? First, don't say how good you are, others generally won't believe you; Don't say how bad you are, others will generally believe you. More profoundly: parrots can talk and stay with animals; Peaches and plums say nothing, but they go their own way.
13, it's hard to be with a friend who says almost everything. She knows a lot of secrets about me, and I'm worried. What should I do?
? One is the lesson. The ancients said: be intimate when you are happy, and prevent venting when you lose happiness; I feel sad when I am angry, but I should feel ashamed when I feel better.
14, immersed in reading, few friends, ignorant of the world. Some people call me a nerd. I am unconvinced and feel that I am not stupid, but it is also contradictory: I really don't want to be worldly, but I seem to have to be worldly.
? Wu Congxian lamented in Ming Dynasty:? The world is cold and human feelings are easy to flow; The world is sparse, and friendship is easy to hinder. What a pity! It's hard to live in! ? Knowing this dilemma may calm the contradictory heart.
15. At the beginning, the classmates in our dormitory had a good relationship and I was very happy. Now it's fading, and I'm busy, and I no longer have that kind of home atmosphere. I'm disappointed.
? Shortly after hatching, the chicken and the duckling are almost identical, and they all grew up together as accomplices. After a while, the old duck will be in the water. Please comfort the sad chicken.
15, I am introverted. A roommate is too overbearing and always makes fun of me. I don't want to make trouble with him in public, but I don't want to endure it all the time. What should I do?
? As soon as the right opportunity is found, write a note to remind him that jokes can't hurt enemies, but they can hurt friends, including roommates.
16, I often work hard, but I always make mistakes. The result is not always satisfactory. I am really disappointed, and sometimes I even feel desperate. Why are all efforts in vain?
? Barnyard grass may grow in the ground every year. Which farmer complained about the futility of pulling barnyard grass last year?
17, the world is changing too fast, e-mail, e-commerce, e-love. I come from the countryside, and my computer level is very low. I feel horrible. Will I fall behind the society and be dropped by e in the future?
? No matter what e is, e is just an attribute, and the subject is still mail, business and love.
18, seeing the noise in the society, I wonder where there is a pure land to make me peaceful?
? If a person can't find inner peace, I'm afraid it won't help anywhere.
19, I firmly believe that people who make mistakes should be severely punished and sanctioned. But sometimes, reality makes me angry. Why not?
? Don't be too harsh when attacking others, but think about it; Teach people not to be too good, but to be obedient.
Temperament article
20. I am strong. Some people call me vain. I admit it in my heart, but I can't change it, because I don't want others to look down on me.
? Vanity is a beautiful but uncovered dress. What role does it play besides increasing its own burden?
2 1, I consider myself a pessimist, and I often feel sad. Seeing many smiling faces is superficial. But, after all, after listening to many people and reading many books, I want it? Laugh at life? . Laugh or not laugh?
? One key is to be philosophical, optimistic and not to laugh. If your hair is gray, dyeing it black won't change your age. If you feel unhappy, why force a smile?
22. I'm always indecisive, suffering from loss, as if I can't let go of anything, which is very annoying.
? The key is not gain or loss. If you can get it without guilt and lose it without regret, let it be the result of gain and loss.
23. I really want to be a pure and upright person, but if others don't do it, won't I suffer?
? A pure conscience is a gentle pillow, which can make people sleep more soundly and stably.
24. I am lofty. I am angry and lonely when I see many people with poor taste.
? If you ask a male toad, what is beauty? It replied that beauty is its mother toad. Do you want to argue with it?
Life articles
25. The expectations of relatives and their own beliefs are for success, not failure. I feel a lot of competitive pressure, live very tired and feel nervous almost every day.
? By some standards, mediocre people account for the vast majority, including most of our parents. Are they all failures? Why can you succeed if you have resources, wealth, status and reputation, but you don't have a kind heart, a beautiful personality and a happy family?
26. I am very considerate. I often think a lot of questions, sometimes I can't even sleep. I am very upset, but I don't want to eat all day, so I am careless.
? A person who thinks too little may lose his dignity as a human being; If a person thinks too much, he will lose the pleasure of being a man.
27. I have many dreams that I can't give up, and I live a very painful life for these dreams. Can you get rid of it?
? Indeed, where there are dreams, it is inevitable that there will be suffering. However, the place without dreams is the grave.
28, family changes, I feel depressed, depressed, very doomed. How to change the unfortunate fate?
? A man can't change his destiny unless he changes his attitude towards it.
29. I was cheated and suffered heavy losses. I used to be simple, but now I'm disappointed in everything. Do I want to live? How to live?
? Think about my parents' upbringing first, and then remind myself: since fate forces me to be a hero, I must have the courage to live. 1. There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing the truth of life. Second, no matter how many hardships and setbacks you have experienced, no matter how much despair and disillusionment you have experienced, a person's life must be a hymn of life.
The third rule of positive energy: Although you are fragile, you must be strong for everyone who cries in your life.
For me, writing at my desk for three or four hours, reading quietly for one or two hours, running silently for one hour, cooking at home, walking and listening to music, and going to the cinema alone, I don't feel lonely. I can even order in a restaurant without feeling uncomfortable. In a word, I can list many things that I need to do alone. But I don't feel lonely. I'm the kind of person who doesn't lose by himself.
Live a collective life since childhood (/kloc-boarding school at the age of 0/4). I have been working for three years now. I still live with my college classmates, integrate into the group, live with others and get along with each other. I don't think I have any problems at all, but I really need to be alone often, especially when running. I don't like having friends around.
Some friends said they wanted to run with me, or stand by and watch me run and stay with me. On the surface, I will readily agree, but in fact I don't want to. Frankly speaking, because I often cry during long-distance running, because I often feel sorry for myself during long-distance running, so I prefer to run alone. I am a little embarrassed to confess this reason to you for the first time, but I am definitely not a slug who cries every time I run! )
What am I thinking when I run and cry? It is nothing more than trivial, painful, boring and helpless things in life, such as stress and difficulties at work, sadness and suffering in love, and sadness and trouble at home. I cry when I think of all the pain in long-distance running. If I encounter or think of pain on the day of running, I will cry. If you encounter or think less pain on the day of running, you will only squeeze out two tears to express your meaning. Even if I cry, I won't stop running.
If there is a long shot at my crying face in the movie, I know it must be ugly, but just like I can't stop running, I can't stop crying. Only when I cry for a long time can I release the mental pain accumulated in my daily life, I can see the strength and courage contained in me, I can truly accept my pain, understand my vulnerability, and then think about how to solve it.
In daily life, I often forget that one of the greatest truths in life is that life is full of hardships.
In the movie "This black boy is not too cold", Mathilde, a little girl, was beaten by her parents again, and her nose was running in the corridor in front of her home. Leon came back from the outside, passed by her and gave her a handkerchief to wipe her bleeding nose.
Mathilde: Life is always so hard, or only when you. Are you still a child?
Mathilde: Is life always so painful? Or is it just childhood pain?
l？ O: All the time.
Leon: It's always so painful.
Writer David? Foster. Wallace said: Suffering from pain and suffering is an unavoidable part in this world. ?
As Wang Xiaobo said in the Golden Age, life is a process of being hammered slowly. Everyone in life, like Sisyphus in Camus's The Myth of Sisyphus, painfully pushes stones to the top of the mountain until death, and the pain of life is completely over.
But it's always easy for me to forget this. Every time I meet those hardships in life, I always keep them in my heart first and think: Oh, why am I so bitter and tired, so stressed, and life is so bitter? When I cried during the long-distance running, I finally accepted this fact calmly again, learned to accept all the hardships that life gave me, admitted my fragility and ignorance, realized that it was useless to be so upset, and then began to really face the pain and calm down to think about how to solve the problem.
The problem that can be solved by persistence, then bite the bullet and stick to it.
Problems that can be solved through positive action, then take positive action.
If you can rely on others' help to solve the problem, ask for others' help.
Crying every long-distance running can last for more than half a month? Normal? State: emotional stability, positive attitude, positive thinking and hard work. Then run and cry the next time I meet you.
The more I grow up, the more I am afraid that others will praise me for being strong, because the more I grow up, the more I know myself, the more I understand my vulnerability and helplessness, and the more I understand that I can't afford it at all? Strong? Two words, but in these running and crying, I know that although I am fragile, I will be strong. In fact, who doesn't run for so long and cry in life? Isn't everyone's life just a tearful ultramarathon?
Since more and more people have been concerned, more and more friends have sent me emails. I think I have read at least 300 emails. Their pain is almost the same. Some people have physical defects, which is different. Some people have an extra toe, some people are obese, and some people are not successful in repairing rabbit lips. Some people have conflicts with their parents, and these contradictions are different. Some parents forced blind date, some parents opposed the current career, and some parents opposed his development away from home. Some people face the pain of love, which is different. Some partners cheat, some quarrel because of buying a house and getting married, and some fall in love with married men. Some people have great interpersonal pressure, some don't get along well with their roommates, some misunderstand their girlfriends and hurt their feelings, and some colleagues are intrigued and exhausted; Some people are trapped in work troubles, some people are doing jobs they don't like, some people are under the pressure of insomnia, and some people find it difficult to adapt to the rhythm of the office.
Just like a thousand people have a thousand Hamlets, a thousand people have a thousand kinds of pains, and perhaps more than that, a thousand people have ten thousand kinds of pains. When one of these pains is over, a new one will come, and even several pains will come together. Sometimes I think that if I interview anyone I meet in the street, subway station, crowded restaurant or shopping center, I will ask them a question: Do you think your life is painful? I think most of the answers I get will be: I am in pain. ? For more than 20 years, I have never seen a life without pain.
Pain is like a lush tree, the trunk of pain, and this is life. Other tree trunks are many components of life, such as career, study, love, marriage and family. Behind them are countless bifurcated branches and countless leaves, each of which is a concrete pain.
There is no painless life, life is full of hardships. Life is a process of constantly facing and overcoming pain. You must believe this fact completely, and don't try to deny or escape, because it is useless to solve the pain.
I reread Murakami's "When I talk about running, what am I talking about?" It makes me scream because this is the way I run.
? When you are desperate to finish the race, you will feel as if everything in your deepest body has been squeezed out, and a refreshing feeling similar to giving up on yourself arises spontaneously. ?
? When I am criticized for no reason (at least in my opinion), or when I feel that I can be accepted, I always run farther than usual. Running longer than usual, making the body consume more, let us re-recognize ourselves as a weak human with limited ability from the deepest and physical understanding. Moreover, running a longer distance than usual is to keep fit, even a little. If you are angry, take it out on yourself. If you feel uneasy, use this uneasiness to adjust yourself. ?
Some words inspired me. He said that there is a marathon runner's running mantra: pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. ? The key word is this optional. For example, running suddenly feels like: Oh, I'm so tired, I can't do it. This? Tired? This is an inevitable fact, but is it true? No? But it's up to me. ?
Pain is inevitable, but the definition of pain depends on ourselves. Our attitude towards pain determines our attitude towards life. If you feel pain, it actually means that you are growing. Facing problems and solving problems can make us learn the best things. American philosopher Benjamin? Franklin said: only pain can bring lessons? .
If I hadn't experienced the pain of reading a junior college, studying an undergraduate course and working at the same time, I wouldn't have found a job so easily when I graduated from the economic crisis, and I couldn't have such a strong self-study ability to learn professional skills.
If it weren't for insomnia, overeating and lovelorn in the past two years, I wouldn't have such deep empathy for other people's emotional pain, and I wouldn't have read so many psychology books to gain those psychological knowledge.
As Eason Chan's song "Bitter Melon" sang:
Just when you were sad that day, she turned down a good offer.
How can we find out that you can learn to understand, forgive and forgive from emotional robbery?
It's like something I'm struggling with. Now I look back on the past.
It turned out that there was nothing wrong.
I can't believe we hated bitter gourd at the beginning.
Today, I see that wisdom is becoming more and more unforgettable.
At the beginning, I suffered some hardships and planted beautiful flowers.
Thanks to the hard way, the sweetness is not small.
The fast food of youth only asks you to ignore which one.
There is no room for pondering to appreciate exquisiteness and elegance.
Realize the sublimation of tiger throat
Don't make tea until it is digested.
It's not too bad for you to feel bitter.
Pain is pain. I won't let you pretend to enjoy it, but please change your attitude towards pain and regard it as an indispensable training in life. You can cry in the face of pain, but don't run away; You can complain, but do something; You can be fragile, but please stick to it with blood. It's really good to be here for a while.
Everyone has his own life pain to face, and to solve it, I even think that a person's pain has established his existence in this world, and pain is one of the important ways for a person to know himself.
So please don't be short-sighted about your own pain. Every pain you suffer is a mysterious gift from God (in fact, it is not easy to think so). I hope you can learn, accumulate and grow from every pain you have suffered. If the pain you experience is only pain, and you can't turn it into the nutrient of life and pour that strong flower into your heart, then you may be miserable and fragile all your life, and you may not find your sense of existence.
I know that although you are fragile, you must be strong, not that you must be strong, but that you will be strong, because you are on the way to becoming strong.
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