Every time I return to my hometown, I will see some old people sitting on the bridge. Some old people sit for a day without even changing places. People can't help wondering, why is this happening? The concentration is amazing.

Until today, when I saw a passage, I suddenly realized. The description is extremely apt, and even why the old man is so, the answers are all visible, all memories; What the heart thinks is the past; What the eyes can see is regret.

Yes, what we want most when we get old is the past. After investigation, most people regret that they didn't work harder when they were old and weak. I wasted this wonderful time and finally turned it into a past that will never return. This is the saddest thing in the world, and it is too late to regret it!

When I was a child, there was an old lady in my neighbor's house. When she was young, she was very agile. All her children are very capable and have settled in the city. Leaving her alone in the countryside (widowed in her early years), she was very lonely. Since she had a serious illness, she has been getting older and older until she can recover. When the children go back to the city to live, she is still alone.

Slowly, her hair turned white, her back was hunched, and her walking was not as agile as before, and she was very slow. Every time I sit on the bridge in the street and pass by my house, I will have a rest on the big stone in front of the city. Occasionally, when I saw her passing by, I went to the toilet to see her, but I didn't answer, just looked at her. Then she moved on. Every time, looking at her white-haired and rickety back, there is a snail-like pace moving step by step. I really want to do something for her, but I don't know what to do.

Looking at her quietly, looking at her back. Think of her eyes, emptiness, helplessness, and fatigue polished by years. Written on her face, body and temperament.

Once upon a time, she must be a smart girl with quick thinking. Get married when you grow up and raise children with your husband. She must have been very sad when her husband died. Wait until your children get married and set yourself free. I have to put up with the loneliness and helplessness of lonely old people.

When I grew up, I gradually understood the sincerity of the old lady. The more you experience, the more you can understand the old man's mind. That is a kind of helplessness, that is a kind of powerlessness, that is a kind of passivity;

Everyone will experience such great events as work, love, marriage and having children when they grow up, whether they are high or low, powerful or ordinary people. Since everyone will experience it, there will always be a choice. Maybe you are experiencing the pain of lovelorn, maybe you are experiencing the hardship of unemployment, maybe you are experiencing the misfortune of your family, but so what? Compared with time, the mortgage and car loan you worry about every day, whether you love it or not, are nothing.

It is better than anything to pursue something substantial when you are young. It is not important to earn less money at work. It is most important to be able to support yourself and learn a skill. Choosing a spouse looks mediocre, the economy is limited, it is not important to have no car or house, and filial piety is the most important; It doesn't matter if you can't afford a house at home. What matters is that the elderly and the whole family are healthy.

Don't focus on those vague and untrue problems.

We should focus on the future, refine our actions and distinguish between right and wrong. Then again, there is no right or wrong in this world. I say this objectively and philosophically. What we now call right and wrong, good and bad, are only relative. Compared with the society we live in, there are social factors and attributes, as well as a rule endowed by morality and ethics. Mainly reflected in the law, small aspects reflected in moral constraints. What is a good university? 2 1 1, did 985 go to a good university? What is a good job? High salary, close to home, is it a good job to earn more?

It seems wrong! Maybe A went to an ordinary junior college, but it was close to my hometown, and my family gave me an OFFER during my internship. So how does the university he went to define good or bad? B works in a first-tier city, with considerable income, but hard work, and his superiors deal with formalism. They are not good at communication, but they have to call a spade a spade socially. So what B is doing now must be a good job? The answers are mixed, perhaps only the parties are clear.

So, what I want to express is. Whatever you do, in this life. Everyone should feel it by themselves and feel comfortable. People should live for themselves. Not for anyone. Don't wait until you are old, old, weak, toothless and stiff, sitting in the street with empty eyes.

Sit for a day,

In my opinion, everything is a memory; What the heart thinks is the past; Looking around, what a pity!

Hou Xiaobin (Tuesday, 3 February, 20 19 65438)