Interpersonal relationship in a broad sense refers to various relationships between people. Including economic relations, political relations, legal relations, role relations and other aspects. The interpersonal relationship here only refers to the psychological relationship formed by people in the process of communication from a narrow perspective. And it pays attention to the intimacy, harmony and coordination of this psychological relationship. The research shows that when the relationship between the two sides is harmonious, they should show complementarity in the latitude of respect and inferiority, and show reciprocity in the latitude of intimacy and distance.
Personally, as an indispensable network in life, it has the following characteristics: virtual identity; Equal status; Emotional sustenance and virtual achievements, etc. These will affect our real interpersonal relationships, especially those who feel inferior because of many factors. The appearance of the Internet will undoubtedly greatly change their interpersonal relationship.
Network can greatly improve the confidence of interpersonal communication. Research shows that the main factors affecting interpersonal relationships are appearance, positive communication, similarity and complementarity.
First of all, the network, on the other hand, provides a space for people to fully display themselves.
With the acceleration of the pace of modern life, people's life pressure is increasing, especially the communication confusion. So I especially hope to vent my feelings; At the same time, they don't want to reveal their true identity, and the network just provides such a relaxed environment. People can play a completely different role from life in the online virtual world: introverts can become humorous; Selfish and perverse people may become extraordinarily gentle and considerate; People express their love more boldly and enthusiastically ... as someone said, "no one on the internet knows you are a dog." Therefore, the communication between people in the network state can not be effectively constrained by interpersonal relationships in real life, which is very deceptive and free.
The virtuality of identity in the network can reduce some people's anxiety caused by ugly appearance and lack of communication at ordinary times, and enhance their confidence in interpersonal communication. At the same time, the "virtuality" in the network can also make up for some "missing" that cannot be realized in reality. What is presented to the other party is something that is both true and not completely true. Although these words are flowing from your fingers, they are not monologues of your true feelings, or more decorations.
The equality of status in the network can also reduce the timidity caused by different economic and status in many communication. Your social status has no influence on the internet. Whether you are a professor or a student, your right to speak is the same. Whether your writing is popular or not has no halo effect, what matters is whether your writing is attractive or not.
Second, the network gives people a sense of beauty because of the distance of space, which is more in line with people's yearning for romance.
Emotional sustenance and virtual achievements in the network can also greatly enhance self-confidence in interpersonal communication. Someone once said, "Feelings depend on fate on the one hand and frequent communication on the other." . At the beginning of QQ chat, we may just talk to each other blindly, but later we may find that we have many common topics, gradually changing from unfamiliar to familiar, then becoming like-minded friends, and finally finding emotional sustenance. This is undoubtedly a successful example of interpersonal communication. For example, some games can not only develop their own intelligence, but also improve their popularity and self-confidence through game scores.
But the network is virtual reality after all, just as people often say: "Although the garden is good, it is not a place to stay for a long time", so is the network. As mentioned above, the Internet can bring many benefits to interpersonal communication, but to put it bluntly, it is based on "wasting money". The interpersonal relationship in reality is more complicated than that in the "network".
For example, he was fooled by all kinds of false information on the Internet, cheated by others in online communication, and his emotional experience was depressed; In other words, applying the simple interpersonal experience on the internet to our daily life will make us feel pale and powerless, thus resulting in psychological inferiority. Because the role transformation between objective reality and virtual reality cannot be effectively realized, it is easy to form psychological dislocation and action disorder, and even lose affinity with reality. Since then, "hiding in a small building has become unified, regardless of spring, summer, autumn and winter." Instead of improving your interpersonal relationship, it has worsened.
Practice has proved that after the virtual world makes people "hide", the low-quality interpersonal relationship naturally replaces the high-quality interpersonal relationship in reality. In real life, endless depression, confusion and loneliness torment them from time to time. When patients finally lose interest in social communication, their mental and psychological activities also go astray. Severe personality disorder and schizophrenia.
Here, we look for the reasons from the depths of the Internet.
Foreign experts believe that people who surf the Internet have only three purposes: seeking social support, virtual personality and sexual fantasy. In the past two years, Professor Tao Hongkai of Huazhong Normal University, who has been committed to helping and saving children who are "hidden on the Internet", analyzed that there are three kinds of people: the first kind is a child with a single interest or no other hobbies, who suddenly found his own position in online games and found a good place to kill time, thus becoming obsessed with it; The second is that many poor students are addicted to the internet because they can't get recognition from others. They can't feel the joy of learning success in their daily study life, but "playing games online" can get virtual rewards, affirm themselves and vent their depression caused by unsuccessful learning; Third, I hope to escape from reality on the Internet because of my poor interpersonal relationship. Although many students study well, they are introverted, suspicious and narrow-minded. When they encounter problems, they indulge in internet cafes, which seriously affects their study and life.
I think the internet is like a beautiful and evil "poppy" in life. It can cure diseases, but it can also lose a person's labor force and make people addicted to it, which shows that things have two sides. In fact, whether the network and interpersonal relationship promote or hinder the relationship depends on how you look at the network.
First of all, we should not regard the internet as a way to escape from reality, but as a tool for real service, and the internet will give full play to the beneficial role of interpersonal relationships.
Network can not only help us find like-minded friends in a wider range, but also greatly help us improve the quality of interpersonal communication; Internet can also help people who are not good at interpersonal communication to rebuild their self-confidence. For example, many people are afraid of the psychological shadow of interacting with others because of their own conditions, but they can easily put aside these psychological shadows and boldly associate with strangers on the Internet. In other words, online communication can be regarded as an exercise and exercise of real interpersonal communication.
Secondly, we should always keep a clear head and reasonably grasp the proportion of virtual network in real life; Learn to correctly grasp the degree of surfing the internet; We should learn to dare to face life, because online communication can't replace social interaction in real life, so we must maintain normal communication with people around us. If you have mental illness, it's best not to go online for comfort, but to seek the help of psychologists, especially "Internet addicts".
Finally, take the network as a tool and make full use of the convenience of network resources to expand our knowledge, instead of just taking it as a tool for our entertainment. Even immersed in the virtual space! In the face of too many choices and temptations, only by proper screening can you have her, otherwise you will always be his slave!
To sum up, the network can not only promote interpersonal communication, but also hinder interpersonal communication. The key is to see how you view the role of the network in it and how to use it to build your own life!
Editor's Note: This article is my homework when I was a sophomore. I'll take it out today, please correct me!