Does it count to finish all the courses in junior high school and senior high school in three years?

Can I go to MIT for a doctorate at the age of 24?

Does Nature publish two articles a day count?

And these, he has done it-Cao Yuan, an alumnus of China University of Science and Technology 10 juvenile class and a post-95 doctoral student at MIT.

On May 6th, London time, 24-year-old Cao Reason and his doctoral supervisor sent two Nature articles in succession, introducing the new breakthrough in the study of magic horn graphene, which once again sensationalized the world.

As early as 20 18, he ranked first among the top ten scientists in Nature magazine, and he was the youngest person in the history of the magazine's founding 149. Cao Yuan also became the youngest China scholar to publish a paper in this magazine as the "first author", and was called "the youngest potential Nobel Prize winner in China" by some reports.

Cao Yuan's remarkable achievements are due to his alma mater, Hua Yao Middle School, which provided him with a flexible teaching mechanism, the good learning environment of MIT and the junior class of China University of Science and Technology, the careful teaching of teachers, personal struggle along the way, and most importantly, the enlightened family education given by his parents during his growth.

It is reported that Cao Yuan, known as "the child of others", has been a troublemaker since he was a child. Because silver nitrate needed for chemical experiments is expensive and difficult to buy, he bought nitric acid, put his mother's silver bracelet in it and artificially "synthesized" silver nitrate.

Such destructive behavior, in the eyes of other parents, is just doing nothing, while Cao Yuan's parents have given maximum tolerance and support. A laboratory belonging to Cao Yuan was specially set up at home, which provided material support and spiritual support, enabling him to have the conditions for research and scientific research. Finally, with the support of many parties, Cao Yuan became a "genius boy" as he wished.

In many families, parents are often in a strong dominant position. From children's daily life to children's school employment, parents have the final say, and children's voices and feelings are insignificant.

But the core of family education is to take children as the main body and parents as the auxiliary. Parents help their children to form an independent personality and solve problems by themselves in various ways, instead of letting them realize their parents' expectations step by step or interfering in everything under the banner of "for your own good". Even some extreme parents can't distinguish between help and service, and kill their children's basic self-care ability in the name of love.

Wei Yongkang, also known as a child prodigy, grew up in an unhealthy family education environment, and finally lived a completely opposite life with Cao Yingyuan.

In 2000, Wei Yongkang, aged 17, was admitted to the Institute of High Energy Physics of Chinese Academy of Sciences for further study. Because he was used to his mother arranging everything in his life since he was a child, he could not arrange his own study and life after entering the graduate school. Not only did he have no ability to take care of himself, but he often forgot to take exams and write his graduation thesis, and was finally dismissed from school. When talking about Wei Yongkang's heavy life, her mother said with tears that her education method hurt him.

It is every parent's expectation to have a long-term success, but too much interference in their children's lives and imposing their expectations on them will only destroy their life rhythm. Either let the children lose their sense of self and independence and grow up all their lives; Otherwise, it will be like Wei Yongkang, once out of the track of parents, it will be completely "out of control".

Family education in the name of love is doomed to be unworkable. Only by giving children the right to choose and letting them follow their own hearts can they achieve real growth.

When talking about today's achievements, Kang Hui, a famous host of CCTV, said that he was very grateful to his parents, who never interfered with his hobbies and respected his opinions and choices.

It is understood that Kang Hui's junior high school math and physics scores are very good, but because of his preference for liberal arts, he gave up the provincial key schools in the senior high school entrance examination and applied for the middle school attached to Normal University, which has the strongest liberal arts. In the 1980s, "learning mathematics and physics well and traveling all over the world is not afraid" was the mainstream concept of society. Kang Hui's parents were born in science and engineering, so Kang Hui's choice surprised people around him, but his parents respected Kang Hui's choice.

Parents are born earlier than their children, and they have the responsibility and obligation to help their children become better people. However, blindly imposing your own life experience and seemingly perfect cognition on your child will only obliterate your child's personality development and increase the risk of your child becoming a giant baby.

In addition, with the progress of society and the development of science and technology, we are in an ever-changing era, and the experience and skills of our parents are a little weak to meet the requirements of the future society. Only by letting children learn and experience by themselves can they cultivate their ability to adapt to society.

More importantly, will children really be happy if they interfere in their lives and choose the seemingly correct path for them?

The debate program "Seven Ba Shuo" once had a debate topic, "If you could customize the perfect life for your child with one click, would you press the button?" That sounds ridiculous. Think about it, don't most parents make decisions for their children? Pave a perfect road for children with your own life experience.

Fu Seoul, an opponent of the program, said, "We have been set many keywords since childhood. How many people live their own lives according to their parents' genealogy, but who cares when we really lose those happiness? "

Every parent wants their children to have a perfect life, but they don't know that perfection in their children doesn't mean happiness and want.

Li Wan, the heroine in the movie Dog Thirteen, has a strong sensitivity and extraordinary talent for science since she was a child. However, due to partiality, my father lost face and stubbornly enrolled his daughter in an English cram school. However, Li didn't want to go. His angry father lost his temper and put on a gesture of "I did it for your own good". He regards bullying and command as his father's privilege, and finally makes father and daughter drift away without understanding each other.

There are many possibilities and unpredictability in the process of children growing up. Parents love their children. While providing a good environment for their children, they should learn to respect and properly let their children grow naturally and give the greatest possible support to their interests and ambitions. For children's unintentional fields, try not to impose and force them, but cultivate them like gardeners instead of carving them like carpenters.