When I entered junior high school and started to stay, I began to feel homesick, which was a feeling I had never felt before. I had no sleep that night. That night, the evening self-study ended early. Go back to the dormitory, prepare toiletries, go to the water room, line up, wash your face, brush your teeth, and walk back to the dormitory. Students in the morning and senior one turn off the lights and have a rest. Lying in bed, quietly looking at the ceiling of the upper bunk, awake. Miss home, dad and mom. No, I want to have a good rest and have a class tomorrow-I warned myself, so I tried to close my eyes and want to fall asleep slowly and naturally, just like at home. But in my mind, I clearly see a place I am most familiar with-home, that simple but warm hut. At this moment, there should be no lights at home, right? Mom and dad should be asleep, right? Our room should be cleaned by mom, right? There should be neatly folded quilts on the bed, lovely dolphin toys, and a book I like by the bed. On the desk, I should ... think, think, a tear slipped across my face and fell on my slightly wet pillow. I sat up and looked out of the window. It was a hazy night. There was silence in the busy campus during the day. Several stars twinkled in the night sky. Aren't they asleep? Or did you stay with me on purpose? I sat against the wall and subconsciously looked at my watch, but it was dark and I couldn't see anything clearly. I touched a book at random and flipped through it crazily. Tears fell on the book like broken beads. Raise my hand and wipe away my tears. I think I saw it, mom? Yes, it's mom! Mother sat by the window and stared at the twinkling stars in the night sky. She must be thinking about me, too. I don't know whether I'm talking to myself or staring at the stars, shouting over and over again: mom! Mom! All of a sudden, all kinds of memories come to mind, mother's nagging, mother's scolding, mother's praise, mother's hug, everything is so beautiful. I held my legs, lowered my head, let tears gush out and silently thought about my parents. One o'clock, two o'clock, five o'clock ... so, it's dawn. I stayed up all night, and so did my parents.
Do you still have the heart to let your children go to boarding school after seeing such sad and desolate words?
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Half of the children who grew up under the boarding system are children in orphanages. Li Shanshan is not the only one who can write such words. A child once wrote a letter to his mother who was away on business all the year round. The name is "I lack maternal love in my life": since my mother started the company, my maternal love has dropped like a ropeway. She works until seven or eight o'clock every day, and sometimes she doesn't come home until after nine o'clock. As Mr. Lu Xun wrote, I can only see the high sky. Now I want my mother to accompany me for a day, even if I sit all the time. Looking at the true feelings, boarding children seem to be like orphans who have lost their parents, which makes people feel distressed. What is the psychology of orphans in orphanages? I can only live in a paramilitary management environment, lacking the warmth of normal family life and the love of my parents, and I don't know how to communicate with people because no one cares. Often sitting alone in a corner can easily lead to loneliness and even depression. British economist Adam? Smith strongly opposes sending children to boarding schools. He believes that children's long-term separation from their parents will fundamentally undermine family ethics and family happiness. Nothing can make up for the harm that boarding life has brought to children.
Imagine that once children come home from school every day, they can jump into their parents' arms, eat hot meals, do their homework and be accompanied by their parents. The whole family is very happy. After boarding, after school, there is only an empty and cold dormitory, and the food in the canteen is cold. No one can be spoiled. Even if they don't do well in the exam, they can only choose to hide and cry. The huge contrast of boarding seems to be like what happened at home. The original perfect family was fragmented and became an "orphan" overnight, accompanied by only silent tears. In the long run, there will be psychological problems! Having a complete family is an indispensable condition for every child to grow up. A child who was sent to boarding school early lost his parents' company and the warmth of his family, and his growth conditions were not met, so he might not grow up normally!
It is not so much to exercise children's self-reliance as to say that parents are evading their responsibilities. Some parents think that boarding can exercise their children's self-reliance. But it is never necessary for children to learn to stand on their own feet. In daily life, letting children do housework and tidy the room can also cultivate children to learn to stand on their own feet. Even under the unified management adopted by some schools, children only know obedience and then lose their own personality. "Exercising children's self-reliance" is obviously just a bad excuse for parents to escape the responsibility of education and caring for their children! Boarding is never based on the real needs of children, but to meet the needs of parents who are lazy! Please pay attention to all parents who want to send their children to boarding schools: the golden education period of their children is from primary school to high school 12. Because you are lazy, you choose boarding, so you miss the company and escape the education. After that, don't blame the child for being indifferent! Many parents cry: education is difficult, I really don't understand education. In fact, educating children never requires parents to be tall or to graduate in 1985, 2 1 1. Education is your three views on how to be a man and how to be correct. Mother is cooking, children help mother wash vegetables, mother and son laugh and cook a meal together, which is education; The family sits around a table for dinner, parents take the initiative to help grandparents with food, and children watch. This is education; Before going to bed, the mother helps the child to cover the bed, and the child helps the mother to pour the foot washing water. This is also education. Education has always been a detail of what parents do in their lives. Children see everything in their eyes and influence them for a long time. For children, parents are the best teachers, family is the best nutrition, dining table is the best desk and home is the best school.
Bai: I wouldn't let my children live in school even if I were killed. Bai made it clear in an interview that even if my wife and I worked very hard, I wouldn't let my children live on campus. The reason why Bai strongly opposes boarding is actually very simple. Boarding will have a lot of bad psychology for children. 1. Interpersonal disharmony. At least six children live in a dormitory. Adolescent children are immature and have different personalities, so they need to spend more time running in with each other. Some netizens once "exposed" their boarding life: in the dormitory, you can't get good grades, grow well, dress well and use well. Deliberately pretending to be ugly and calling you crazy, deliberately pretending to be stupid and calling you Yin; You are dirty when you are untidy, and slutty when you are clean. On the surface, I am your own sister. When you are away, I will scold you in the dormitory, sow dissension and unite other dormitory people to hate you. This netizen's experience is not a case! In fact, the interpersonal relationship of junior and senior high school children is far more complicated than adults think! It is common to compete with each other, small groups and sow dissension behind their backs. For most children, boarding can only feel sadness and even cruelty. 2. Children who live in school with great learning pressure, whether in primary school or junior high school, can't escape the comparison of academic performance. Being in the same dormitory will even make the contrast more frequent and intense. Boarding students will always have greater learning pressure than day students. If they live in the dormitory more frequently, they are likely to have a psychological collapse because of their unsatisfactory exam results.
Rabbit with drooping ears on the moon 18: 18:48 Imagine that once a child comes home from school every day, he can jump into his parents' arms, eat hot meals, do homework, and be accompanied by his parents, and the whole family will be happy. After boarding, after school, there is only an empty and cold dormitory, and the food in the canteen is cold. No one can be spoiled. Even if they don't do well in the exam, they can only choose to hide and cry. The huge contrast of boarding seems to be like what happened at home. The original perfect family was fragmented and became an "orphan" overnight, accompanied by only silent tears. In the long run, there will be psychological problems! Having a complete family is an indispensable condition for every child to grow up. A child who was sent to boarding school early lost his parents' company and the warmth of his family, and his growth conditions were not met, so he might not grow up normally! It is not so much to exercise children's self-reliance as to say that parents are evading their responsibilities. Some parents think that boarding can exercise their children's self-reliance. But it is never necessary for children to learn to stand on their own feet. In daily life, letting children do housework and tidy the room can also cultivate children to learn to stand on their own feet. Even under the unified management adopted by some schools, children only know obedience and then lose their own personality. "Exercising children's self-reliance" is obviously just a bad excuse for parents to escape the responsibility of education and caring for their children! Boarding is never based on the real needs of children, but to meet the needs of parents who are lazy! Please pay attention to all parents who want to send their children to boarding schools: the golden education period of their children is from primary school to high school 12. Because you are lazy, you choose boarding, so you miss the company and escape the education. After that, don't blame the child for being indifferent! Many parents cry: education is difficult, I really don't understand education. In fact, educating children never requires parents to be tall or to graduate in 1985, 2 1 1. Education is your three views on how to be a man and how to be correct. Mother is cooking, children help mother wash vegetables, mother and son laugh and cook a meal together, which is education; The family sits around a table for dinner, parents take the initiative to help grandparents with food, and children watch. This is education; Before going to bed, the mother helps the child to cover the bed, and the child helps the mother to pour the foot washing water. This is also education. Education has always been a detail of what parents do in their lives. Children see everything in their eyes and influence them for a long time. For children, parents are the best teachers, family is the best nutrition, dining table is the best desk and home is the best school. Bai: I wouldn't let my children live in school even if I were killed. Bai made it clear in an interview that even if my wife and I worked very hard, I wouldn't let my children live on campus. The reason why Bai strongly opposes boarding is actually very simple. Boarding will have a lot of bad psychology for children. 1. Interpersonal disharmony. At least six children live in a dormitory. Adolescent children are immature and have different personalities, so they need to spend more time running in with each other. Some netizens once "exposed" their boarding life: in the dormitory, you can't get good grades, grow well, dress well and use well. Deliberately pretending to be ugly and calling you crazy, deliberately pretending to be stupid and calling you Yin; You are dirty when you are untidy, and slutty when you are clean. On the surface, I am your own sister. When you are away, I will scold you in the dormitory, sow dissension and unite other dormitory people to hate you. This netizen's experience is not a case! In fact, the interpersonal relationship of junior and senior high school children is far more complicated than adults think! It is common to compete with each other, small groups and sow dissension behind their backs. For most children, boarding can only feel sadness and even cruelty. 2. Children who live in school with great learning pressure, whether in primary school or junior high school, can't escape the comparison of academic performance. Being in the same dormitory will even make the contrast more frequent and intense. Boarding students will always have greater learning pressure than day students. If they live in the dormitory more frequently, they are likely to have a psychological collapse because of their unsatisfactory exam results. These three families must not let their children live in school: most parents let their children board from their junior high school. In order to let children receive a better education, they choose to go to key junior high schools far from home. Moreover, in junior high school, parents can't continue to tutor their children, so they will choose to let their children board. But the reason why children need their parents is never academic counseling, but that they can "go home" every day and have spiritual comfort. If the family situation is similar to the following three, there is absolutely no need to send children to boarding school. 1. Kochi family If the parents graduated from a famous university, it is no problem to help their children with their homework in junior high school, and they can even be influenced by their family's high education and high culture. Especially if parents are particularly strong in a certain subject, such as good English, they can accompany their children to watch English movies outside the teaching materials, or they can often communicate in English at home. This kind of learning effect is much better than crazy brushing questions in school, and this kind of experience is impossible in boarding schools. 2. A family that loves reading For bookish children, boarding is equivalent to depriving them of the possibility of reading a lot. First, because the boarding schedule is strict, teachers do not allow children to read "extracurricular reading materials"; Secondly, the library of ordinary schools has a limited collection of books, and the books inside can't meet the large reading needs of such children at all. If your child loves reading, let him stay at home and travel in the world of books after finishing his homework. The charm of reading and the wealth it gives back to children are far more than you think. 3. Self-disciplined family For a child who is conscious enough, boarding is useless, and sometimes it even hinders his study. In boarding school, you must carry out the plan strictly according to the course and the teacher's arrangement, but at home you are free to arrange it. You can go to the Olympic math class on a fixed day, or you can practice the violin at home every day. These are not what a well-behaved boarding life can have. For self-disciplined and active principals and children, boarding actually binds them. Educator Suhomlinski said: The best boarding school can't replace mother. Therefore, children's golden growth period must be inseparable from the company of their families. If the child really goes abroad to study, a family with conditions may wish to rent a house near the school and spend his growth with the child. Every parent knows that when children go to college, they will really leave our arms and fly to the sky.