There is a story that belittles the stepmother: one winter, two brothers pulled a rickshaw and the old man opened the shaft. My brother was born by my mother, and my brother was born by my stepmother. In winter, my brother is shivering with cold in a thick new cotton-padded jacket, and of course he won't pull the car too well. My brother is wearing an old cotton-padded jacket, which is not too thick, but my brother doesn't shake and pulls the cart well. Dad looked at his brother's displeasure. As soon as he lifted it, the cotton-padded jacket blossomed. That's not cotton, but the tassel of reed. When the wind blows, it floats all over the floor. Dad knew something, and then another whip was whipped on his younger brother. The cotton-padded jacket cracked, but it was filled with real new cotton. These are all made by that stepmother. The surface of my brother's cotton-padded jacket is different from the lining. This story was very representative in the past, because there were too few good stepmother. Visible, face is important, lining is more important. But why do people often put face before lining and pay more attention to face? In fact, the reason is very simple: the face is outside, the lining is inside, and outsiders look at the face instead of the lining. A cursory look, whose cotton-padded jacket do you think is good? I will definitely think that my brother is better, fresh and thick-skinned. If his father hadn't taken away their cotton-padded jackets with a whip, he would think that the cotton-padded jacket worn by his eldest son was better than that of his younger son. Facts have proved that the problem of face and lining is a problem of form and content. Form and content are unified, form is necessary, but form serves the content.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "Face is the spiritual program of China people." Please eat. If you don't come, you will lose face. Drinking, not doing it is humiliating; Sending a message, not returning is humiliating; If you want to seal a red envelope, too little is to lose face ... Live for face, die for face, and ruin people's lives for face, which is a true portrayal of countless people in China. There is nothing wrong with saving face and emphasizing form. But everything has a limit, beyond the bottom line of things, it will harm others and yourself. For example, in Mencius, a man who was begging for food and offering sacrifices to satisfy his hunger in front of his wife and concubine often invited him to dinner. After a big meal, I came home drunk, swearing and bossing around. After a long time, wives and concubines all doubted him and followed him. Finally, they saw him begging for the rest of the sacrifices in the eastern suburb cemetery, not at the rich man's banquet. Huang Tingjian, a poet in the Song Dynasty, once said, "People beg to sacrifice concubines." It seems that if you care too much about face and engage in formalism, it is easy to talk big and tell lies. For example, in 206 BC, Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, invaded Qin Jun and moved to Xianyang. Counselor Fan Zeng advised him to make Guanzhong his capital, so that he could win the world. Xiang Yu refused without thinking. After sealing 18 princes in one breath, he said, "If you don't return home with wealth, it's like walking at night." Xiang Yu is proud, the king of the world, and he did it; He went back to his hometown to show off, and he did the same. Just for this face, he enfeoffed the world, indulged in pleasure, dissipated his strength and destroyed his lining. In 202 BC, Yu Xia was under siege and committed suicide in Yuji. He led 200 riders to break through and rush to the north bank of Wujiang River. His people advised him to cross the river in order to make a comeback. He refused again, "I have no face to see my elders in Jiangdong." The hero lived for face all his life and eventually died for face. Unfortunately, he didn't know until he died: only a few cents can make him face; If the lining is broken, the face will go bankrupt sooner or later.

Ba Jin said: "True happiness is not living like others, but living according to your own wishes." As the saying goes, "a man lives with a face and a tree lives with a skin." In other words, people live in the world, and face is very important. Live with face, people will believe you and respect you, you will talk nonsense and you will win affirmation and praise. On the other hand, people who have no face talk lightly. Even if you appear a thousand times, people will think you are air. Even if you talk a lot, few people will really listen. However, everything in this world is not absolute, only relative, and it is best to choose what suits you. Every time you give your face to others, you are overdrawing your lining. It is better to live a face for others than to live a lining for yourself. If you want to achieve your perfect life, you can't be driven by interests and secularity, and always stick to your beliefs. For example, Ji Xianlin, a famous scholar, objected to being called a "master of Chinese studies". His personality and modality are quite unique, and his pride is faint, but it is consistent. He never takes the initiative to visit any official, nor will he be flattered by any official's visit. No matter who it is, it is a cup of tea. Ji Xianlin's pride doesn't feel cold, but he does exist. Perhaps it is Ji Xianlin's spirit of sticking to his faith, keeping his true colors and not being changed by anything that makes him remembered by the world. For another example, Bi Shumin, a famous writer, gave up his diploma and opened a psychological counseling center outside the West Fourth Ring Road in Beijing after several years of hard work. In order to discourage others, Bi Shumin laughed it off. She thinks that if a doctoral thesis on psychology with hundreds of thousands of words is written down, she may not write any more novels. Bi Shumin chose novels that suit him and developed psychological research into his hobby. Naturally, her life is beautiful. Just like a pair of shoes, the most expensive and gorgeous pair is not necessarily the most suitable for you; On the contrary, maybe a pair of ordinary casual shoes will refresh you.

Wei Wei said: "It is the most shameful thing to persist in making mistakes in order to save face." Rousseau said: "Never make yourself disrespectful to others in order to please others." Face and lining complement each other. Linzi is the connotation and connotation of face, which is expressed through face; Face is the external expression of lining, supported by Yuriko. Most people in China have a common fault: they value face over lining, some pretend to be cheap, some pretend to be elegant, and some pretend to be rich. In real life, if we put down our face properly, it may make you go further on the road of life. For example, Li Keng, a student of Central South University of Forestry and Technology, sells sweet potatoes after graduation. In less than a year, * * * founded 10 chain stores. He said: "I have a job that others don't like, but I have an income that most people envy." For example, Lu Buxuan, the champion of liberal arts college entrance examination in Peking University, was the darling of the 1980s. At the age of 34, he was forced to pick up a pig-killing knife and start a business of killing pigs and chopping meat. Bobby Chen, who is also a graduate of Peking University and worked in the general office of Guangzhou Municipal Committee, resolutely resigned and decided to sell Peking University pork with Lu Buxuan. In 20 15 years, the sales volume of 1 local pig jointly created by them exceeded 10 billion, becoming the first brand of local pig in China. Now, they have finally completed the counterattack, from the shame of their "black" alma mater to the passion of "not being ashamed"; From the "favored son of heaven" to the "butcher king" today, the "big ostentation and extravagance" of Beijing 12 store attracted people to stop and cheer. They said: selling pork to the extreme, "should not be a shame for the alma mater." As college students, these people are doing careers that others are unwilling to do or even look down upon. Fight against outside public opinion, put down face, go your own way and achieve your own unique life. It can be seen that don't impose other people's lifestyles on yourself, don't live in other people's eyes, and don't live in other people's mouths, but try to realize the dreams buried in your heart. Only in this way can we be as calm as water and have a sky of our own.

Balzac said: "People are tired because they can't put down their shelves, tear their faces and untie their complex." Voltaire said, "Arrogance is just a mask of ignorance." For example, flowers choose to bloom beautifully in spring, frogs choose to show their voices in summer, fruits choose to be golden in autumn, wintersweet chooses to be proud and independent in winter, eagles choose to soar in the blue sky, and fish choose to swim in the sea ... Everything in the world is full of richness and shows the most beautiful posture, precisely because they all choose what suits them best. Another example is the same hairstyle. Some people look neat, while others look uncomfortable. Different people may wear the same clothes with many different effects; Lavender grows far away from the north and south, because everything is different, but it is not suitable. For example, the stage of cactus is an endless desert sea, which is most suitable for it. It shows the value of life here and depicts the chapter of life wonderfully. In the face of infinite spring, Song Qing did not waver, still standing on the top of the mountain, sticking to the sky; Facing the competition of flowers, the lotus is unmoved by it, and still sticks to its pure land, showing its true colors of "coming out of the mud without dyeing, being clear without demon"; "I crushed violets with one foot, leaving a strong fragrance." The persistence of all things in nature shows us that the persistence of self-style can achieve exclusive brilliance and interpret unique life. There are no two identical leaves and no two identical lives in the world. No one can overlap their own life trajectory with others. If you want to have a unique life, you must find the right one and put on the shoes that suit you, so that you can go further. A big face doesn't prove that you have a face, and a small face can't say that you have no face. Looking around the world, people with face have won face over time, not the future. Only when the lining is well done can the face be big enough. Otherwise, not only do you lose face, but you also lose face. As Li Ka-shing said, "When you put down your face to make money, you know better. When you earn back your face with money, it means you have succeeded. When you can earn money by saving face, it means that you are already alone. When you still stay there drinking, bragging, pretending that you don't know anything and only love the so-called face, it means that this is your life. "