If Luo Cha, who indulges in hell, will drag you into the abyss of life, then self-reliance is the bodhisattva to save you. Now many families are only children. Therefore, children have become the "baby among babies, Wang Zhongwang" in every family! Everything follows the wishes of the children, and every day, clothes come to reach out and food comes to mouth. Children can do whatever they want, and parents who want to spend money are in short supply.

Although the love of parents is great, this kind of love makes us live a carefree and happy life every day as children, and we will have great dependence after a long time! Just like drugs. Although you can feel a temporary happiness when you eat it, you will rely on it once. After a long time, you can't extricate yourself. Finally, step by step, you will quietly bring the hope of the future into the abyss of hell. ......

I once heard a story from my teacher: "There are a group of monkeys in the zoo for tourists to watch. Because tourists throw food around every day and administrators feed it on time every day, monkeys have long been dependent. Waiting for someone to bring them food at the same place and time every day. Over time, they have completely lost their ability to prey and become veritable lazy monkeys and stupid monkeys! "

After listening to the teacher's story, I was lost in thought. Why do some parents know that it is not good to spoil their children, or do they spoil their children? Do they want to turn their children into waste? What the hell is this for? This question really puzzles me?

I once read a story in a book: There is a circus, and they need a monkey to perform. So they tried their best to catch a beautiful and clever monkey. However, this monkey doesn't listen to his master's command and orders, and always opposes his master. The master wanted to teach the monkey a lesson, but he was reluctant to give up, fearing that it would break the smooth appearance of the monkey. Feed it delicious every day. And gave it a code name "No.1". In order not to hurt "No.1" and let it learn to obey its master's orders, the master bought another monkey and named it "No.2". From the appearance, "No.2" is much less attractive than "No.1". In order to make "No.1" better, the master whipped "No.2" every day to spur "No.1". Over time, "No.1" is not only not afraid of its owner, but also applauds! And "No.2" trains hard every day, not letting himself be beaten, getting better and better every day, winning glory for his master! Later, No.2 successfully stopped the stage farce caused by 1 ... The host was moved and locked "No.1" tightly in the cage, feeling too incompetent, and "No.2" became the protagonist of the stage, the honor of the host!

After reading this story, I can't help admiring the self-reliance of the ugly monkey "No.2", but also feel sad for the monkey "No.1" with bright appearance! This is the sharp contrast between doting and self-reliance! We live in a competitive era, and we must strive for a better life in the future by our own efforts. We don't want to be lazy monkeys and stupid monkeys in love!

Dear parents, although your love is selfless and unrequited, we don't need to spoil it. Such love will eventually harm our generation. Therefore, please put away this false love and increase the cultivation of children's life and independent spirit. Only in this way will we become the most proud new generation in the future!

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what is love ? Parents have given us a happy and sweet life, but everything must be measured. Once measured, it will become poison. Love is the same, too much will become spoil! I have seen such a cartoon about "doting" in a Chinese book, which has profound implications! The picture shows that a child put his foot on the table, kicked the bowl over and spilled rice all over the floor. The young father plays a clown here, and the mother feeds the food to the children there, but the children don't eat it and cry. At home, the child is a treasure, and it won't hurt anywhere. He is a veritable little emperor, and this is the doting of his parents!

From this, I think there are many practical examples in life. For example, if a child wants water, his parents will give it to him. Can't the child do it himself? If the child doesn't do his homework, his parents will coax him into doing it and promise various conditions. Is it parents' duty to do homework? Parents carry schoolbags when children go to school. Can't a child even carry a small schoolbag?

Once, I saw a child running to a toy store. His mother pulled him behind him and said softly, "Listen, mom has something to do today, so I'll buy it tomorrow!" " "But the child kept crying, and the mother changed her mind and said," Well, let's go! Stop crying! Mom bought it, don't cry! "I really don't know why parents spoil their children like this.

Spoiling can stop a strong eagle from learning to fly; Spoiling will turn a clever child into a person who can't take care of himself. If you develop the bad habit of relying on others in everything and retreating when encountering setbacks, you will ruin your child in the future! Therefore, each of us should understand that doting is not love, but incense poison!

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Children are the future of the family, the flowers of the society and the future of the motherland, so they will be fully concerned by the state, society and family. But specifically, whether a child can grow up healthily is related to his future. Therefore, children's education has become a common concern of the society. Now some children are spoiled by their families and deformed. Many parents' love for their children has developed to a very outrageous level. When the child fell while walking, the parents quickly helped him up and kept whispering. When the child eats, the parents send the meal to his mouth; When the child sleeps, his parents give him a quilt and stay with him until he falls asleep, even though these children are eight or nine years old … and so on.

Of course, parents' love for their children is human nature, but once this love is transformed into doting, it becomes qualitative. We often say that doting is tantamount to killing a child, and moderate love is measured. Only moderate love and reasonable guidance can make a healthy and capable boy. But many parents turn a blind eye to this truth. If parents take the place of what children can do, then objectively, parents indirectly obliterate children's independent living ability, not to mention their self-innovation and practical ability. There used to be such a story. Tell a doctoral student that he got excellent grades, but because he was spoiled by his parents since childhood, he couldn't take care of himself when he grew up, and he couldn't live without his parents' company. Finally, he committed suicide because his parents died.

It should be noted that people are inherently inert. It's just that this inertia will be more prominent in some people. If a person is accustomed to the doting of his parents since childhood, he will never be the hope of his family, the pillar of society and the future of his motherland.

As far as the current situation in China is concerned, many parents have indulged their children to the extreme. Even the names are very intimate, like what baby, darling, little dream and so on. Because of doting, there are all kinds of spoiled and selfish greenhouse flowers. They can't stand the wind and rain, and they give up when they encounter some difficulties. What's more, they made a big mistake because of a momentary idea and became prisoners in prison.

Needless to say, parents' doting on their children does have great disadvantages. For the healthy growth of children, please be stingy with your doting!